They often say that God knows our hearts' desires.
I know in my heart that I want to be a wife and mom.
But why doesn't the right partner ever comes along? My exes are fine people, however, it was either the wrong timing or I just felt like my gut was telling me that we were not the right match so we had to end it.
Do guys think this way too? Or is it different? I know you have the benefit of proposing to any lady that your heart desires.
But if you came to a point when you really can't find what you're looking for, what would u do? Would u just settle with whomever comes next or would u rather stay single and say to yourself that, "maybe, it isn't God's will for me to get married."
It is possible to be setting one's sights too high ... in one way or another. Money, looks, location, etc. If that is the problem, then accepting reality and evaluating the people available is appropriate.
One should never "settle" for a partner with whom he or she has little chance of building a good marriage. For a Christian, that includes the fact that one should never "settle" for a non-christian.
Looking in other venues (church organizations, for example) and staying single for the time being are both options.
One should never marry with the idea that he or she is settling for someone. If both partners do not enter the marriage believing they are blessed to be getting the person they are marrying, there's already poison in the relationship.
I will start by prefacing your question and then introduce some ways to move past your current ideology in viewing men so here goes:
Do guys think this way too? Or is it different? I know you have the benefit of proposing to any lady that your heart desires.
I do not know how others think. I do know that for myself if something is not right the two parties can discuss it and find out for sure if something has presented itself that makes the two people non compatible. Communication strengthens the bond, lack of communication weakens the bond and here are some things to consider:
1. What attracted you to the person initially?
A. Was it their expertise in the word?
B. Was it how they looked?
2. Relationships based on chemistry, meaning pheromones and biological factors for the continuation of the species are primal.
3. If you are Christian then you are Christ like, If you are Christ like then you are following the Father. If you are following the Fathers rules then look at 1st Samuel where it says, and I am paraphrasing here, "The father does not look at the mans height, he looks in the mans heart". The idea is you have to understand the man and you do this by asking questions over time and comparing that to his actions and your understanding of what a Christian man is and the traits he must have.
With all that being said, have you found a Christ-like partner? If you didn't, would you take it as a message from God that you probably shouldn't marry? Or would you still marry and hope that you'll turn your partner into a Christ-like being?
I don't know that I am looking for anything but friends and to let the friendship blossom... So far I have found some great women on the positive side, on the not so positive side they live far from me. LOL.
If I am single then that is okay with me. I am happy to be at that place until I am not at that place. So until that time I just keep making friends with no expectations until we talk for so long that it is a clear message that our destiny lies in within each others gaze...
I was exactly the same way..well, I think I still am. However, I think I just came into a crossroad. I am so close to getting married, but I am not certain if I should, hence this post.
I'm thinking if I should keep looking, or take the plunge.
I was always of the mind that it is better to be happily single than miserably married. But I cant tell you what to do. Only you know if he is the right one. Personally, I would never get married because I was afraid I would never find someone. That is a recipe for disaster because you may spend most of your married life wondering if you missed the man/woman God has ordained for you.
