Do you have faith it can work? Am new here,and today is my full 3rd day,in those few days i have met rejection and all that....am just wondering,is there a problem with dating long distance and interacially?
This is a christian site,and i know a lot comes with long distance dating,its too much sacrifice sometimes and all that...but we all believe in God i suppose,and he promised to do great and unsearchable things when we call unto him...and so far as we journey through life,am sure all of us can say they have seen God work in our favour,even where we tend to think it wont be possible.
So,why is it hard to love someone miles away,by getting to know someone and through,prayers,faith and honesty wait upon God?
All things are possible through Christ are they not? The opportune words are THROUGH CHRIST, meaning a worldly relationship, interracial, long distance, or whatever other irrelevant and false disclaimer that can be conjured up to distract people should not be a concern. You may ask how can such a thing be? My opinion is we are all children under G-d, therefore it is the part under the phenotyping that will stand the test of time. It is your walk together and how you go about building the foundation using the word as you guiding law and not breaking the law.
Of course you know breaking the law is sin, and enough sin will destroy the foundation you have carefully constructed.
G-d centered relationships, homes and family life do not fail... Longsuffering is the key to all relationshipsm and long distance means you have to get creative in the bonding process. It is my opinion if you survive the test of distance and are actively constructing a plan to be close through marriage and family involvement you have done well...
You can romanticize it all you want, but there aren't a lot of people who are cut out for a long distance relationship. Part of being in a relationship is getting to BE with that person, and being at opposite ends of the same state is hard enough, much less on two separate continents. Not to mention that you're in Africa, a continent notorious for its people scamming Americans. I'm sure you have the best of intentions, but you have a lot to overcome. I highly doubt that the interracial part has anything to do with it. Sure there are some people on here who have been able to make cross-continental relationships work, but they're very hard to maintain.
You've also only been on here for three days. Dating sites aren't exactly Amazon.com for relationships. Finding someone who you really click with is hard to do on the internet, just like it is in real life.
Thank you for your advice too,i know its not easy and i have been here few days....and am still learning.As for Africans being scammers e.t.c....is it just to judge based on someone's continent? At the end of the day,it takes one to know someone before reaching conclusion....you are the 1st i have heard this from,but am sure those who have been here and were on the right places,with the right people,have something different to say...scammers are really everywhere.
Thank you for your advice too,i know its not easy and i have been here few days....and am still learning.As for Africans being scammers e.t.c....is it just to judge based on someone's continent? At the end of the day,it takes one to know someone before reaching conclusion....you are the 1st i have heard this from,but am sure those who have been here and were on the right places,with the right people,have something different to say...scammers are really everywhere.
Thank you for your advice too,i know its not easy and i have been here few days....and am still learning.As for Africans being scammers e.t.c....is it just to judge based on someone's continent? At the end of the day,it takes one to know someone before reaching conclusion....you are the 1st i have heard this from,but am sure those who have been here and were on the right places,with the right people,have something different to say...scammers are really everywhere.
I completely understand that there are plenty of great, upstanding African Christians out there, but if every dog you pet bites you, you are going to stop petting dogs. It's just human nature.
Just a week or so ago, there was another story on the news about a number of women who thought they had boyfriends in Africa but were actually unknowingly helping scammers steal thousands of dollars in a puppy scam. When it's not that, we hear stories of people being scammed directly for money themselves. One friend had his Facebook account hacked into, and the hacker messaged me trying to get me to wire him money by saying he'd been mugged in London. Then there are the stories of foreign men and women starting an online romance with the sole intention of getting a green card.
You can say that you have to get to know people before you judge them all you want, but there's enough danger in online dating as it is. People just don't have the time and energy to put themselves out there with every single person who messages them, especially when the chances of a successful relationship are so low.
you can't blame them because people from countries such as ours have a higher percentage who come on dating sites with a different agenda in mind, which is sad really because they do not know Who to truly go to for provision.
Both Fly and Tulip have good points in their pieces of advice. Listen and Learn.
I would strongly suggest that you sit back and observe for a few months what this site is all about.
Of course some people might have a problem with interracial rships; everyone has preferences, however, you shouldn't let that deter you.
The distance part is a hurdle that some people aren't willing to jump. Time zones are different, phone networks can be a headache, internet outages etc.
Also what Tulip mentioned is true. I think i have reported at least 5 scammers to admin this week only. Not to say that you are a spammer, or all Africans are (I'm originally from Africa), but you can understand the skeptisicm.
In my humble opinion, the best way to meet some incredible people here is to be their friends first.
Hope it all works out for you, remember you have just been here for less that a week!
