Author	Thread: First Kiss
Admin	First Kiss Posted : 15 Aug, 2009 02:23 PM Would any of you like it or prefer if the lady you were going to marry and you did not kiss until your wedding day? Like, your first kiss would be at your wedding ceremony. Is that something you would be willing to do? I have friends that have done this and I am just wondering. I'm gauging your opinions. :) Post Reply
View Profile History	First Kiss Posted : 15 Aug, 2009 03:37 PM dear glory, nope, i would not like it nor would i prefer it.. as im an ole kisser from way back.. hehe ole cattle Post Reply
View Profile History	First Kiss Posted : 15 Aug, 2009 04:23 PM SISTER GLORY, I WAS JUST ABOUT TO POST THIS VERY TOPIC,LOL. AS MUCH AS I WOULD LOVE TO KISS HER, I WOULD PERSONALLY AVOID IT, SIMPLY FOR SEXUALLY IMMORAL REASONS, I GUESS I AM NOT SO STONG IN THAT DEPARTMENT. BESIDES, I THINK IT WILL BE SO ROMANTIC FOR ME TO CARESS THE PRECIOUS LIPS OF MY WIFE FOR THE VERY FIRST TIME, WITHIN A CHURCH. GREAT TOPIC :glow: Post Reply
View Profile History	First Kiss Posted : 15 Aug, 2009 06:23 PM gotta say no on that. I understand wanting to put limitations to avoid taking things too far sexually but there needs to be some physical attraction and that needs to be shown from one to the other before you decide to get married. Post Reply
View Profile History	First Kiss Posted : 15 Aug, 2009 06:57 PM sorry Glory..I know I"m not a guy, but I've got to respond to this one...Heck YES I want to wait!! I haven't kissed anyone in 8 years...& I"m not planning on it until I'm married...& yes, I've waited on purpose. I haven't really dated either. I just remember what kissing can lead to & if the word says to flee from temptation..then I'm gonna flee. I'm not saying it wouldn't be hard not to kiss...but, I would sure like to try and save all I can for my husband, you know? Post Reply
View Profile History	First Kiss Posted : 15 Aug, 2009 07:27 PM dear sarah, hey young lady its good to see ya back on here writing again.. ole cattle Post Reply
View Profile History	First Kiss Posted : 15 Aug, 2009 07:44 PM Thanks Catlle :) - I honestly am pretty off & on on the site. I just get kind of discouraged about it..u know? Like, why am I on here..uh...do I just wait for a while for guys to try to talk to me...do I try to talk to them? I dont know what I"m doing!! AT ALL! lol...but anyway, thanks Cattle! Post Reply
kdhny11 View Profile History	First Kiss Posted : 15 Aug, 2009 09:44 PM Absolutely not! I am divorced because of a frigid wife and I refuse to wait until I'm married to find out I made the mistake a second time. My ex actually despised kissing I might add. So - why take such an awful chance? To me, intimacy, including kissing, is one of the main reasons for marriage. And if a person can't control themself because they kiss, I don't see how having a wedding ring is going to change much. Peace. Post Reply
View Profile History	First Kiss Posted : 16 Aug, 2009 12:27 AM I think this could be a personal preference,Im really not sure,since I havent dated since becoming a christian,depending on the level of self control of the individuals,I would say take it slow and easy!No since in rushing in to something that could lead to bad places!:purpleangel: In Christ Steven Post Reply
View Profile History	First Kiss Posted : 16 Aug, 2009 01:14 AM Herpes is an epidemic and many still don't know they have it. And it is spread by kissing. They say one in three adults have it now. So my plan is not to kiss until I think she is "the one" (after months). Then if we are not compatible that way, then we'll need to end it. It is a risk worth taking. I too was married to a distant person who lacked physical warmth (it appeared more so after the marriage with other revelations). I saw warning signs but was blinded enough by charm to think that I could change her later. No deal. And so I would not advise waiting until marriage to kiss. I have dreamt that romantic dream though too... but it really is not practical. Learn from my mistake. Post Reply
View Profile History	First Kiss Posted : 16 Aug, 2009 02:15 AM BROTHERS AND SISTERS, I THINK WE WILL ALL AGREE THAT THERE IS NO RIGHT OR WRONG ANSWER HERE,LOL, JUST A BUNCH OF PREFERENCES, WHICH IS GREAT.:applause: PRAISE THE LORD THAT WE ALL KNOW WHAT WE WANT. JUST A FEW THINGS TO PONDER. BROTHER FURY, I AGREE THAT THERE NEEDS TO BE SOME PHYSICAL ATTRACTION BETWEEN THE COUPLE BUT PERSONALLY, KISSING (LIP TO LIP), IS NOT THE ONLY WAY OF SHOWING THIS. I AM NOT SAYING THAT YOU BELIEVE KISSING IS THE ONLY WAY THOUGH. PERSONALLY, A COUPLE THAT IS PHYSICALLY ATTRACTED TO ONE ANOTHER, WILL USUALLY KNOW THIS (TALKING FROM PERSONAL EXPERIANCES ), FROM THE VERY FIRST TIME THEY MEET AND I DONT THINK ANYONE HERE DOES KISSES (LIP TO LIP), AT THE FIRST TIME OF MEETING SOMEONE THAT THEY ARE PHYSICALLY ATTRACTED TO,LOL. I PERSONALLY BELIEVE THAT ONE OF THE MOST UNDERRATED FORMS OF DEMONSTRATING PHYSICAL ATTRACTION TO ANOTHER IS SIMPLY BY TELLING THEM. AND BROTHER KD, I AGREE THAT PEOPLE CAN BE VERY FRIGID AND THAT THIS CAN HAVE SOME LONG TERM NEGATIVE EFFECTS, BUT WHO KNOWS, MAYBE THE NEXT PERSON, MAY BE DIFFRENT. I AM SORRY TO HEAR THAT YOUR EX DESPISED KISSING, EVEN IN MARRIAGE, BUT I PERSONALLY WOULD NOT PUT WHAT I BELIEVE TO BE A PATIENT WAIT, IN THE SAME CATEGORY AS TAKING AN AWFUL CHANCE. THESE ARE YOUR WORDS (KDHNY), BELOW �And if a person can't control themself because they kiss, I don't see how having a wedding ring is going to change much�. DESPITE PREVIOUSLY SAYING THAT I AM PERSONALLY NOT STRONG IN THAT DEPARTMENT, I GUESS I WAS TRYING TO INDIRECTLY SAY HOW EASY IT IS TO BECOME SEXUALLY IMMORAL. AS WE ALL KNOW, THE SPIRIT IS WILLING, BUT THE FLESH IS WEAK (MATTHEW 26:41). SO TO ME, IT IS A CASE OF AVOIDANCE, CUTTTING OFF THAT WHICH MAY OFFEND MY BODY (MATTHEW 5:29), AND NOT WANTING TO BECOME SEXUALLY IMMORAL AS OPPOSED TO NOT BEING ABLE TO CONTROL MYSELF. I THINK BEING MARRIED WILL CHANGE MUCH, FOR IN MARRIAGE, TWO BECOME ONE FLESH AND THE HUSBAND IS GRANTED RIGHTEOUS AUTHORITY OVER HIS WIFES BODY, JUST AS THE WIFE IS GRANTED RIGHTEOUS AUTHORITY OVER HER HUSBANDS BODY (1 CORINTHIANS 7:4). ALSO, I AM AGAIN, SORRY TO HEAR THAT BROTHER KDHNY AND BROTHER DSTERNA HAD WIVES WHO LACKED PHYSICAL WARMTH AND OR WERE FRIGID. BUT ONE THING IS FOR SURE, A PERSON COULD MARRY SOMEONE WHO DISPLAYS BUNDLES OF PHYSICAL WARMTH BEFORE MARRIAGE BUT THEN THAT PHSYICAL WARMTH MAY DISAPPEAR WITHIN MARRIAGE, EVEN AT THE HONEY MOON. SO I GUESS IT IS A CASE OF ANYTHING BEING POSSIBLE, YOU JUST DONT KNOW. THIS IS WHY IT IS IMPORTANT TO CONTINUALLY PRAY (1 Thessalonians 5:17), AND BELIEVE IN OUR DESIRES (HEBREWS 11:1), NOT SAYING THAT YOU DONT PRAY OR BELIEVE ALREADY BUT WITH GOD, NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE. IT IS GREAT TO KNOW THAT PEOPLE CAN KEEP THEIR SPIRIT AND FLESH STRONG AND MORALLY RIGHTEOUS, WHILST KISSING (LIP TO LIP), PRIOR TO MARRIAGE. MY BROTHERS AND SISTERS, PLEASE DONT GET OUT YOUR GLOVES:boxing: FOR ME, THEIR JUST THOUGHTS, LOL. Post Reply

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