2. If she wants 4, and I want 2, it would seem that 3 would be a suitable compromise. However, if she couldn't be okay with 3, it would probably cause serious problems. I like kids, but I've never wanted a lot of them.
3. I wouldn't NOT adopt, but it's not really in the plan immediately. My mom is adopted, so if we ended up adopting a little girl, I'd definitely name her after my mom.
4. I doubt I would leave my wife, but depending on the situation, I might be incredibly upset. If it was really an accident, then I can't blame her. However, if she stashed a sample before I got a vasectomy and impregnated herself or something. we would need some serious counseling.
5. Of course not. We'd probably adopt in that case.
Nope, I don't see a problem with it. It's just a more long-term form of contraception after I've already had several kids. Are you really going to say that older couples are outside of God's will since they aren't being fruitful anymore?
2. Would you date and/or marry someone who wanted a different # of children than you do? Would you try to compromise or is that a dealbreaker? It would depend on how many, but I could compromise to a degree. I think the highest I could go would be 4, but I don't think I'll have to. It's nice to find someone like-minded:hearts:.
3. Would you adopt? Yep.
4. Would you leave your wife if she got pregnant after the 2 of you agreed to not have children? No. Only if the baby wasn't half mine.
5. Would you leave your wife if you agreed to have children but then she couldn't get pregnant or carry a baby to term? No. That would be a pretty lame reason to leave the "love of my life".
Thanks for the responses so far. They're interesting =) I felt kinda silly putting #4 and #5 there, but I've heard of this happening quite often actually =(
@Marianna- You can comment on my threads anytime. We all comment on the reverse sides here anyway, so no worries!
@Tulip- LOL... So, I was reading the bit about naming an adopted daughter (should there be one) after your mother and was thinking, "Aw, that's so sweet." And then I read your #4 and just about fell on the floor ! A sample?! LOL That sounds like a good plot for a Lifetime movie! I haven't heard of anyone doing that, but I have heard of people poking holes in their barrier methods of birth control. Situations like that would definitely require counseling... !
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RE: vasectomies
While I think it would be a difficult decision to come to, I would be okay with my husband getting a vasectomy AFTER we were very sure we were done making babies. To be honest, though, I've really gone back-and-forth on the birth control issue. Back when I was in college, I was convinced that I never wanted to be a mother. I started out college as pre-law and saw children as something that would interfere with being an attorney. And then my life kinda fell apart and changed my thinking on a lot of things, and eventually I came to the opinion that I didn't think birth control was Biblical. Granted, I had decided that I loved babies and that I wanted 7 of them(!), so it didn't seem unrealistic to not use birth control. In the past year or two, though, I've decided that birth control is Biblical. I think couples really just need to bring their lives before the Lord in all areas of decision-making, including family planning. God's plan for each couple is unique, I think. With me, my health has gone psycho in the past 2 years and I've actually been advised by a couple different doctors to not get pregnant (which was heartbreaking, because I have some serious baby envy going on). Taking that into account, I would question the wisdom in my future hubby and I just throwing caution to the wind completely...
Oh, and I don't want 7 babies anymore... The more I recognize the responsibility of mothering a child Biblically, I've decided that 1-4 babies would be a better number! =)
Yeah...it does seem like some people are into "baby collecting" and I think they forget about the responsibility they have of raising another human soul to follow God. It is a scary job, and I think people should go into it with that realization. Almost with "reverence"...or something...
There's no need to go into details, but I've heard plenty of stories of the "creative" (read: incredibly deceitful and manipulative) ways some women have gotten themselves pregnant.
As for going from "awwww" to extremely hard, I take that as quite a compliment. Predictable was never my style!
! A sample?! LOL That sounds like a good plot for a Lifetime movie! I haven't heard of anyone doing that, but I have heard of people poking holes in their barrier methods of birth control. Situations like that would definitely require counseling... !