Author	Thread: TO LADIES How to handle requests for personal information
Admin	TO LADIES How to handle requests for personal information Posted : 19 Sep, 2009 12:28 PM Of course you should never give it out until you feel comfortable, but keep in mind most men do not think they need a long time to determine whether or not they like you - and in a lot of cases they will be offended if you make them wait too long. There are some good reasons why that is so. What I would recommend when you do not feel comfortable giving out personal information is that you tell them what other women have said to me "I do not feel comfortable giving you that information at this point. May be later when I get to know you a little better." To be honest I usually feel a little bit put off if after several emails a woman will not give me her number, but I always appreciate it when a woman tells me what was said above - unless several weeks have gone by and several emails have been exchanged. If she does not feel comfortable with me at that point I will be talking with someone who does. Post Reply
View Profile History	TO LADIES How to handle requests for personal information Posted : 19 Sep, 2009 05:32 PM In a perfect world i understand where you're coming from wondering what the big deal is and thinking you deserve better than to be ignored, but on here it's just the nature of the beast. I like having the option to ignore a girl if i don't want to talk to her and not have to explain why. Turn around is fairplay. Post Reply
View Profile History	TO LADIES How to handle requests for personal information Posted : 20 Sep, 2009 07:48 PM Its not a matter of being ignored because I am speaking about when email communications are going on. But you are right about the fact that we need to accept that this is not a perfect world. But since you brought it up (being ignored) Every once in a while, like today I get an email saying "Sorry I do not feel that we would be a good match." Of course that is not the best response, but at least that woman has some integrity and class - which I appreciate. But one more thing about the TELEPHONE NUMBER issue if any ladies are reading. One of the reasons we men prefer telephone over email - is not just because we are wanting to move things along:laugh: but its also because it PREVENTS A LOT OF MISUNDERSTANDINGS when you are able to communicate in real time one on one. THAT'S HUGE A lot of hurt feelings and ruined friendships result from misunderstandings via email. Post Reply
Linnie41 View Profile History	TO LADIES How to handle requests for personal information Posted : 20 Sep, 2009 10:18 PM Instead of asking for the woman's phone number, try something like this: "I'm really having a great time emailing you, and I'd like to chat on the phone sometime if you feel comfortable with that. I'll give you my phone number (you can certainly block your number when you call if you don't want me to have it), and if you use it, great, if not, we'll just keep emailing for awhile! :) It's 555-555-5555." This way, the ball is in her court, she's not giving you her phone number, and I don't know about all women - but it makes me feel better to have the ability to call or not call, instead of having to tell someone I really don't want to give them my number yet. Just a thought. Post Reply
View Profile History	TO LADIES How to handle requests for personal information Posted : 20 Sep, 2009 10:29 PM That is an excellent suggestion. Although I would do that and add: But would you prefer that I call you? If so, I will take your number and call in a couple days. As many Ladys have stated they do not want the ball in their court, and it is up to us men to do the pursuing. But I would only suggest the phone after we were both obviousely having a good time with emails and chat. The phone goes great with a webcam. I completely understand anyone's reluctance on giving out their number to someone they are not meeting in person. I have been very surprised at the way people look as compared to their webcams. And the chemistry was completely different in person too, like I was starting all over with them even after months of contact. But praise the Lord they always looked better in person! Post Reply
TaxMan View Profile History	TO LADIES How to handle requests for personal information Posted : 21 Sep, 2009 04:38 AM Hmm..interestingly enough, I've had at least 3 numbers given to me on the second or third contact. Despite the fact that the profile mentions I'm not in the states. Despite the fact that I mention I'm looking for someone to write E-mails to. Despite the fact that 100% of the ladies have had some portion of their profile that said "Absolutely no X, ONLY Y!!" and I've been X every time. Crazy. Linnie41, HOW did you get my phone number???? I dont have a web cam, dsterna. Guys NEVER looks better in real life. :) Women, however. I've yet to find one that a picture can do justice to. Post Reply
Linnie41 View Profile History	TO LADIES How to handle requests for personal information Posted : 21 Sep, 2009 05:37 AM TaxMan, I know exactly what you mean. I'm X alot, too and I still get people looking for Y. I want to write back and say, did you even READ my profile? Lol Also, I've clearly stated in my profile "my IM doesn't work," but I think this is similar to putting a "Wet Paint" sign on a bench. People instinctively have to test it out. :) Your phone number? You gave it to me on your very first email along with your yahoo chat ID, remember? Ha Ha Ha Post Reply
View Profile History	TO LADIES How to handle requests for personal information Posted : 21 Sep, 2009 07:54 AM Linnie 41 Funny how much we think alike. I have used that EXACT APPROACH several times. It works well. But still some who have been communicating with me for a while via email - sometimes rather heavily and we seem to be getting along well - will not call. Makes me think that they are hiding something - or maybe they have a truckload of emotional baggage. You are a sharp & witty lady. Need more like you here. Unfortunately I think your type is rare, especially here. Post Reply
View Profile History	TO LADIES How to handle requests for personal information Posted : 21 Sep, 2009 07:58 AM DSterna Thanks for the added tip. That's smart, honest & completes the message well Post Reply
View Profile History	TO LADIES How to handle requests for personal information Posted : 21 Sep, 2009 10:04 AM dear folks, 777 nice original post . that was good. and linnie and ds also good points.. ole cattle Post Reply
View Profile History	TO LADIES How to handle requests for personal information Posted : 23 Sep, 2009 05:40 PM Whats the secret code going on here - "X" & "Y"? Post Reply

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