Author	Thread: Would you marry a man your family didn't approve of?
Jeremiah21 View Profile History	Would you marry a man your family didn't approve of? Posted : 22 Oct, 2010 06:28 AM Would you ever consider marrying a man your family didn't approve of? (Parents, children or siblings) Post Reply
Jeremiah21 View Profile History	Would you marry a man your family didn't approve of? Posted : 22 Oct, 2010 06:29 AM I should have said a man or a woman. Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you marry a man your family didn't approve of? Posted : 22 Oct, 2010 07:04 AM I think it would depend on who is doing the disapproving. If it my parents, I would strongly consider their opinion. I don�t have any children, so I can�t speak from personal experience, but sometimes kids disapproval of a new spouse can be a selfish one. I think it is important to understand why the children object before you take their opinion into consideration. My pastor lost his wife to cancer, and before she passed away, she gathered all her children and told them that their father was not the kind of man who could be alone, and that they were to love his next wife and to not hate her for taking their mother�s place at his side. He was remarried in under a year after her death. Post Reply
cmseeker10 View Profile History	Would you marry a man your family didn't approve of? Posted : 22 Oct, 2010 07:13 AM Hi Jer,I would consider my parents reasons of disapproval in making my decissions but will do whatever I feel the Spirit is leading me to do.Like cobbler i can't say anything about children because I don't have any,just my thought.. Post Reply
Jeremiah21 View Profile History	Would you marry a man your family didn't approve of? Posted : 22 Oct, 2010 07:36 AM Mr. Cobbler: My children have been 100% right about both men that I was engaged to. They are only 12 & 16 and they gave me the reasons and they were completely right. I would trust their judgment before anyone on earth. Children have this special God given discernment. When my momma doesn't approve I don't proceed because she is a woman full of wisdom. My daddy on the other hand if I was robbing a bank would drive the get away car. :ROFL: That was very special how that woman handled her children. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Would you marry a man your family didn't approve of? Posted : 22 Oct, 2010 07:55 AM Well, I wouldn't marry a man anyways, but as far as women go, I can't imagine my parents disliking a girl for anything other than legitimate reasons. My friend Erin's parents don't like her husband, but that's because he's a teacher/coach, and they wanted her to marry a lawyer or doctor. Luckily my parents don't have arbitrary salary and vocational restrictions that they've pressed on me. Post Reply
Jeremiah21 View Profile History	Would you marry a man your family didn't approve of? Posted : 22 Oct, 2010 08:41 AM Tulip I did correct myself in my reply. I said man or woman. I am glad your parents don't have those restrictions for your mate. Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	Would you marry a man your family didn't approve of? Posted : 22 Oct, 2010 09:01 AM If my daughters didnt like him, there must be a good reason for it. If my mom didnt like him, well I dont think it would matter to me. My daddy liked everyone...and like Jeremiah said, I could rob a bank and my dad would've said "well you had your reasons, it wasnt your fault" Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Would you marry a man your family didn't approve of? Posted : 22 Oct, 2010 09:27 AM My mother is a very wise woman, so I would probably take her opinion into careful consideration...and then make my own decision based on her opinion, the opinions of friends and other relatives, and much prayer. I don't know if I would marry a man that my sisters disapproved of...my sisters and I have VERY different personalities, and so far have dated completely opposite types of men! I don't have kids, so that's irrelevant at this point. I don't quite know how I would handle it, though, if I were in that situation. I can speak from the child's perspective, though... I know that when my mom was good friends with a man (who expressed some interest in dating her) a couple years after my dad died (I was 12 when he died), I did NOT want her to get married again. I'd had a great father, and he was dead, and I didn't want another one. Yeah, I liked the guy a lot; he was a great guy, but I just didn't want another father. Turned out that the friendship never really went anywhere, so I never told my mom my feelings. A few years later, I realized that just because my mom might get a new husband, it didn't mean that I had to consider him to be a new father...after all, I was nearly an adult myself. Now I really wish that she could find someone to marry and spend the rest of her life with! Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you marry a man your family didn't approve of? Posted : 22 Oct, 2010 09:47 AM BC, that is what I meant by selfish reasons from the children. I�m not blaming you for your feelings BC, I can understand why you wouldn�t want another father, especially since he was a good father to you. If your children can come up with good reasons why you shouldn�t marry someone, then you should consider that. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Would you marry a man your family didn't approve of? Posted : 22 Oct, 2010 10:12 AM Oh I KNOW it was a selfish reason...that's why in told my story. To show that a child's perspective might not always be the most accurate or mature, and can change with time and maturity. I guess I didn't make that clear. If a child has a really good, legitimate reason for not approving of a potential step-parent, that's different and should be carefully considered...but for a lot of children like me, it will likely be a selfish reason, and their parents should be aware of that when making a decision. Post Reply

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