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Posted : 6 Feb, 2010 06:53 AM

How would you feel if a girl asked you out? I mean, like, in real life?



Wouldn't that make the guy feel less manly, as in, how in the world is this girl asking me out while I sit here listening, then look at how she comes up with a date, place and time while I just sit here and decide on whether to agree or not?



O_O



I don't know about y'all, but from where I'm from, the girl is never supposed to ask a guy out, EVER, and I just ask myself whyyyyyyy? And this has just become subconscious culture over time because like I just mentioned, it's somewhat like a huge men-demoralizer to do such a thing xd



Just wanted to hear your opinions on this!



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Posted : 6 Feb, 2010 07:09 AM

I don't think it matters one way or the other, some guys would remain single for life if they didn't have the women push for a relationship.

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Posted : 6 Feb, 2010 07:52 AM

To me it's neither good nor bad. I'm always up for an adventure. :goofball:

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Posted : 6 Feb, 2010 07:55 AM

plus if a guy feels less manly because of that is he really a man? Sometimes it's fun to be playfully challenged and she forces you to say "Now look here missy..." :goofball:

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Posted : 6 Feb, 2010 08:45 AM

Well...I never understood the "hunter" mentality men are supposed to have...probably because I'm a vegetarian, but it just sounds like something straight from the evolutionary theory...like men are supposed to be some kind of blood-lusting cavemen instead of the gardeners God created them to be. Anyway, there are a lot of traditions that humanity has picked up that are completely unnecessary and...sad...if you think about them...and I don't think a girl asking a guy out is a horrible thing. I know guys are supposed to have this thing about running a girl down and pouncing on her until she gives in...but every time I notice...the girl is, more often then not, the one expressing interest in the first place. Whether its a look, or the way they talk, or body language, or laughter...a guy usually gets some kind of hint that you're interested...why not a question? If you feel bad about it, ask him out and let him pay for everything :laugh:. But really, if you drop some hints...he'll probably ask you out anyway. If he misses or ignores the hints...you might want to think about how much you really want to go out with him. Anyway...I don't think the bible ever said "Thou shalt not ask a guy out". Just don't be too aggressive...that goes for everybody...





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Posted : 6 Feb, 2010 10:41 AM

Hey if she likes me, but doesn't think I'm worth the time and energy to tell me, how am I supposed to know?

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Posted : 6 Feb, 2010 01:08 PM

I have no problem with a guy asking a girl out or a girl asking a guy out. The problem I have with this issue is that it seems to me in a world where more and more women are pushing for "equal" rights (which I think they deserve), that when it comes to dating and making first moves "all" women are "old fashioned"!?!? How come women get to to go from one side of their arguement to the other? It seems to me that if you want to go out with someone, ask!! I guess I just don't understand the arguement of being old fashioned only when it applies to dating. Just my thoughts...

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Posted : 6 Feb, 2010 07:26 PM

Based on the scenario you presented??? I would answer....



Woe unto the man who would ever go out with such a woman.....



Only two things can happen as a result....



Scenario one.... Any man going out with a woman who is that adept at 'taking charge' from soup to nuts, in the asking, to the planning, to the running of the whole thing can be guaranteed that she is also adept at having the EXACT wedding date already planted in her mind...the EXACT date when the kids will be coming... the EXACT date as to when her career will flourish..... and the EXACT DATE when she plans on leaving said Beta dude once she finally turns the tables on him and tells him he NEVER TAKES CHARGE OF ANYTHING while conveniently stripping him of his genitalia in the process of the relationship!!!



Scenario two...... Any man going out with such a woman that adept and aggressive can be guaranteed to come home one night to his own private house and find a bunny boiling on the stove should he start to get a little tired of always being told where to be and at what time to HAVE FUN and suddenly want a break from her..........

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Posted : 6 Feb, 2010 11:00 PM

When it comes to flirting or picking up on the subtle hints that women use to let men know that theyre interested, Im blind as a bat. It helps when they come right out and tell me or actually ask me out.

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Posted : 6 Feb, 2010 11:05 PM

Well....I'm pretty sure a girl can ask a guy out without him losing any body parts...but since you can see the future of these 2 apparently solitary scenarios...I'll leave you to it. I just don't think there's much biblical foundation to the "girls should sit and wait for a aggressive caveman to pounce on them" scenario that I assume you're presenting. Personally, I think there are two extremes...a super aggressive dude, and a super aggressive girl...both are extreme, but there's a cool little place I like to call "The Middle", where everything is awesome and no one feels kicked around.





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Posted : 6 Feb, 2010 11:39 PM

Yep, men are lugs. Don't be shy about asking one out.



In technical terms what you described is called being "co-dependent". Whenever we (me included) tailor our communications based on how we think the other person will respond is just co-dependent, dishonest and manipulative.



Go for it!



Tom

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