Author	Thread: Is it normal for men stop talking after good communication?
Admin	Is it normal for men stop talking after good communication? Posted : 30 Jan, 2010 07:29 PM Hi, I haven't posted on these forums... but I really would like to know if it's a big deal, or not, if a man who appears to like a girl in all general respects, stops messaging her after 2 weeks or so? I met a nice guy back in late December. We exchanged some messages on here, then he stated he was deactivating his account so we swapped messenger addresses and have been talking on MSN for ~2 weeks. This past Tuesday, he stopped logging on. We talked consistently every evening for 2-4 hours up till this point--sometimes accidentally staying up later than we realized--, so I started wondering if he was sick or something else. Then I saw he had removed me as a friend on facebook. He also did not respond to the 1 offline IM I sent him Thursday asking if he was sick. I saw an hour ago, after reactivating my account on here, that he too had reactivated his account and had been online today. He didn't drop a single hint that I had offended him in any way, or that his interest with me had died away. In fact, up till the last time we talked, he still stated that he really enjoyed talking to me, was amazed at how much we had in common, liked me, and said, "I can see a potential relationship in a year or so". So, I'm feeling hurt and confused. I felt an attraction to him and now it feels like he has toyed with me somehow. Do men sometimes do this? If so, why? I'd really like to know so I can avoid this in the future. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it normal for men stop talking after good communication? Posted : 30 Jan, 2010 07:39 PM Yes, its normal for guys or girls to do this and disappear. Alot of times disappearing is just less drama, so they take that easy way out. He ditched ya, so at least you don't have to waste any more time with communicating with him, and can find who you are meant to be with. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it normal for men stop talking after good communication? Posted : 30 Jan, 2010 07:45 PM Thanks for responding to my post. Good to know this isn't just an odd behavior from him. Bad to know that it happens to others. I'll just have to be more wily in predicting their behavior, if that's even possible. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it normal for men stop talking after good communication? Posted : 30 Jan, 2010 07:54 PM I'm not sure how easy it is to predict. Sometimes there are warning signs it could happen, but ignore them. But most of the time, don't know what's going on at the other side of their computer. I just let God guide me through it all and stay cool about it. Its an adventure:bouncy: Post Reply
liv2luvudeeply View Profile History	Is it normal for men stop talking after good communication? Posted : 30 Jan, 2010 09:57 PM From "He's Just Not That Into You" : ."a man would rather be run over by a heard of elephants, than tell you he's not into you.." Yes, guys do this. They lack the emotional understanding of what it does to women to have constant contact and then disappear for no reason at all, with no closure. There is also an endless list of possible things that happened in his real life that drew his attention away. Perhaps it would help to look at his actions of deleting you as a friend as closure, and realize he was NOT the man for you...the man for you will never leave you hanging that way. God has something WAY better in store...now go and delete all his e-mails and traces of your contact with him, and move on toward the that "something WAY better"! T Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it normal for men stop talking after good communication? Posted : 31 Jan, 2010 01:32 AM dear icey ,,, welcome to the forums.. sorry to hear bout that but know that it happens to men and woman both.. dont linger on the ones that do ..just keep lookin for the one that wont go away on ya.. cause the net does work .. ole cattle Post Reply
Randy54156 View Profile History	Is it normal for men stop talking after good communication? Posted : 1 Feb, 2010 12:52 AM Maybe his divorce won't be final for another year :laugh: Seriously; It would sound to me like he already has a friend and was playing the field and his girlfriend caught him emailing you. That would be my excuse for discontinuing my letters. Post Reply
Randy54156 View Profile History	Is it normal for men stop talking after good communication? Posted : 1 Feb, 2010 01:13 AM A little word of advice. Next time you write to someone or they write to you... Google them. See if they've posted on any other web sites. Search by all the screen names they use. You'd be amazed at what you might find :applause: Post Reply
Jesusiseverything View Profile History	Is it normal for men stop talking after good communication? Posted : 2 Feb, 2010 08:25 AM I read a good article on E-harmony that said it is important not to give out your life story right away or personal information. It is normal to go through this but you don't want him to have important info on you. Always start out slow so if this happens, it will be less of a big deal. Gaurd your heart against men because there will eventually be only one man in your life and he should be the only one with your personal info. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it normal for men stop talking after good communication? Posted : 4 Feb, 2010 09:31 PM His wife probably told him to cut it out. Seriously, they don't call us dogs for nothing. Now to be fair, the same has happened with me when chatting with women in the past. I guess that's part of equality for women. A lot of women are behaving more like men in relationships it seems. Oh well. keeps it interesting :) Look, I'm going through a divorce with a woman who I sincerely believed wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. We've all been hurt. That's just part of being human. And ultimately quite appropriate because it's not really each other we need to be trusting, right? There's only One Who will never let us down. And it ain't the president! I really liked Randy's idea of Goolging screen names. I'm gonna try that :) Hang in there Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it normal for men stop talking after good communication? Posted : 12 Feb, 2010 04:38 AM 2 to 4 hours is too much for ANY guy online if you're not already dating. He's stopped communicating with you because he didn't know how to be nice about wanting to talk less. Post Reply

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