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What does he really want???
Posted : 12 Aug, 2009 02:24 PM

I met this guy through ChristianMingle. My problem is although he says he's a Christian and all the right stuff, we all know how easy it can be to deceive people via the internet. He wants to get together, we made a date to meet at a coffee shop, which he rescheduled because he 'got called in to work' that's acceptable. But there's the sexual aspect, he talks more about kissing and massages than his faith and he wants to come to my place and cook me dinner. I've told him that I want to do things God's way, which of course is through Christ, and no sex until marriage. He says he just wants to be sure we are compatible. When I said I'd rather do this safely, meaning meet in a public place, he said, something about fear and living in the box. I feel there's something fishy. Why so adamant about coming to my home? and why not take more time to get to know each other through chat etc. What's his hurry? He hasn't even asked me any questions really. What do you all think.

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Posted : 12 Aug, 2009 02:32 PM

No, no, no...do not pass go, do not collect $200. Stay away from this guy as he does not respect your boundaries. You are likely to find yourself in a compromising situation. You don't feel right about it for a reason, that's the Holy Spirit.



May God bless you with wisdom and peace in your decision.



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Posted : 12 Aug, 2009 02:33 PM

I am not a guy but do NOT meet him at your home. meet in public and STAY in public. My guess is he is after sex but I could be wrong. Be VERY careful..



GBU

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Posted : 12 Aug, 2009 03:01 PM

That's my thought, thank you both! I would still like to hear what the men on this site have to say about this but I totally agree, and I've thought about the things he said, and I know that there is no respect for my boundaries at all. This is not what I want in a relationship.



Bless you both!:angel:

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Posted : 12 Aug, 2009 03:08 PM

HELLO.



I THINK THAT JODIE AND BETH HAVE GIVEN GOOD ANSWERS, PERSONALLY, THE GUYS ACTIONS AS YOU DESCRIBED THEM, ARE QUESTIONABLE AND ARE WORRYING.



I THINK IT WOULD BE DANGEROUS FOR HIM TO GO TO YOUR HOUSE, SO I WILL ADVISE YOU TO MEET HIM IN A PUBLIC PLACE OR BETTER STILL, MEET HIM IN A PUBLIC PLACE WITH A FRIEND JUST TO BE EXTRA SAFE. IF HE FULLY RESPECTS YOU, HE WILL AGREE TO THIS.



BETTER SAFE THAN SORRY, ALL THE BEST.

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Posted : 12 Aug, 2009 03:27 PM

dear tiger

he said, something about fear and living in the box.



manipulater,, comes to my mind right off..

ole cattle

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Posted : 12 Aug, 2009 03:37 PM

mine too OleCattle, passive/aggressive I think.

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Posted : 12 Aug, 2009 04:01 PM

Trust your instinct. When I get the red flag aka gut feeling or little voice that tells me something isn't right, I like to think it is God talking. :winksmile:



~Lisa

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Posted : 12 Aug, 2009 05:02 PM

Ok, well, while reading your post out loud to myself, I blurted out the answer, so I'll just right it down..



"Leave this loser alone."



Josh

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Posted : 12 Aug, 2009 05:40 PM

dear josh, welcome to the forums..

ole cattle

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Posted : 12 Aug, 2009 05:41 PM

Thanks Ole Cattle

GBU

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