HELLO LADIES, I THINK YOU HAD BETTER GET YOURSELF SOMETHING TO DRINK OR EAT WHILST YOU READ BECAUSE I�VE GOT TONS 4 U.
TOYS- women can play with toys too, personally, I would love a wife that can engage with me in videogames and so on, just as I would engage in all her interests.
SHORTS- I don�t mind my future wife wearing shorts, her duty is not to go out and impress other men and women anyway, neither is mine, I would love her as she is.
WALLET AND SHOES- I don�t mind my wife having the same wallet and pair of shoes every season, materials are not what is important to me, our shared love for Christ should and by gods grace, override all things.
THE MOUSTACHE- yes u are right, personally, I would not want my wife to grow a moustache, i�m pretty sure she won�t want one either, at the same time, my wife would probably object if I were to start wearing makeup, however, women can put on any form of lipstick and or make up without being touted as gay or too feminine. Think about that.
FINGER NAILS AND POCKET KNIFE- I don�t really see the big deal, personally, I don�t mind my wife doing the same, she equally has human nails, so what�s the problem.
BELLIES AND HIPS- first of all, womens hips are absolutely beautiful, I personally love the hour glass look, but all types are equally nice. I don�t have a big belly myself and would not really like my wife to have one either and vice-versa, one of my marital desires would be to engage in a 15 min work out (not referring to intercourse,thats personal, lol) with my wife eachday, in order to maintain good health and to set a good example for our kids, however if she did have a few extra pounds for whatever reason, I would only but encourage her, after all, who she really is (substance), is more important, as opposed to what she looks like, personally, I do pretty much prefer a bit of meat on my wife anyway.
CHOCOLATE- of course my wife can equally refer to chocolate as a snack, as long as it does not blow out of proportion and vice-versa, again, engaging in a 15min daily workout, would burn off the chocolate nibbles and besides, i would hope that my wife and I would want to set a good example for our kids.
WEDDINGS- I am totally confused with this one, please elaborate.
THE GARAGE- again, I have to disagree with this point, personally, I am all about sharing, so definitely my wife would be allowed to put whatever she wants in our garage as long as there is space for me to equally do the same, that is if I have anything which I may need to put inside, it�s all about being able to compromise.
THE SURNAME- yeah, I can�t beat u on this one lol.
FACIAL CHANGES- both women and men experience facial changes, so not everything on a man�s face stays as its original colour (ummm....., back to the moustache and beard business, last time I checked, as we age, our beard�s and moustache�s turn grey or white so you might need to rethink that one.
FACE AND NECK SHAVING- not all men shave their faces and necks and besides, a lot of men, do like women who are hairy. Personally, I would not mind a hairy woman, as long as her face is not hairy, just as she won�t want my face to be full of makeup.
HAIRSTYLES- yes men can keep the same hairstyles, so why can�t women, that is if they want to. I don�t mind the hairstyle that my wife keeps and how long she keeps it, as long as it�s not a male hairstyle, just as she won�t want a female looking hairstyle on me, then again, women also grow bald and lose their hair, so therefore, in the latter years of marriage; I would be forced to accept any of my wife�s hairstyles, again, substance wins, not the outward appearance.
CHRISTMAS SHOPPING- no offence, but I completely disagree with that point, everyone does late Christmas shopping, my mum has done so in the last 10 years.
WRINKLES- ummm, I�ve never heard the �wrinkles add character� thingy. Wrinkles are of no importance to me, if my wife had them, it would not bother me at all, besides, character comes from within and that�s just how I see it.
THE VACATION AND SUITCASE- no offence, but I completely disagree with that point, if we want to carry a single suitcase, I don�t see anything wrong with that, why some women feel the need to carry excess things I don�t know, however I won�t mind her carrying excess.
NEW SHOES- regarding the new shoes, you are totally right, that is if you are comparing our new shoes to high heels. Personally, if your shoes are causing blisters, cuts or mangling, then don�t wear high heels. In addition, I�m far from picky with a woman that has large feet and or a woman that wears shoes that don�t have high heels.
THE TURNING OF SCREWS- if what you�re saying is what I am thinking, then I completely disagree with that point, elaborate on this please.
MOOD SWINGS- regarding men having one mood all the time, I completely disagree with that point and personally think that it is unfair for you to make that kind of judgement, I�m not offended but, just like women, men have various moods, after all we were all created as humans, so , no offence but where is the logik in your point.
WEDDING DRESS COSTS- again, I completely disagree with you here, at the end of the day, these things are just materialistic, the marriage itself is more important than an overestimated dress, again, I think you have been quite unfair with men, I do however understand that a marriage is usually a once in a lifetime thing but at the same time, whether money is a problem or not, wives or future wives and or husbands who come up with such estimates, personally, should learn to be content, whatever happen to for richer or poorer. Life is far from a fairy tale.
THE OPENING OF JARS- again, I think you are being totally unfair here. Generally, in most cultures around the world, women have always felt the need to demonstrate and or promote the fact that, whatever a man can do, a woman can do also, of which I personally believe. In addition, women generally complain that men are still getting paid more than women for doing the same jobs, so how can you then say that we can open our own jars but you cant, I mean, it�s not fair. Personally, if my wife could not open the jam jar or whatever jar it is, then I would expect her to ask for assistance from our neighbour or wait for my arrival, instead of bickering and complaining that being a woman, stops her from or prevents her from, carrying out tasks that men are normally perceived to be able to do. In addition, not all men can open jars.
In conclusion, personally, what you have displayed here is that women are generally insecure about a whole heap of things, and for that reason, women are less happier than men. Personally, it is extremely unfair to use your insecurities as a way of indirectly saying that men have got it better in life than women. I mean, everyone, both men and women have their insecurities, after all were not perfect and never will be, the most important thing is to not let such things have a massive effect on us. The day I gave my life to Christ, was the same day I handed over all my insecurities to him. Christ is our security, no matter what man thinks, after all, we were all made in god�s image, so why should what society thinks about you, have any bearing and or effect on your life and happiness.
At the end of the day, whether we are rich or poor, obese or skinny, hairy or bald, funny or boring, popular or unknown and so on, society would always make good and or bad judgements about us, quite simply we can never be perfect. The best thing for us as Christians to do is, just to worry about how we are serving our lord and personal saviour, how we look when we leave our house, personally, is and should always be of no concern whatsoever, god is the ultimate judge. My aim is to enter the book of life because I love god soooo much, as opposed to pleasing a bunch of people, of which, 99% of the time, I don�t even know, even if I knew them, what difference would it make.
In addition, no offence, but, in relation to some of your points of view, I think you have based them on previously bad experiences with men. As I have said a million times and counting:ROFL:, not all men are the same, it is just unfortunate that the not so good men are making women feel this way. If we all decided to just fulfil that which is in Mathew 6:33 only, then we won�t be so hooked on finding true love or wanting a fairy tale life style. After all, true love is god because god is love, we all need to let go of whatever people have done in the past and as said in Matthew 6:33, we need to seek our personal lord and saviours kingdom first and his righteousness, then, all other things shall be added at gods leisure.
women can play with toys too. participate with your husband's hobbies and toys. play with the kids. engage with the family.
women can wear shorts too--though it shouldn't be so short that you show too much. they should be at an appropriate length.
women can have one wallet, one pair of shoes too. if that's all I can afford, so be it. at least i have a place to put my stuff in. at least i have something to cover/protect my feet as i walk.
women can choose to shave facial hair too. i've seen women with full facial hair walking with such confidence holding hands with their mate and kids. if it doesn't bother her or her husband, then so be it. God gave her the facial hair, and her mate loves her the way she is. to me, that's a blessing!!!
women can do their fingernails with pocket knife too. I know, because I have. i didn't have my kit handy and so used my ex brother-in-law's pocket knife. it did the job. it didn't make me look any less of a lady because of my confidence.
women can have big bellies that hide their large hips too. what one might not find attractive, another one does. God made us all different. we're not the same. isn't that great?
women can have chocolate as a snack too. there's a thing called balance. balance out your meals and you can eat whatever you want.
women can have their things in the garage too. if you organize it right, add shelves, there's plenty of room for the entire family's stuff.
women do not handle all the planning in a wedding. most men do participate in the planning of their special day. you have some who can care less because: (1) all they want to do is say yes to you on that day (2) they trust your taste/judgement (3) the reasons are endless, but I will not continue on.
women last name do not change. i fail to see what's the big deal on this one. i would feel honor to take on my husband's name.
women and men faces do not stay its original color. we all change throughout the years. it's a beautiful thing.
women can shave facial hair too. men don't shave only face & neck. some shave their underarms, body hair (if body builder), or private area to make it more clean, smooth, more sensitive.
women do keep the same hairstyle for years. they do it because they're happy with it and so are the husbands. nothing else matters.
women also do their Christmas shopping on Christmas Eve. does it make the gift any less special? no.
wrinkles add character to men. true. wrinkles on women (to me) are a blessings. the wrinkles remind me of all the good times i had, hard, crying in sadness, God has blessed me with long life, etc.
women can pack 1 suitcase too. if we stop being so prissy, we can do it.
the majority of women buy shoes that fit and are comfortable. those who don't are not choosing wisely.
women do know how to turn a screw. we build things, we fix things, we are capable beings.
men do not have one mood, no one does. we all have our different moods at any given time.
women can get a wedding dress for a lot cheaper than $5,000 and still look beautiful. it's a matter of what's important to her. i rather (and i'm not the only one) get me a really nice wedding dress that does not cost more than my budget because i already have it planned out to spend the rest of the money on our honeymoon, or the reception, the food, etc. i'm not going to spend lots of $$$ on a dress i'll wear once.
women can open jars too. if not, for medical reasons or lack strength, ask for help. nothing wrong with that. but maybe that should be hint to build up some muscle. we can do it too!!!
hard, crying in sadness, God has blessed me with long life, etc.