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BlackTigress777

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Do any of you guys actually wait until marriage on here?
Posted : 10 Sep, 2013 06:52 PM

As a Christian person, that's what you're supposed to do. I personally don't think it's all that challenging as people make it out to be.



I'm just wondering if there's any guys on here who wait until marriage or who are at least willing to do so.



You can answer yes or no if you'd like. You don't have to include anything else if you don't want to.

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Cat4Christ777

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Posted : 10 Sep, 2013 11:41 PM

Hi, BlackTigress777, love your nick!



I don't think guys think the same way us gals do, regarding waiting for marriage before making love.



Personally, I believe this world (meaning the various entertainment industries--movies, porn, games) has taught them to expect sex in any relationship, whether they're interested in marriage or not.



Maybe you should put in your profile that you will only date those men who will commit to waiting for marriage before getting physical with you. That way, any man who is interested will see that on your profile and know you are serious.



And, any real Christian man would agree to wait. I guess that's a gauge that will tell you whether a man is Christian or not, huh?



Either way, make sure they know, up front, that you expect to be treated with respect, as you are a daughter of the King of Kings; valued for who you are. Then, tell them that your purity is a gift you will give to that special husband on your wedding night, and not before!



Stay strong, sister! Take care and God bless!



--Cat

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Posted : 11 Sep, 2013 08:35 AM

I don't think guys think the same, regarding what marriage is?

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BlackTigress777

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Posted : 11 Sep, 2013 12:54 PM

Thank you, Cat4Christ777! I appreciate the answer. :)

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Posted : 13 Sep, 2013 05:53 PM

When I was in the Army it was extremely difficult. I'd get made fun of and looked down on all the time. As soon as people found out they would do their best to make me feel like a freak, or pathetic, or a loser, humiliated, and disrespected. I felt like I was the only one and as soon as word got out pretty much everyone knew and would then come over and do their best to make me feel like a loser.

I do remember one time though when a SSG found out and said "You a virgin?" and at that point I had just HAD it and said "Yeah, so the f- what!?" then as he proceeded to make me do pushups for that, he told me he was going to congratulate me and shake my hand. That's the only time though in all the people I had met in almost 2 years at that point that someone ever didn't make fun of me for it. And the only person since. Go figure.

Then there was deploying and the very real fact that I could die alone with no one to miss me. So all of that caused me to not really care so much about avoiding sex and eventually I decided it just wasn't worth it and it became a choice of lose all the disrespect and humiliation by pursuing something that looks fun anyway OR continue to feel bad over all that humiliation and disrespect to hold out for the off chance I ever end up meeting some one I hopefully liked and get married. Also at the time it seemed the few Christian woman I had met were stuck up, self-absorbed, judgmental and didn't like me anyway while the bad girls were outgoing and fun and at least I felt like I had some chance of them liking me. I do regret making that decision, but I really don't see how I could've chosen otherwise given what I knew then. Despite what you might think, sometimes it is very difficult.

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Posted : 14 Sep, 2013 11:40 PM

Im 45, never married, and Ive waited. Its difficult, but with God all things are possible.

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Posted : 15 Sep, 2013 01:53 AM

Welldone my brother



I'm very proud of you



May God reserve you the very best woman,

A woman whose far beyond your description of your ideal wife.

May He (God) reward you for all years of patience, obedience and fearing Him which is the beginning of wisdom.



That's a charm,

Its a turn onn,

And it says a lot about you.



Keep waiting I support you my brother

In due season God will reward your efforts,

Waiting is a tough effort, not only concerning sex, but waiting in general knowing that you can altinate & maybe settle for less compared to what you would have had if only you've waited.



Keep up

I'm proud of you!!

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DontHitThatMark

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Posted : 15 Sep, 2013 06:18 AM

I'm waiting, and at least one more guy is that I know, but there definitely aren't many left. There aren't many women left either. I always thought that most people kind of look down on people who don't have sex before marriage, but I've been getting a lot of respect for it lately, from the strangest places, so for all those who are waiting, don't just assume everybody thinks you're crazy. And in defense of those who haven't waited, and for those who judge those who haven't waited, love covers a multitude of sins, and while you don't have to marry anyone you don't want to, I'd hold off on thinking that we're somehow better for doing so. Christ can take someone and give them a new life, and if they "Bring forth fruits meet for repentance", you might be far better off with someone who "didn't wait" over someone who did. Abstinence is no sign of a good person/christian without a changed heart.



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Posted : 16 Sep, 2013 02:27 AM

"abstinence is no sign of good person/christian without a changed heart".

This is so true.I don't support sex before marriage,but this statement is so true and teaches alot.Its the heart that matters for a relationship to succeed.

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Posted : 17 Sep, 2013 03:33 AM

Take heart, there are a few men left that will wait for marriage, knowing that though it's hard, they can do it through Christ.

I could recommend to you a site, as well, if I may message you priviliy.



I have set the LORD always before me: because he is at my right hand, I shall not be moved. - Psalm 16:8

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Posted : 17 Sep, 2013 06:02 PM

At first looking at the replys, I wasn't sure if this was " Ask the Guys" or "Ask the girls" LOL. But simply put. No before I became a Christian, Yes since becoming a Christian. And no It aint easy! :goofball:

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