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SweetandSour View Profile History	Would you rather.... Posted : 31 Oct, 2013 09:21 AM 1. Have the girl read your message and not reply 2. Have the girl send you the message of "I don't think we're a match" 3. Have the girl write her own version of the "I don't think we're a match" or 4. Fall in love with you hahahaha I have always wondered how I should handle the task of telling a guy that I don't think we're a good match. Especially when the message is literally just, Hi How are you? Any input would be greatly appreciated!!! Thanks :) Post Reply
jctraveler View Profile History	Would you rather.... Posted : 31 Oct, 2013 09:35 AM obviously...number 4 :laugh: truthfully though, if she's really not interested i feel that she should simply say she isn't. (her own version) one thing is certain, whether she uses a default "i'm not interested" or says it in her own words, the one thing she (or he for that matter) should never do is not respond. it's discourteous and disrespectful. now whether to respond to a wink or not is a different story in my book. the wink thing is generic but if someone takes the time and thought process to actually generate a message and send it to you i feel there is an obligation to speak to them. if i opened the door at the supermarket and said "good morning" and you didn't respond it would be the same thing. this is just a different venue for meeting someone. and, by the way, welcome to cdff jb Post Reply
SweetandSour View Profile History	Would you rather.... Posted : 31 Oct, 2013 09:51 AM Thanks for the welcome :) What about the ones that send generic "How are you?" With "Hi" in the subject line? I have to be honest usually I just read and don't respond. But you're right it's pretty rude if someone said hi to me in the supermarket and I snubbed them. Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you rather.... Posted : 31 Oct, 2013 10:12 AM If she wasn't interested in me then I think I'd prefer to have the auto-response. I've been at this for years though and have never seen it used once I don't think. Anyway, at least that way I would know and not have to make guesses or assumptions as to what her level of interest is, if I should try a different angle, if I have a chance, and why the email hadn't been replied to up to that point. She's just not interested. Ok, I can respect and deal with that. No further explanation needed. How would you prefer to be responded to, OP, if you were really interested in a guy, but he didn't like you back? Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you rather.... Posted : 31 Oct, 2013 10:15 AM If it's just "Hi" or "How are you?", you shouldn't even bother with those. But in my opinion though, if it looks like he's really trying and it looks like he's putting a fair amount of time or energy into it, but you're just not interested, then letting him know that would be considerate I think. Post Reply
jctraveler View Profile History	Would you rather.... Posted : 31 Oct, 2013 10:30 AM @sweet if someone says hi, how are you, that's not generic. by generic i mean clicking on a button or icon. too many people think that just because they are on the internet instead of face to face that it's ok to act differently than in person. well.. i totally disagree with that. i see no distinction in how someone should act towards another just because they are not face to face with them... here's a thought. how about if Jesus had acted differently to us, i mean, He's not face to face with us. the bottom line... you have to sleep with your conscience at night and i with mine. :glow: don't forget what the Word says: "entertain all strangers for whereby some have entertained angels unaware." Post Reply
Cat4Christ777 View Profile History	Would you rather.... Posted : 31 Oct, 2013 10:44 AM SweetandSour, Just be aware that a lot of the "Hi, how are you?" type messages are from scammers, who, once they've got you chatting with them, will ask you to leave the site for some other chat medium. They do this to lure you away from the protections provided by CDFF, and then they will tell you a very sad story and say how desperately they--or some relative--needs money, and could you wire it to them. So, when someone asks you early on to leave the site, they are not really a customer of CDFF. And say "NO," if anyone asks you for money via the Internet--regardless of the reason they give. You can't know if they're telling the truth or just taking advantage of you. That said, welcome to CDFF, sis! I pray God brings you a wonderful match! God bless! --Cat Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you rather.... Posted : 31 Oct, 2013 11:12 AM You don't think interacting with people online is different from face-to-face? I don't think so because a "Hi" in the grocery store is more meaningful than a "Hi" in my inbox. Why? Because that person took the time to look presentable (unless you're at Walmart. I kid, I kid!) is taking the time and risk to connect and be nice and make me feel better about myself and validated. A lot of times we'll say something like "How's it going?" without really expecting much of an in depth or honest response, but I still think it is more meaningful than just asking online. I don't think just sending "Hi" or "How's it going?" in an email comes close to accomplishing the effect they have of saying them in person and it is unrealistic and unfair to expect women to respond to those when, on top of what I all ready said, they get dozens of messages like that from God knows who. Even if they're not from scammers, I still think a lady whom you're interested in on here deserves better than that. Post Reply
SweetandSour View Profile History	Would you rather.... Posted : 31 Oct, 2013 01:43 PM Well here's the other thing. If I took the time and wrote a long meaningful message to a guy I saw on here and was interested in and I saw that he read my message but never replied... I would think, "Okay. Next!" Haha Which is why I never thought it to be rude. That being said. I don't want to continue on a conversation where I'm not interested and I'm a very honest person. I've already been in several situations where I very politely told the person that we wouldn't be a good match and they went off on me. I mean who wants that? I would rather ignore when it comes down to it. Post Reply
jctraveler View Profile History	Would you rather.... Posted : 31 Oct, 2013 02:39 PM @sweet if you already had your mind made up as to what you were going do then why did you post the question? :ROFL: if you can ignore people when they speak to you and still sleep well at night i suppose you'll wake up refreshed in the morning, however; if you are rude to people and still sleep well then perhaps the question you should be asking is "how do i receive the Holy Spirit?" because when a person is born of the Holy Spirit, the Spirit will not let them be rude to others without convicting them of their actions. jb Post Reply
SweetandSour View Profile History	Would you rather.... Posted : 31 Oct, 2013 02:45 PM Good question! :) I asked out of curiosity. :P Post Reply

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