Author	Thread: do you want a Buddy or a mate?
Admin	do you want a Buddy or a mate? Posted : 8 Oct, 2010 05:48 PM Ok guys this bothers me.. I read so many profiles that say your interest are hunting fishing and sports. Do you want you mate to do these things like a buddy or are you happy to do them with your Male friends and spend time doing other things with your mate? also is this an all the time thing? do you watch sports every chance you get or is your live filled in around camping or hunting? sorry I really want to know how the men think about this.. GOD BLESS Post Reply
View Profile History	do you want a Buddy or a mate? Posted : 8 Oct, 2010 06:01 PM I would like for my wife to enjoy doing some things with me that I like. I would in turn do some things that she enjoys. It would be selfish of either one to only do those things that they enjoy and not do any of the things that their spouse enjoys. The answer to your question is, yes, most men would like for their wives to be their best friend, to hang out with them and enjoy doing some of the things that he enjoys. There is much more to a woman than just sex. As a side note, I hate the term �mate�. Makes it seem like there is only one purpose for a spouse. Husbands and wives are much more than just breeders. Post Reply
View Profile History	do you want a Buddy or a mate? Posted : 8 Oct, 2010 07:38 PM - " or a" + "and" = yes! Post Reply
cowgirl1984 View Profile History	do you want a Buddy or a mate? Posted : 8 Oct, 2010 09:16 PM I think there should be a combination of things couples do together and things they do separately. So I partially agree with Cobbler. I think that there should be shared interests done together, but guys need GUY TIME, and I don't know about other women, but I need my GIRL TIME! There are things that I would really want my significant other to do with me, but there are a couple things that I want to be my own! Things that I would do with just my friends, not him. I think it is healthy to spend a majority of your free time together, but I also think it is important to devote a decent amount of time to being with your friends. Not sure if that's what you're saying Cobbler, but it kind of sounded like you think husband and wife should do everything together all the time. Which if you like that and your future wife likes that, more power to you both :) Post Reply
View Profile History	do you want a Buddy or a mate? Posted : 9 Oct, 2010 01:54 AM I agree with Cobbler. There must be some give-and-take and there IS more to women than sex. I think part of the "iron sharpens iron" thing in marriage happens when a couple truly takes the time to enter into the other's world. There's an aspect of that that requires us to lay aside our own desires and serve the other and see a different perspective of things. To that extent, I think it's good if a couple does have some different interests and differences in things like personality types and love languages... In those differences, the two can really complement each other, strengthen each other, and learn from each other. But what cowgirl said is good too; it's important to have some time apart, as well. When I draw, I can't stand having anyone right there breathing down my neck! Haha... That would be an alone activity for me, unless I was just mindlessly sketching... Then he could be there =) Post Reply
View Profile History	do you want a Buddy or a mate? Posted : 9 Oct, 2010 02:00 AM Oh, and you can think of this way too... If we look at the analogy of marriage being a picture of the love between Christ and the church... God knows us completely and we should be delighting in Him completely. The relationship there doesn't start on Sunday morning and then go on hiatus for the rest of the week after the church service is over. It's a 24/7 thing that impacts every of life. And for us to really know and experience God fully we need to let Him in to every part of our lives and our hearts. With a husband and wife, it's the same thing. Part of that becoming one and knowing each other is experiencing each other fully... not just in the bedroom but in everything. Post Reply
DEEDEE72 View Profile History	do you want a Buddy or a mate? Posted : 9 Oct, 2010 03:05 AM I usually run away from profiles that say a guy is outdoorsy. I would never see him. I do not like the out doors and could not imagine going camping. I went fishing once with someone I was dating and was so excited. It was 5 am and I thought it would be a great time to chat. He kept telling me to shish because I was scarring the fish away. I thought wow men go fishing together and just sit quietly? We did not catch any fish as I was bored by the silence. The cold and the mosquito bites. I do expect to do some things with my husband. But I also expect him he will want to do guy things and some things alone Post Reply
View Profile History	do you want a Buddy or a mate? Posted : 9 Oct, 2010 04:23 AM DeeDee, you are so right about making sure that you are not turned off by those things that he would like to do together. Obviously for you, doing outdoor things is not a good idea. As for me, I am ok with outdoor activities, all the way up until the bugs start biting. That is why in some of the other posts, when women ask the men what they would like to see in their profiles, the guys usually ask for things that they enjoy doing. That way they will know if you are willing to go fishing with them or not. Oh, and yes, guys do like to go out and spend time fishing and saying very little to each other so as not to scare away the fish. This is a good example of the difference between the two different types of quality time. On type is where you spend time talking and getting to know each other. The other type of quality time is doing activities together, not necessarily talking, but accomplishing something together. Cowgirl, I wasn�t trying to say that I wanted my wife to do EVERYTHING with me, just a fair amount. Most guys need their alone time. How much alone time is something that needs to be worked out before marriage. Post Reply
SilverFire View Profile History	do you want a Buddy or a mate? Posted : 9 Oct, 2010 04:51 AM Me, I would like to spend more time outdoors than I do now, but I've never been big on hunting and fishing. Astronomy, yeah, that I could get into. LARPing, yeah, that would rock. So not all of us guys are the same. And here's another mind-blower: I HATE SPORTS, except for baseball. Even then, baseball for me is about the whole Americana aspect of it, the smell of hot dogs, the stadium, the seventh-inning stretch, and so on. I personally find people who are fanatics about sports to be making idols out of them. But to get back to the original question -- I would like for my wife to enjoy a lot of my interests; not every single one of them, but most. Post Reply
View Profile History	do you want a Buddy or a mate? Posted : 9 Oct, 2010 05:04 AM Lightning bolt! Lightning bolt! Lightning bolt! :ROFL::ROFL: Post Reply
View Profile History	do you want a Buddy or a mate? Posted : 9 Oct, 2010 08:35 AM What's larping??? And I understand where you're coming from, DeeDee, though I would like to try some things. I would love it if a guy would take me fishing. I've always wanted to go. And I've never been camping! Yes, I know... everybody goes camping, but my family didn't... I think camping sounds romantic, as long as I have my antihistamines handy! I want to snuggle under the stars all night with somebody. Post Reply

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