Author	Thread: feelings
anyann View Profile History	feelings Posted : 19 Mar, 2010 01:34 PM why do guys don't like to talk about their feelings with a woman? is it considered as some kind of weakness? respect Ann Post Reply
View Profile History	feelings Posted : 19 Mar, 2010 04:22 PM Pretty good question. I hope I can give a pretty good answer. This was a topic brought up in one of my classes in school. Without goning into the specifics, men are wired differently than women. A part of the brain,Corpus Callusum,the part that connects the left side to the right side, is larger in women's brains than in men's. The theory as I understand it is men can't think and feel at the same time. According to theorists, men naturally separate their feelings from what they are thinking. Thus, creating a reluctance to have those mushy little " I wanna talk" discussions some women are so fond of.While some men are more sensitive than others, the majority would just rather show our love and tenderness in other ways. It's not that most of us have anything to hide or we feel vulnerable and exposed, it's just one of the many differences that make us different than women. Another reason is, --esp. for me, is some of us are afraid of putting our foot in our mouths and saying the wrong thing. A lot of times we tend to go way out of the way to keep from saying something we are afraid may be hurtful or taken the wrong way and end up in the doghouse. So, that being said, value the little things we do to show our love, it may be a simple gesture, a nibble on the ear, flowers for no reason, a foot massage, reaching for your hand in the middle of the mall, or just the rare times some uf us say "I love you" without being coaxed. That's what we're best at. Hope this helped. Post Reply
View Profile History	feelings Posted : 19 Mar, 2010 07:25 PM well said edw. we have feelings. we just don't naturally express them the same way women do. we can only think or feel so much before we FEEL like have to take action and do something about it. that's how we express them. which is it's so good for men and women to be with each other because these expressions compliment each other so well when met in the middle. Post Reply
View Profile History	feelings Posted : 19 Mar, 2010 07:41 PM i'd also like to say expressing one's feelings, either through word or action, is not the same thing as communication. communication, to me anyway, is making sure you understand that person and that they understand you. Post Reply
View Profile History	feelings Posted : 19 Mar, 2010 11:10 PM Hey Remp!! :waving: "communication, to me anyway, is making sure you understand that person and that they understand you" Understand what? Just asking... :) T Post Reply
View Profile History	feelings Posted : 20 Mar, 2010 01:48 AM level of interest i guess Post Reply
View Profile History	feelings Posted : 20 Mar, 2010 05:09 AM Thanks, Remp. I hope I didn't give the impression that men don't have feelings or are incapable of expressing them(See what I mean about putting my foot in my mouth), We have feeling, some of us are a little better at expressing them than others. Sometimes we have trouble putting our thoughts into words. Sometimes our timing might be off as well. Sometimes we are afraid of saying too much. So.....with that last thought, I'll let someone else give it a shot. :goofball: Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	feelings Posted : 20 Mar, 2010 07:02 AM edw, I thought you put it very well, as did Remp. Thanks guys! :applause: Post Reply
anyann View Profile History	feelings Posted : 20 Mar, 2010 11:37 AM Thanks edw and remp for your strength and courage to enlighten us about what happens "on the other side of the rock''. It is a man's charm to be tough and tender - I mean his ability to get in touch and express his feelings. Really grateful that you reminded to notice and value the little things men do to show their love. It's so different that we sometimes can miss them. Ann Post Reply
View Profile History	feelings Posted : 20 Mar, 2010 01:07 PM Hey Anyann-- I have a question for You, do you think men are any different in Latvia or Estonia than they are over here? How are they at expressing their feelings? Any big differences in culture over there? Just curious. Thanks- Post Reply
anyann View Profile History	feelings Posted : 20 Mar, 2010 01:29 PM I have a question for You, do you think men are any different in Latvia or Estonia than they are over here? How are they at expressing their feelings? Any big differences in culture over there? Just curious. Thanks- answer - It seems that men as men are not a lot different but there are some cultural differences. Men over there seem to be more open to speak about their inner life i. e. open their souls. Just my opinion :) Post Reply

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