Author	Thread: do you really know what you want?
osol_letse View Profile History	do you really know what you want? Posted : 15 Oct, 2017 04:12 AM hey guys, do you really know what you want from the girls you look for? if so, what that is/ those are? Post Reply
View Profile History	do you really know what you want? Posted : 18 Oct, 2017 10:46 AM Short answer : Yes. I am looking for someone who is never married, shorter than 5'10" approximately 7 years younger than me, white, from the United States, doesn't have children, doesn't have tattoos or piercings except earrings. Not vegetarian. I would like to find someone who is somewhat fit or at least is able to run, walk, jump, swim, etc. Doesn't have phobias and allergies. Doesn't have any kind of genetic disorder that prevents her from having children. Is kind, polite, respectful, responsible, and dependable. Not gossiping, lying, cheating, taking advantage of people, cutting corners, exploiting people here and there for small gains wherever she can, greedy, proud, obsessed with her health and looks, not a gold digger or materialistic, someone who has a nice family and wasn't abused as a child. Someone who grew up with loving parents in a healthy environment. I am looking for someone who is a Charismatic Christian. I prefer someone who is an INFJ but this is very rare, so I will be satisfied with any _N__ type. This is referring to MBTI personality types. I am looking for someone whose primary love language is Quality Time or Physical Touch. I am looking for someone who is not involved in occultism. So, naturally, she is not a fan of Harry Potter, Halloween, D&D, Pokeman. She is not a video game addict or TV addict. She is not addicted to smoking or drugs. Financially, she is not deep in debt. She is a saver, not a spender. She is thrifty. She doesn't like scary movies and horror movies. She is not attracted to ghosts, torture, bloodshed, vampires, dragons, demons and whatever else demonic creatures there are. She may like dogs or cats or sports. I don't really care about any of that. I don't watch sports, but if she likes that, that's fine. I don't want someone who has some weird interests like playing with pet snakes, spiders or raising pet tigers or alligators. I want someone who is normal and likes to stay safe. For example, if someone is into rock climbing and jumping off of cliffs, that person is not for me! Hey, it's a long list, I know. But I don't want to marry someone who is not right for me. Post Reply
View Profile History	do you really know what you want? Posted : 18 Oct, 2017 01:52 PM LOL silver !!! way to go !! my socks off, you ought to take up fencing !!! good thing I don't have a prolapse or it'd be off to hospital I go..... but in all seriousness not many men get past the cute face stage until they have had pain and you are a rarity.... boils down to personality type and the thought processes that go along with it Post Reply
View Profile History	do you really know what you want? Posted : 18 Oct, 2017 06:39 PM Two years ago I became friends with a girl, but she had a lot of personality problems. At first, she appeared like the perfect person, but the more I got to know her and discover who she is and what she is all about, the more I felt like running away from her. After we broke up, I was so grateful that I did not marry her! For the first time in my life, I felt happy to be single! Every time I think about it, I am glad I didn't marry her. My life would have been a TOTAL DISASTER. So, I am not eager to jump into a relationship. If it doesn't feel right, RUN! Run for your life!!! Post Reply
osol_letse View Profile History	do you really know what you want? Posted : 19 Oct, 2017 01:05 AM wow silver, that's quite a list..but then its your preference. as I think of your list..all I can say is that....who then would not want a normal person as his/ her partner, we all do want it. but oh..like me....I could just ask myself... where can I find that kind of guy these days..unless he must be godsend, heaven must intervene in that. with all gratitude....I thank you much for your reply. Post Reply
View Profile History	do you really know what you want? Posted : 19 Oct, 2017 11:42 AM Normal is a myth... but I agree as soon as it feels wrong run... just don't become pathological and run just because you can. Regarding the list... everyone has a list of what they want but few realize what they actually need. All you can really do is list what you would prefer and hope you get what you deserve but that is unfair towards both yourself and potential spouses. Man might plan but God decides. My mother jokes that she swore to herself when she was young that she would never marry a man with either a beard or a uniform... my dad became a bearded traffic cop Post Reply
osol_letse View Profile History	do you really know what you want? Posted : 19 Oct, 2017 07:44 PM lol Rambo....great point in there.. Post Reply
View Profile History	do you really know what you want? Posted : 20 Oct, 2017 04:03 PM Okay, I admit my list is incredibly long. I am maybe willing to cut it down a bit. Maybe she is indeed in big debt. Maybe she is not very fit. Okay, and maybe she is allergic to peanuts and milk. And perhaps her family isn't the greatest. If I met somebody like that, to tell you honestly, I would feel bad. because I Know that just a matter of time, and I am going to run into the "perfect person," and when I do I will be very sad knowing that I married an inferior partner who was not what I really wanted. Of course, I will never tell her that, but inside I would feel terrible. And that's what I don't want. See, many men run into a woman and get married, and later divorce because they discover that they are not right for each other. I don't want to go through those experiments. Marriage is not an experiment. It is supposed to be a final decision. So, I don't want to TRY someone just to see if she will work. I want to make sure that when I do marry someone, she is the right one, and I wasn't settling for the second best. because that's kind of like Abraham getting his son Ishmael. He was HIS son, indeed, but God had a different idea in mind. God wanted to give Abraham a REAL son through Sarah, not through another foreign woman. And if I settled for someone who is not what I want, I feel like it would be my Ishmael. And see, today Arabs are the descendants of Ishmael. Had Abraham obeyed God the first time, there would be no Arabs today, no terrorists, no suicide bombers and all that. But because of his disobedience, this is now what we have to deal with. So many times if we cannot be patient, we want to hurry things up, and it's only going to come back and hurt us in the end. Post Reply
View Profile History	do you really know what you want? Posted : 20 Oct, 2017 04:15 PM I am 36 years old right now. At this point, I could have 3 children and have been married 2 or 3 times. Instead I am single with no children, and just waiting. But which one is better? Marrying someone who is not God's best for me OR waiting for the right person? I think, waiting is better. And yes, I do have lots of requirements, but fortunately, there is hope, because God is a God of miracles. If something is very unlikely to happen, God can do it. Peter, the fisherman was very unlikely to become a preacher. He was not educated in the Law. He had an entirely different profession. So what were his chances of ever becoming a "fisher of men"? 0%! But Jesus can take the 0% chance and make it a 100%. :-) Post Reply
View Profile History	do you really know what you want? Posted : 20 Oct, 2017 11:49 PM You might just end up a confirmed bachelor, just a friendly warning. Also no such thing as perfect and ask yourself... if there actually is a woman "perfect" for you are you equally "perfect" enough to deserve her? Myself I have had my own list but that kind of woman is probably way too mythical to have a chance of existing, so I eventually whittled it down to a small core of needs and slightly larger periphery of wants and try to compromise where I seem to need to. There is no such thing as a "great catch" including myself, all mortals are slightly bent & broken, cracked & bruised with faults abound. The one's I have had contact with that SEEMED perfect enough so far have all had faults beneath the surface that were just enough to make them terrible matches for me but still one must try to be fair in judgment. At this point I am simply unabashedly me with only the darkest spots covered up and wait to see who actually sticks around for more than a few months. It is better to just be yourself and see who likes the real you than to try and find what YOU want in someone because like I said you/me/whoever probably don't deserve the heights initially aimed for anyway. In my case this approach is especially needed since I am not for the faint of heart, too much constrained passion and fearless thinking causing others to go "wait what? get away from me you monster". Post Reply
Melissam871 View Profile History	do you really know what you want? Posted : 22 Oct, 2017 07:11 AM Please do not cut your list down. It's a rare treat to see guys who know exactly what they want in lady. It makes life so much easier when the other person makes it clear what they look for, and takes away the mind games and false hope that you can be prone to when your getting to know someone. Then your walls are torn When you find you are mismatched in some way. Hope other men follow your example :) Post Reply

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