Author	Thread: Intimidation and Christian, professional women
Admin	Intimidation and Christian, professional women Posted : 14 Sep, 2007 09:52 AM Are Christian guys intimidated by an independent, professional, financial-stable, Christian woman? I find that most Christian guys either shy away from you or they just don't come up to you at all. Am I giving off a vibe that tells them to not come up to me? Please tell me what you think. Looking forward to your comments. Sincerely, Classiechristian :nicenurse: Post Reply
Cory View Profile History	Intimidation and Christian, professional women Posted : 14 Sep, 2007 11:01 AM Some Guys might be, but A true Christian guy shouldnt be. it shoudlnt matter what carrer you have or how independent you are. The only thing that should matter is that you Share the same Love for Christ as they do. as for you putting off the wrong signals, i dont know. maybe just go up and start talking to them and then its a little easier to see if they are interested in you. all guys handle things different. you also have to remember that God has someone picked out for you already. so if there is a guy that isnt interested even after you go up to him and start talking to him, its ok. If anything make a new friend, you can bever have to many friends. if he is a True Christian guy and he is not interested in a realation ship "some guys are not" He will try to become friends. you can never have to many Christian Friends. Give it a try, insted of waiting for them to come to you, you go to them. :) Take care Keep your Focus on Christ -Cory Post Reply
View Profile History	Intimidation and Christian, professional women Posted : 14 Sep, 2007 05:20 PM I beg to differ with anyone who says "A true Christian shouldn't be" since this makes it a requirement for salvation. However, I would say that a mature Christian would not be. The Proverbs 31 woman was quite independent and not only took care of the home but also went out and earned money. :waving: Post Reply
Cory View Profile History	Intimidation and Christian, professional women Posted : 14 Sep, 2007 10:56 PM ok... if you look at it that way. Post Reply
View Profile History	Intimidation and Christian, professional women Posted : 16 Sep, 2007 10:06 AM That's a really good question. Obviously no single guy can accurately represent all males view on the matter. However, speaking for myself and likely many other men out there I can say this - while a women's professional success may not intimidate many males, it can connotate a lack of dedication in more "traditional" roles. I am not saying you, or any other women, by virtue of being successful, is less of a mother, lover, caregiver, cook, etc., however, I think it does send signals of that women's commitments. In a nutshell, if many guys are looking for partners to compliment their provider roles, being a women who already has that area covered might deter men. After all, a solid defense is often more important than having 2 all-star quarterbacks. Hope that makes sense. God bless. Post Reply
View Profile History	Intimidation and Christian, professional women Posted : 17 Sep, 2007 06:12 PM brief answer: YES. I have a very close friend who was a VP of a large communications company, and is now retired... she claims to be the Queen of the First Date Club... She just NEVER gets second dates. Goes through men like old socks. Problem: same as some guys with the same background and educational foundation: Attitude. RX: don't dummy down. Don't start dressing tastelessly; Don't lie about achievements. DO just be a person. A genuine, transparent, risk taking, kind, human being. To quote one of Julia Roberts lines when talking as a movie star to lowly book seller Hugh Grant: Sometimes it is just a girl saying to a guy, please love me. Simple as that.. Hard to swallow high achievement, or shrug when you want to really continue on and tell this potential mate how really important and accomplished you are... but the name of the program is "person to person", not persona to persona; or you check my bio/resume while I check yours... or my people will get ahold of your people... Nay, it is One Honest Christian looking to connect honestly and within the guidance of the Holy Spirit, one other Honest Christian. There still is not a positive correlation between being educated and being the world's best lover/husband/wife/housekeeper... and for sure none exists between being a hotshot in the business world and holding a family together... The problem is real, but doesn't have to be your personal problem. Prayer helps, and so does introspection, and so does having a friend advise you about your attitude... attitude IS everything. Gene the gentle Viking aka mradventure Post Reply
View Profile History	Intimidation and Christian, professional women Posted : 17 Sep, 2007 10:19 PM Eustace: I just loved your response... right on, that was very accurate and well said!!! Gene aka mradventure Post Reply
View Profile History	Intimidation and Christian, professional women Posted : 28 Sep, 2007 11:06 PM The proverbs 31 woman oversaw the care of her home as she worked alongside and delegated to the staff regarding the care of her home (cooking and cleaning etc.) while she went out and negotiated the purchase of land to further the wealth of her household and then managed that property. She didn't cook, clean and work as women are expected to today. She was held in high regard and made decisions regarding how their combined wealth was spent without consulting her husband. As described in the scripture she was an extrememly independant decision making chick. If a man truly follows the scripture he is giving up a lot of control to his wife, that alone is intimidating for anyone. I have been self-employed most of my adult life and I can honestly say it's not just Christian men that are intimidated by a successful woman. Men in general like to be the ones in control and want to be needed. when you are faced with a woman that doesn't need a man to be in control of everything it's got to be a little intimidating. God Bless, g38 Post Reply
InHimIServe View Profile History	Intimidation and Christian, professional women Posted : 12 Jan, 2008 08:49 AM This is an area that has fueled many arguments between men and women. Many men take the scripture out of context when it says that women should be submissive to their husbands. If you read 1Peters 3:1-7 it talks about the relationship even with non-believers. But in 1 Corinthians 13 it defines what love should be and the relationship that a husband should have with his wife, as Christ loved the church. You must understand that God holds the man responsible for the spiritual growth of the family, if he is a Christian, when it talks about being submissive, that doesn't mean that you bow down and kiss his feet, it means that man is the head of the family in spiritual matters and the wife follows his lead. It is also stated in scripture that the two will become one, one flesh, together making a whole. You need to put your faith in Christ, and hand this over to Him to take care of. He will provide for your needs, don't get me wrong, that doesn't include your wants and desires. If you listen to anything anyone says, please hear this, if Christ is not number one in yours and his life, if He is not the focus of both, and together you are not trying to serve Him then you are going to have trouble. As my pastor said, your number one goal in life is to serve Christ, "Love the Lord God with all your heart, all your soul and all your might" you make it right with Him, all else will fall in place. Remember, we are human, born to sin and wicked to the core, only by God's grace are we able to be washed by the blood of His son to be righteous in His eyes. Let Jesus pick the man He wants you to be with, He doesn't need any help, He already knows what He wants you to have. Here is where faith comes in, to sit back and not worry about it, and let Christ do the driving. Post Reply
View Profile History	Intimidation and Christian, professional women Posted : 31 Jan, 2008 04:38 PM I would say it doesn't matter, but thats just me. A good career and financial freedom is given from above so consider it a gift and allways remember who its from. I agree that a mature christian won't think it will matter and it really shouldn't. Besides when were standing before the throne of judgment the Lord is going to say I don't care if you were a CEO, a lawyer, a doctor, a factory worker, worked at a fast food joint, he is going to ask what did you do for me. Did you use your spiritual gifts and talk to strangers about me(Christ). Were in the body of Christ and may have many different jobs but we all work toghter some how. Post Reply
View Profile History	Intimidation and Christian, professional women Posted : 16 Feb, 2008 09:06 AM actually, that is a very interesting question.. I was given an opportunity to study in SWBTS in Forthworth, Texas to take up Doctorate in Church Music and a lot of guys told me to get married first or think about it because if I will finish my Doctorate this time, I might end up single for the rest of my life lol.. I do not really know.. (or wanna believe) that men get intimidated by women who are career- oriented or highly educated.. maybe in Asian cotext, it's okay or more believablle but does that happen in Western culture too?? Just curious hehhe :):glow: Post Reply

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