Author	Thread: ONLINE vs.LIVE CONTACT
Admin	ONLINE vs.LIVE CONTACT Posted : 22 Jan, 2010 08:23 PM Do you feel more comfortable meeting a woman online then in person anywhere? why? Is it because it appears to be easier to just put all your information out there for any possiable canidate to read online? Then to verbally express in person all the details you put in your profile? When I go out with the few friends I have on occations. It seems when the verbal comminication gets tough or gets one on one and the other cant hear the other or just plainly runs out of the verbal communication for awhile the cell phones are getting the attention by answering text messages or inbox voice messages. Does this usually happen around you? GivenLife Post Reply
View Profile History	ONLINE vs.LIVE CONTACT Posted : 22 Jan, 2010 08:27 PM sorry correction on words possible candidate occasions communication Post Reply
View Profile History	ONLINE vs.LIVE CONTACT Posted : 22 Jan, 2010 10:18 PM dear given, im comfortable either one. im the same online as offline and never been shy hehe.. and a little bit of a talker too .. ole cattle Post Reply
View Profile History	ONLINE vs.LIVE CONTACT Posted : 22 Jan, 2010 10:19 PM Online you wait for days, weeks, or months before you find out if a woman is available, interested, interesting, friendly, etc. Information you get within seconds in real life. Plus in real life you're usually at an enjoyable and engaging social situation as opposed to sitting in your room alone. So I personally prefer social over online anyday of the year. Post Reply
liv2luvudeeply View Profile History	ONLINE vs.LIVE CONTACT Posted : 23 Jan, 2010 08:52 AM Given, I think it should be a red flag if a person admits to preferring to do the online thing. It should be two different methods a single person uses equally because they're two WAY different ways of getting to know someone. If you can't meet people in person, then for men, it's most likely an aversion to rejection. Fear of rejection is a huge reason men are on dating sites. Online, women are sometimes either non-responsive or very polite, and that's somehow easier to take than in person where you can see their physical response. The other thing with online dating is quantity of contacts. In person, you have to experience the rejection of every non-successful approach. Online, you can shotgun blast out 30 or 40 short e-mails a day, and if you get 2 or 3 back, you focus on those and you don't have to "experience" the rejection of the other three dozen failed approaches. Then there's the fantasy vs. reality factor. In person, other than the emotional masks many people wear to hide behind their walls, you get more of the real person with their real life flaws and weaknesses...we all have them. Online, you tend to project your fantasy of your perfect mate onto the person in the photos or behind the words until you meet in person. I think you even keep those fantasies until they're proven untrue somehow during the process of getting to know the person. As for the cell phone thing? Geez you need to find some grownups to hang out with! lol When I'm with someone in person one on one (not in a group...that would be a different story), whether it's a friend or potential romantic interest, I don't take phone calls or texts unless it's work, an emergency, or some other urgent thing that can't wait. I always apologize and explain before I take that call or text. It wouldn't matter to me how loud it was in the room or if there was a lull in the conversation, if you start texting someone and don't tell me in advance it's urgent, I'm going to excuse myself quickly. In my book, that's not only rude but it's pretty much showing me you don't value my company so it's time to move on to someone who does. wow I think I'm gonna start a blog! T Post Reply
skinnywhiteboy View Profile History	ONLINE vs.LIVE CONTACT Posted : 23 Jan, 2010 10:55 AM real life wins out by all means!!! In my own experience, this is my first online dating thing, and I've made some really cool friends with people I'd not have met otherwise, but there's nothing like that spark when two people click Post Reply
stormcountry33 View Profile History	ONLINE vs.LIVE CONTACT Posted : 23 Jan, 2010 12:27 PM Well I've never had luck either way. I guess I like the online thing right now...maybe for reason listed above. Less rejection. Don't know...something I need to address I guess. Post Reply
View Profile History	ONLINE vs.LIVE CONTACT Posted : 23 Jan, 2010 02:04 PM Thanks for the input Stromcountry33 to me you dont seem you would have that much rejection to deal with. Skinnywhiteboy,cattlemen, remp25 thanks to you also.... liv2luvudeeply thanks for all your input and yes I think I do need some more grown ups to hang out with lol... and yes my personal object now is to do the opposite instead of just sitting there to just get up and find someone to get know...GivenLife Post Reply
View Profile History	ONLINE vs.LIVE CONTACT Posted : 23 Jan, 2010 02:22 PM Excellent. I like the positivity. May God bless your growth. Post Reply
View Profile History	ONLINE vs.LIVE CONTACT Posted : 23 Jan, 2010 02:27 PM The online thing has made me a more patient, aware, wiser, knowledgeable, stronger, and resilient person though, than I would otherwise have been. Post Reply
View Profile History	ONLINE vs.LIVE CONTACT Posted : 24 Jan, 2010 12:21 AM The online thing has made me a more patient, aware, wiser, knowledgeable, stronger, and resilient person though, than I would otherwise have been. remp25 sounds like the fruit of the spirit has been gifted to you. Let that light shine....:)GivenLife Post Reply

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