Why do men even though they will never admit it fall for the needy...witchy emotionally wrecked women?
I've seen several ladies I know who are a mess and they have a great men standing by their side.
What's the deal! I admit went thru wanting a bad boy stage but those days are long gone. I wouldn't even steal a second glance at a bad boy lost all respect for them now.
It sure makes it hard for us good girls to find a good man when evil wretches out there are sinking their claws in the few good guys who are left out there.
I've also observed that men are hung up on age. They prefer a young lady even though she's not comely or emotionally wrecked over a beautiful lady who's just a few years older and is pretty normal. The only person on the face of the earth who was completely normal is Jesus Christ?
Please elaborate on how the male mind operates Im not getting it?
This is what I call the lady in distress syndrome. Men feel more manly helping the woman in distress. And some women even act more needy to get their attention. It is a childish game,
but if we all waited till we were mature enough to get married we would all be single.
Oh, wait everyone here is single! :ROFL: :yay:
Ok, out of control neediness can cross over into a neurosis. Some say we are all normal neurotics looking for another to dovetail our own neurosis with theirs. sounds good.
So the men who look for younger and / or needy women really want someone to make them feel more like a man or Father figure.
2 Samuel 12:3 gives an account of Nathan the prophet telling how much poor Uriah loved his wife. she is described as his cherished lamb and he is like a father to her.
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"�but the poor man had nothing but one little ewe lamb, which he had bought. And he brought it up, and it grew up with him and with his children. It used to eat of his morsel and drink from his cup and lie in his arms,* and it was like a daughter to him."
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The woman/wife is a reflection of the man/husband's love toward her. In other words, the woman responds to the man. The man is not made to be a reflection of the woman and should not get fooled by this "woman in distress syndrome."
Guy's have feelings too. If you trick him or make a fool out of him he will resent it.
If you want a guy, make him feel like a man and he will love you for it.
Dave has it pretty much correct. It is the "enabling" thingy. By a woman acting "all needy" and such she enables a man to act "manly" and rescue her. Converesly by acting as the "father" that the woman never had in her life the man enables her to be the "child" in need.
I've seen people trapped in this for years (many of them Movie Stars). Trust me -- you don't want those "guys", even though they seem wonderful -- most of them have not matured enough yet for someone as strong as you are and you'll probably be inheriting some mother's "boy".
Not all men are like that -- yet many have to go through those painful "learning" years -- before they mature.
The really "good" guys will already have a few scars from those "wretches" and I gaurantee that once you've made their Hearts skip a beat -- age will Not Matter! But I do agree that in most cases men want a younger woman (something about The Warranty not expiring) -- it's their loss.
Attraction is an interesting thing. People don't really choose who they're attracted to. "Good girls" are a better choice logically, but even men don't always make the logical choice. It's not like women don't do the same thing though.
As for men preferring younger women, some of it has to do with having children. Some middle age guys still want kids and a lot of middle age women can't anymore. The last 3 women I've dated have all been a couple years older, so "Men like to date younger women" isn't a hard and fast rule.
I guess when it comes down to it, you just have to trust that God is sovereign and that he will bring you what is best.
There is none righteous, no not one. The scriptures tell us that our (self) righteousness, is like filthy rags before God.
It is the righteousness of Christ that makes us fit to be called sons and daughters of God.
When a man marries a woman, he is under command to love her as "Christ loved the church". He is to give himself therefore, selflessly to her betterment (spiritual well being).
That he may present her to himself not having a spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing.
Christ loves us, continually cleanses, and makes intercession
for us on a daily basis, for this very purpose.
Therefore, it should be no great mystery that this kind of love and dedication can be seen working in the hearts
Ohhh I pushed the button too quick! What I mean.... well, you gotta know that the "church" is combined with Christian women who've made up their minds that they truely want to"walk right" in God's eyes, and then there are those who will live God's word with "exception" to certain things, conditions or acts that they're not ready to loose. Then you have a guy, NOT PERFECT YET, BUT TRYING TO YIELD TO THE SPIRIT.... he's seeing both of us women at the same time. Why should he choose US who are walking publicly and privately with our God and in obedience to His word, when there are other women in the church that are willingly, ready, eagerly, AND able to let it loose! (if you catch my drift?) So, whats a NEW man in Christ really supposed to believe...
We have to give our brothers in Christ a chance to be men, REAL Men of God. Those of us that are "serious" about our walk with the Lord, must show the guys we're serious, else they will believe it's a farce. If the men are struggling with issues, which they do when trying to work things out within themselves, and we women don't show "truth" in our walk", then it's like open field. Why should they choose US? The fallacy is that the church women are no different than the world women. Fair play. Right?
Oh well, I done gone too many places with this...
*gracemae
p.s. Then the church looks the same as the world. How has the man grown in Christ? How can he believe that there are Godly women, when what he first perceived as a Godly women isn't?
Haha, wretches, I laughed so hard when I seen that. But true, you don't see too many good women inside the church or out. Why you think we on here, obviously the church isn't filling the need. Yeah, what I've found is that most of the women in the church or either already hooked up, engaged, or come with too much baggage, or they are playing both sides of the table like Mae mentioned.
