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Why do guys like the wild girls?
Posted : 8 Oct, 2009 11:53 PM

With my experience it always seems I'm getting left for a party girl? Why are guys so attracted to that if they supposedly want a "good girl"?

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Why do guys like the wild girls?
Posted : 9 Oct, 2009 12:15 AM

pluses for party girls: open minded, uninhibited, non-judgemental, engaging, approachable, common interests, fun, flirty.



Some just want attention and are the epitome of shallow. But most are good and just want to have a good time and be as happy as they can be.

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Posted : 9 Oct, 2009 01:47 AM

dear brittmey, welcome to the forums.

if you are gettin left for party girls , then them boys didnt tell you straight when they said they wanted a good girl. they really didnt. youre better off without them.. youll find you one that really does want a good girl in time.

ole cattle

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Posted : 9 Oct, 2009 02:32 AM

Well, there could be a million reasons.



While I think most of the people here (or at least the ones who use the forum) will be fast to hop up and say "Boy, I like the nice ones!I just cant seem to find them! Too bad youre not closer!"



It may be for more than the reasons that'll be stated such as "Worldly guys only want one thing, youre better than those girls, etc, etc," that some women have trouble attracting a guy.



That whole set of rules that women silently (or not so silently, some times) judge us guys by is just the same for women. It is a fairly level playing field, requiring no side to settle for what they dont want.



I've met plenty of nice girls who are are attractive and seem to have quite a bit going for them but they are just so boring. Not that "nice," and "boring," go hand in hand at all, but some people just need to learn to help carry a conversation; have some preferences, have some hobbies to talk about, have an opinion on SOMETHING. ANYTHING! From you not liking onions in your eggs to why the economy is how it is, just be willing to talk about it.



I have a TON of hobbies and I KNOW that there probably isnt a woman alive who is into ALL of them, let alone even knows anything about some of them. But because I love my hobbies, I can talk all day about 'em. What made me get into them, what's kept them interesting to me, where they are going in the world, if it was just a fad or not and why I feel they are more valuable to me than money.



Bottom line is there are a ton of reasons why a "nice," girl can fail to attract someone and I think the least powerful piece of the puzzle is that the world is rejecting their religion.



If there is a scripture that says that a Christian girl cant be flirty, fun, accepting, alluring, enticing, exciting, seeking or open minded, I havent found them. Of course, I guess that can all depend on youre view of the above list...



If there is a scripture that says that they have to be so nice they are door mats, I havent found that one either. In fact, there are plenty of examples in the Bible of (good) people who were opinionated, pushy, crude, sneaky and conniving.



There is, to my knowledge (Granted, I am a VERY fledgling Christian) nothing that states "Good Christian," = "boring."



Ok, all that stated, it could be the environment you choose to look for these guys in. If you are going to a honkey tonk bar dressed as a school house marm, it's unlikely that someone will talk to you. There are some things you should be selective on, of course.



I feel like I'm losing my point here. Yah, I think it's lost.

Back to the point: There's no reason to expect that because you are a Christian that you need to be less than anyone else out there. You dont need to sit there piously and wait for someone to fall into your lap. Life isnt the movies. If you are not finding what you want, look within yourself.



Are you happy with you? Would you date you? If so, why? If not, why not?



Are you too selective? Does that guy have too big of a nose and that guy have a funny last name and that guy has that one hair that sticks up and that guy talks funny and that guy has glasses and that guy's too skinny and that guy...



If you are someone you'd date...well...maybe it is the people around you.



-David

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Posted : 9 Oct, 2009 05:28 AM

Well,coming from an old guy,I would say you have a lot going for you,It could be that you intimidate guys with your looks and acomplishments,possibly they think they cant measure up to you,so they go for an easier target.Now if you are talking about christian guys,they shouldnt be looking for partying girls anyway.

All you need is one good christian man,so take your time,make sure hes the right one!



In Christ



steven

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Posted : 9 Oct, 2009 07:12 AM

Wait, wait...I'm a good guy. I always thought "good guys" get passed up by "good girls" for "bad boys"? What's up with that?



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Posted : 9 Oct, 2009 08:07 AM

Steven, you have a good point there. When I was younger (teens and early 20s), I was told by close friends that I intimidated guys because I seemed older (more mature) than guys my age. I also did really well in college, both as an undergrad and a grad student. It seems that some guys don't want a smart girl, but prefer someone who just giggles and flirts and can't carry on an intelligent conversation. I totally don't get that -- can't a smart girl be just as interesting? Of course, on the flip side of that, I want a guy who is smart enough to carry on a conversation with me, so maybe the kind of guy who prefers a "silly" or "wild" girl is not the kind of guy I want!



I guess that didn't really answer the original question...sorry about that! Here's an attempt: to the original poster -- you are still young, so give the guys a chance to grow up a little. When I was your age, the guys seemed SO immature! Now, just 5 years later, many of them have caught up to me!



FYI: I'm not trying to make generalizations about guys' maturity levels. I've met younger guys who are extremely mature, and older guys who are extremely immature. This is just an opinion based on my own experiences. I also teach college, so I work with guys and girls between 18 and 22 on a daily basis...my observations about maturity levels seem to hold true.

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Posted : 9 Oct, 2009 12:04 PM

it's not intimidation, so much as it is them not showing interest or appreciation and being too wrapped up in their own world to do so, so we move on to some one who reciprocates the interest and appreciation we have for them. not trying to be harsh or rude, just sayin'...



you are beautiful though and you have some pretty amazing accomplishments. add those other two ingredients to the mix and you will draw in more guys while still being the person you want to be. :ribbit:

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Why do guys like the wild girls?
Posted : 9 Oct, 2009 07:16 PM

I don't know, why do women always date jerks?:laugh:

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Why do guys like the wild girls?
Posted : 9 Oct, 2009 11:42 PM

there's an old expression... boys may date wild girls, but marry the good girls (the ones they want to be a mother to their child). Also, young men may say they want or will marry, but i've notice that their biological clock doesn't start until they are nearing 30... so they are doing the creative dating. It has nothing to do with YOU!

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Posted : 11 Oct, 2009 04:53 PM

well my view on it is that those guys are not really looking to have a real relationship with a girl because they are just looking for a "thrill" which alot of party girls tend to give. I used to party alot, and one day I realized that those girls really were not serious about me nor was I about them. Those guys dont know what they want, it is obvious from your profile and pictures.ect..that you are an interesting girl and you are fun to be around with many hobbies and interests. Just be yourself, and focus more on looking for serious guys at your church..or get involved in a young adults group where you can meet guys who love Jesus and really know what they want...or you could just write me back!:)

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