Author	Thread: food & fur
Admin	food & fur Posted : 28 Aug, 2010 10:47 AM Questions: 1. Would you date/marry a girl who has a lot of food allergies or is just a really picky eater? Would that dampen your lifestyle to be w/ someone who is very *exclusive* with her food choices and perhaps doesn't really want to cook some of the things your really enjoy? Example: Would you want to be w/ someone who hates seafood if you LOVE seafood? Dealbreaker? 2. Would you date/marry a girl who had pet allergies or just didn't like pets? How much would that bother you if you really want to have a dog or cat or whatever but your wife couldn't because of allergies? If you had a furry pet already, would you give him away if things became serious with an allergic girl? Or, would you just not be interested in the 1st place? Post Reply
skinnywhiteboy View Profile History	food & fur Posted : 28 Aug, 2010 11:50 AM If a girl is born with food allergies, I'd never treat her badly or think less of her for it. If she's a picky eater, to me it means she's very "privileged" In her own mind. Means she won't be grateful for what she has, always looking for "more." Same thing with pets, if she's allergic, she's born that way, and there's nothing you can do about it. If she just doesn't like pets, well then it'd depend which one I had first. Cause if I had the pet first, that means I made a deal with the S.P.C.A. that I'd keep the animal, and I'd have made the same promise to God, that I'd care for His creation the best way I knew how. I know this sounds kind of a "tangent" thing to say, but I consider it "racist" to not date someone because of the way they're born (whether it be the color of their skin or the foods they're allergic to, God made them that way.) HOWEVER, if the girl is just picky, and doesn't like animals, I really don't see her as a viable mate because of the way SHE made HERSELF. Hope that makes sense! Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	food & fur Posted : 28 Aug, 2010 01:31 PM I don't really like most animals other than dogs, and I don't see myself getting one for a while, so if a girl didn't like animals, it wouldn't be a big deal at all. She better like seafood though, because, like I said in one of the other threads, I make a mean shrimp alfredo! Post Reply
View Profile History	food & fur Posted : 28 Aug, 2010 02:48 PM @skinny- That's an interesting viewpoint. I'm not sure that I would call someone who isn't crazy about animals "picky." And, if we were going to say that, then I think the reverse could also be true: That someone who demands the presence of pets is picky. Either way, someone is being particular about what they want. Assuming that allergies weren't an issue, I think the question is: Would a guy give up his pet for a girl? And also: Would a girl be willing to accept a pet when she doesn't like animals? I will say that I have pet allergies and I've talked to A LOT of guys online over the years... And I have yet to meet one w/ a pet who was still interested in me after explaining my allergies. They all chose their pets over pursuing a relationship w/ me. And I'm not saying that a guy should ditch his pet just because he meets an allergic girl, but it seems odd to me that he wouldn't even consider it as a possibility later on down the road if things were to progress w/ the relationship. Maybe I just don't get the pet thing, but I don't understand why a guy would choose an animal over a woman. I would really love to have a seahorse, but it's not a dealbreaker for me if the BF doesn't want one =) Post Reply
View Profile History	food & fur Posted : 28 Aug, 2010 02:50 PM Oh, I wouldn't say that a picky eater is ungrateful for what she has. Sure, it can be taken to an extreme and she should be open to the nourishment provided her, but I don't think it's a sin to not like a particular food. Post Reply
View Profile History	food & fur Posted : 28 Aug, 2010 05:09 PM Well it's not like I'm going to magically stop liking the food I like or the pets I like, even if I wanted to try. Those things are something I enjoy and get excited about and if the other person doesn't share that, it becomes all about them and their lameness I would otherwise not have to experience. Post Reply
View Profile History	food & fur Posted : 28 Aug, 2010 06:24 PM I can't believe you just said that, Brandon. This reminds me of the guy I dated last summer... One of the reasons he was filing for divorce from his wife is because she'd had a back energy and couldn't play tennis w/ him anymore, and he wanted someone who could be excited about tennis w/ him and just didn't want to put up w/ her lameness. Maybe you'll meet the perfect gal someday and fall in love and then she'll tell you that she had 20 goats. And that the 20 goats have the run of the house and that she can't possibly go on a honeymoon w/out her 20 goats. And then when you balk at the idea, she'll say that you're just making it all about you and your lameness. Post Reply
View Profile History	food & fur Posted : 28 Aug, 2010 06:31 PM Whatever helps you sleep at night. Post Reply
View Profile History	food & fur Posted : 28 Aug, 2010 06:53 PM I mean "wow", is it still ok to say what we think? How about using common sense? Post Reply
View Profile History	food & fur Posted : 28 Aug, 2010 07:32 PM Brandon, I appreciate the diversity of opinions expressed on this site, including yours. But that doesn't mean that I agree w/ everyone's opinions :goofball: Yes, common sense is important. And I think that if we have common sense, then we understand that life happens and we walk into relationships knowing that flexibility and compromise are going to be two very important keys to making it work. And it's impossible to agree on absolutely everything before you get married, I think. Even if you do, people change and circumstances change. You could marry someone perfectly healthy who loves dogs and then she could develop an allergy to dogs... There's no guarantee that the marriage you have in your head is going to be the exact one you're living through later on. It's just so important that our priorities are what really matters and not things like food and pets. It's okay to want someone w/ common interests, but my opinion is that we set ourselves up for trouble when we turn those preferences into priorities and then think that those who don't match our preferences are lame. My BF loves scuba diving and I'm sure he'd love a wife who would do that with him. And while I enjoy hearing about his scuba diving, I'm not real keen on giving it a try myself (and it wouldn't be a great idea probably w/ my health issues anyway). But he doesn't see that as a priority. And even if I did like scuba diving and said I would dive w/ him, I know that he'd be okay w/ it if I changed my mind later or couldn't because of health issues. I don't have this fear w/ him that I change my likes/dislikes or have health issues or if some kind of tragedy happens to us, that he's suddenly not going to like me anymore. And I don't know you well enough for this to all be directed specifically towards you, Brandon. I suppose I just find it disheartening when I see guys who think less of women who don't match their preferences. But that's just me. Post Reply
SilverFire View Profile History	food & fur Posted : 28 Aug, 2010 08:37 PM 1) Probably not. And I don't say that out of any kind of dislike or bias, but just knowing that it'd be difficult for me -- and her. We'd both be unhappy if we had big conflicts about what we liked to eat. I'd hate to have to steal out of the house to go get some shrimp and then come back smelling like shrimp and making her break out in spots. It'd just cause too much angst all the way around. 2) I couldn't -- unless I got clear and specific direction from God that He would provide good owners for my pets. I just couldn't dump them in a shelter and hope. I do have a responsibility to them, which isn't the same level of responsibility I have towards humans, true, but I have a charge nonetheless. I'd also miss them something fierce. This will sound jaded and cynical, but my pets' love is unconditional and assured; when you're going into a relationship, it's one big question mark. I'd be giving up the known (and the good) for the unknown which is likely to fail and leave scars. I'm not ruling it out, but it's unlikely. Post Reply

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