Author	Thread: Not quite a beauty queen
pokaspots334 View Profile History	Not quite a beauty queen Posted : 22 Sep, 2010 10:57 AM I have been a member on this site for awhile now, and have talked to a few different guys who are mostly looking at the outward appearance. Why do most men only look at the physical instead of the spiritual side of a woman? I would like to know what a man's deffinition of physical attraction is. I just want to understand!! :) Post Reply
View Profile History	Not quite a beauty queen Posted : 22 Sep, 2010 11:23 AM Why do you think they solely are looking at physical attraction? There could be many things that causes communication to end. Post Reply
View Profile History	Not quite a beauty queen Posted : 22 Sep, 2010 12:06 PM I have found (men don't get me!) that the younger the man the more important physical attributes are. We have all heard that men are visual, but men consider other qualities as well. Again men don't get me, but my theory is this; most men see their cars etc..as extentions of themselves. A woman represents them and just like they want a cool, slick, 'pimp my ride' car, they want a lady that looks good on their arm, someone they can be proud of. (Dang, I know I'm going to get blasted, but I can't seem to help myself, she whispered to herself. :laugh:) I mean, I want a guy that cares about his appearance and takes care of himself. I don't have specifics for physical attributes. I've asked God for a man that likes everything about me. My walk, the fact that I'm mixed Indian/white/black heritage, my thick body type and everything that makes me uniquely me. I believe He will. :rocknroll: Post Reply
View Profile History	Not quite a beauty queen Posted : 22 Sep, 2010 12:12 PM God has designed men to be attracted to physical beauty, there is no way of getting around it. Normally men speak often of it because it is important to them, and also because it is the easiest thing to note about a woman. It takes about a half a second for a guy to figure out if a woman is attractive to him or not. It takes a lot of time and interaction to find out about her spiritual side. I know that a lot of women struggle with appreciating who God made them. They don�t feel that they can measure up to all the really beautiful women that they see around them, and they just give up. One thing I want to encourage you with is that men are not as picky as you may think. If you ask a guy what he likes, he usually will describe to you his ideal, or perfect woman. That doesn�t mean that is all he finds attractive, that is just his ideal. Really, what guys find most attractive about a woman is how she feels about her own body. Stop worrying about how God didn�t make you taller, or more slender, or curvier, or whatever. Keep a healthy weight, learn to buy clothes that flatter your body shape, and put some effort into making yourself presentable (you don�t have to spend hours every day doing this, just make it look like you care about yourself). After that, leave it up to God to bring someone your way who will appreciate the beauty that he has created. Oh, and just a side note: Physical appearance will get a guy�s attention, but it is her spiritual side that will keep it. Just look at all the beautiful famous women out there who can�t keep a husband. Post Reply
View Profile History	Not quite a beauty queen Posted : 22 Sep, 2010 12:14 PM Well said, Cobbler. Your user name makes me hungry. Post Reply
View Profile History	Not quite a beauty queen Posted : 22 Sep, 2010 02:45 PM Actually, in my case, it refers to a guy who repairs shoes. It's aplay on my last name. Post Reply
View Profile History	Not quite a beauty queen Posted : 22 Sep, 2010 02:48 PM pokaspots. If all the guy thinks about is a woman's apperance, then yes, that is a problem. All I am saying is that you can't throw everything out and say that a guy shouldn't care about a woman's appearance, that they should only look at their spiritual side. That is not the way God designed us. Post Reply
springrose10 View Profile History	Not quite a beauty queen Posted : 22 Sep, 2010 06:18 PM Alyssa, I'm sharing Loony's question. Are you sure it's physical attraction? When I read your screen name, I instantly wondered if you were Wiccan. So, unless you are crazy about Halloween and say so in your profile opening, a lot of godly men may be passing you over. Just a thought, Rose Post Reply
SilverFire View Profile History	Not quite a beauty queen Posted : 23 Sep, 2010 05:37 PM Cobbler nails it. Beauty is a highly individual thing, to guys. For instance, modesty is a big turn-on for me. So are long dresses. So is gothic clothing. Not what you expected, right? Here's something else to blow your mind: I've found a woman more attractive when carried herself with confidence. This made up for other things. As for attraction, girls, you will never win this one. A guy MUST find you attractive if he is going to date you. Now, I won't be a hypocrite. I've accepted that income is important to women, as are other things like owning houses and leadership positions. Those things mean nothing to me, but I do realize that women value them. Post Reply
rickc View Profile History	Not quite a beauty queen Posted : 23 Sep, 2010 06:32 PM Chiming in (hello). I recommend this forum post ALL the time (to folks online and IRL): "Compatibility Considerations Before Marriage" by Steve Gregg -- http://www.wvss.com/forumc/viewtopic.php?t=1666 Number 10 has: Physical attraction, affection & sex___Long-term mutual attraction___(Do I want to look at this person for the rest of my life?). It's been mentioned "men are visual" (that God "wired" us like that. Nothing wrong with it, and so on. Just how it is). Anyways, my personal feelings about "physical attraction" is 1) I will naturally be attracted to very good looking women (if they are that on the outside, that just happens), 2) as a Christian I must realize this and that "looks" don't really mean that much, especially if any given woman isn't a good woman (on the inside), 3) Thus, if I find that I could "look at her for the rest of my life" without being repulsed (and "beauty is subjective" to a degree with all of us)---she doesn't have to be a "10" or look like a Hollywood model. "Essentially appealing" is all I need. Let's say "she" is maybe like a "4" on the outside but is just a totally Cool Lady. Okay, now she's an "11"! (I've written and met "10" looking ladies who, otherwise, weren't appealing at all on the insides). We all need wisdom and common sense in this stuff. Just some thoughts, thanks, have a good day! :purpleangel: Post Reply
View Profile History	Not quite a beauty queen Posted : 28 Sep, 2010 02:50 PM It's different for different men. :) Post Reply

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