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Admin	Conversation on CDFF Posted : 4 Mar, 2015 09:19 AM Why so many men start conversation and end it after a few messages, without giving any reason? Have they been frustrated by women/girls the same way and want to give it back to any other women/girls? How many of you did it and why? Post Reply
HoosierHomeschooler View Profile History	Conversation on CDFF Posted : 4 Mar, 2015 04:11 PM Usually, in my case it's the lady who slows down and stops responding. But ... if I'm deciding I'm not interested ... I'll take longer to answer. The most likely interpretation is that the guy in question lost interest. To him, presumably, something was looking incompatible. Post Reply
RD63 View Profile History	Conversation on CDFF Posted : 5 Mar, 2015 05:28 PM Women do the same. So, do what I do... write one last message and ask if they are still interested. Even if they don't respond you won't be wondering if the interest is over. As for as a expecting a reason for ending the conversation, (a reason truly is optional at such an early stage of meeting someone, not so much after two people have been seeing each other for more than two weeks or a month. I wouldn't expect a reason at such an early stage unless I was transparent and upfront that I would give one myself if I were asked. Post Reply
HoosierHomeschooler View Profile History	Conversation on CDFF Posted : 5 Mar, 2015 06:41 PM Agreed, RD. There have been a couple times I've asked if I offended by something I said. If still no answer ... then the interest is gone, offense or not. In one case, I lady had not replied, but I asked about an offense. She said no, but we just lived too far apart. Post Reply
View Profile History	Conversation on CDFF Posted : 6 Mar, 2015 01:44 PM Thank you. It's a good option to write a last message, but it happens so often that I tried to write the more things I can about my personality in my profile to avoid this situation...I think most of men here are players and haven't a Christian behavior, otherwise they shouldn't disturb serious ladies and and do as if they haven't never write! Sometimes they write more than 2 weeks! I reply only to men who look serious in their profiles now Post Reply
View Profile History	Conversation on CDFF Posted : 6 Mar, 2015 01:59 PM I know guys easily loose interest. That's we girls rarely know how to speak to them. Sometimes, they're expecting a precise word or answer and when you say something else, it's enough to them to break all what we were building. Maybe you know that. How to find a man who accepts girls for who we are and not for who they want we to be? Post Reply
1mountain View Profile History	Conversation on CDFF Posted : 8 Mar, 2015 10:37 PM If I did that it would be because I was never interested from the start. Being very picky and having a lot of requirements leaves me with very few to consider to start with. Some gals don't read my profile before trying to start conversation though and I think assume I'm interested when I wouldn't be. Others didn't read my profile and think they could tolerate me lol and my eccentricities even though in reading their profile I know they couldn't. I would suggest that a lot of times it comes down to that. I was talking with a gal for a couple of weeks one time, and things were going great. Suddenly I get a message from her, 'oh please tell me you're joking about smoking and drinking' which is one of the first things I mention on my profile. For her it was horrifying, and took her by surprise because even though she viewed me she hadn't read that. Either that or they run out of things to talk about. Most of all with the 'hey how are you doing' kind of messages. If I don't know what to say in reply to a message, I'll put off replying because I can't think of what to say. If I put off replying long enough then I'll often forget to reply at all. If you're really into a guy and the conversation dies, start it up again with something off topic and interesting. Post Reply
Searchingformyrib View Profile History	Conversation on CDFF Posted : 12 Mar, 2015 06:39 AM I'd like to Wade in on this. I really do accept people for who they are. I like to use a bad Robin Williams joke. "I'm liking for a woman who gives mind" :prayingm: I've been here less than a week, what I've found is a quite a few women who I find interesting. A couple who I want to talk to daily. Some who I've talked to, ask me to talk about my self, my Bio already says a lot. I want to learn about them. I'll be honest there is a test. I will in small ways constantly work to lead the relationship to center on HIM. prayer, is the most intimate thing a man and woman can do together. Everything else Springs from it. If I'm not getting that, hearing HIM. I'll shy away. Post Reply
View Profile History	Conversation on CDFF Posted : 13 Mar, 2015 05:50 PM I had to go and look at your profile as you said you have already said a lot. Yes, you did have a nice filled out profile, so way to go there! BUT a lot of what you said made me have more questions to ask you. That's how a conversation should go, wouldn't you agree? She shares some and then you share? When I get one-sided conversations, it's frustrating. As much as you would like to hear about her, I'm betting the same goes for her too. Just a thought. Sorry for the side track on the topic. It just made me curious ;) Mostly I think men and women both tend to have this type of thing happen where the emails stop. It's usually that one has lost interest. If that's the case then just move on. Chalk it up as whittling it down and being that much closer to finding the right one! ;) Post Reply
View Profile History	Conversation on CDFF Posted : 7 May, 2015 08:11 AM maybe they found another women better than the the other girl they first messaged...or they get turned off.... Post Reply
View Profile History	Conversation on CDFF Posted : 9 May, 2015 05:58 AM Message for Bible7 only: Sorry you had to go through that. Nowadays, more people are having short attention spans. That is may be why people lose interest "inbox messaging" back and forth. Good news: There are men on this site who are here mainly for ministry and not to date. You can see them treating women as their sisters--not pursuing to date the women, but uplifting them, encouraging them, and advising them--just like they would treat their own sisters. It may be difficult to witness this in the forums, but if you hang around the chat rooms (for a long time), you can learn much behavior by how the men act and how they chat with women. And it's better to chat in a big group (in the chatrooms). Because there will be others there to call out red flags. There are many dangers of chatting one on one too soon. Some people here have been scammed even after a year or so of talking (outside of this site). People have asked for money (after a long time), have stolen pictures, or have wasted thousands (cash) to meet someone (who turned out to not be interested). Then, there's the other men looking for their 2nd, 3rd, 4th wife, or multiple wives for a polygamous relationship. Post Reply

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