Author	Thread: Giving out persnal information
Admin	Giving out persnal information Posted : 30 Aug, 2009 12:44 AM I'm curious to know why is it that men, and it's not just on this site, are in such a hurry to meet and exchange personal information when they hardly know you? sometimes the 1st e-mail contact includes personal info. I've had conversations with men and after getting to know them better I was glad that I didn't give out any info. really What's rush? Can we just get to know eachother first? Or am I asking for too much from men which is to waite and not to try and jump into another relationship. Afterall you could really be meant for eachother if you have a little more patience. Post Reply
View Profile History	Giving out persnal information Posted : 30 Aug, 2009 11:03 AM I think it is because men are doers and results oriented. It's like we are problem solvers with little small talk. We should have honest communication in a positive way. Don't say "you are pushy", but try "I enjoy romance and like to take things real slow" (maybe put that in all caps at the beginning of your profile, LOL, to make sure he pays attention to it). And, of course, both men and women get lonely, desperate, tired of seeking, want someone to talk to NOW, etc. etc. Men should lead, but women need to give guidance to steer that leading a bit in the right direction. Post Reply
View Profile History	Giving out persnal information Posted : 30 Aug, 2009 12:12 PM Thank you for replying, I really appreciate your input and you may just be right so I hope you don't mind that Il take your suggestion and add it to my profile.....let's see if it works. YET....when a man is initiating the first contact should he include yahoo address, face book log in name, phone #, etc., is that proper? The guidance I believe most mature women are willing to provide but when I'm placed in a very awkward position all I can say is: "I don't exchange personal information" because the initial contact was so aggressive. Can men try and put in some effort to understand our needs and how we would like to be approached? God Bless.... Post Reply
View Profile History	Giving out persnal information Posted : 30 Aug, 2009 02:50 PM Yeah, that all goes against the directives of CDFF, so it is very improper. Sounds unChristian or really desperate to me. I would not like all that even from a woman here on a first contact... it really degrades her. Yikes...but for women, it seems like they are degrading you by assuming too much ! Post Reply
View Profile History	Giving out persnal information Posted : 30 Aug, 2009 04:29 PM So now you know what I mean? So, please fellow brothers in Christ, men seeking Christian women, I ask you to give me a good reason why you're first initial e-mail to a Christian lady on this site includes your personal information?? or you would even ask for personal contact information, when you don't even know eachother. God Bless Post Reply
View Profile History	Giving out persnal information Posted : 30 Aug, 2009 11:37 PM I've had one girl give me her phone number in first contact and that came off as too desperate to me. And then I actually got a ton of profile views and messages from her which were very annoying. I don't even mix my CDFF peeps with my myspace. I did that once and it did not go over well, she blew up my myspace lolol All I can think of is maybe they're desperate? Post Reply
Seuss View Profile History	Giving out persnal information Posted : 31 Aug, 2009 12:36 PM Hello; So, you think it's not a good idea to exchange e-mail address? I got involved with a guy online that ended up scamming me. I made a big mistake to give out personal info. I am trying to use caution and wisdom now. I still get a little nervous about talking to guys here. Post Reply
Linnie41 View Profile History	Giving out persnal information Posted : 31 Aug, 2009 11:14 PM Remember there is no such thing as women's intuition. That's God nudging us, ladies. If it don't feel right, it ain't. Pay attention to that "little feeling" you get about someone. It's there for a reason. Post Reply
View Profile History	Giving out persnal information Posted : 31 Aug, 2009 11:17 PM Thank you so much for sharing it with me, you don't know how long I've thought it was just me believing it's not right....now I know better. Post Reply
View Profile History	Giving out persnal information Posted : 2 Sep, 2009 10:37 PM If only more men and women post their experiences and give advise, it would help out many Christian women and even men that are not sure what to do when somone sends them personal infomation expecting to receive the same in return......so far based on the posts from members on this site, I agree and please don't allow anyone to push you into giving out personal information/ Thak you so much ....anyone else willing to share their experience and/or opinion? Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Giving out persnal information Posted : 3 Sep, 2009 07:39 PM From a girl's perspective... If a guy sends me his contact info in the first message, I don't even reply. That's only happened once on here (I'm new, though!). I certainly don't send contact info, or even include info that could be linked to me. I googled my username, and it didn't turn up anything on me! On another site, I had a guy "online stalking" me. I couldn't even log onto the site without him trying to IM me, and he viewed my profile multiple times a day. He was totally weird, and wouldn't take no for an answer. He kept trying to share his e-mail address (against the rules), and wanted me to contact him off-site. But here's another question: how soon is too soon to share just a simple first name? I included mine in my profile (it's not my full name, just the nickname I go by). I don't mind people knowing my name. It adds a personal touch to such an impersonal way of getting to know someone. However, some of the messages I have received have included no name at all, even after a few exchanges. I find it a little odd to exchange messages with someone that I have to think of by his username only! Should I ask for a name, or assume that the guy feels it is too personal to share with someone he is just casually chatting with (even after several messages have been exchanged)? I don't want contact info, just a normal name to put with the profile! So what do y'all think? Thanks!!! Beth Post Reply

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