Author	Thread: You guys confuse me...lol
heatherqberry View Profile History	You guys confuse me...lol Posted : 21 Nov, 2012 08:15 AM Ok, so I know us ladies can be confusing to you guys at times, but the door definitely swings both ways!! lol. For instance, I have had a few different guys on here initiate a conversation or wink with me. As soon as I message them back, with a casual "hi, how are you?" I either don't hear from them, or they will message me once and then not again. One guy made the first move in saying hi to me and showering me with compliments. All signs pointed to him being interested in getting to know me, including the fact that after a few messages he asked for my number so he could "text or call and get to know me better" (as he quoted). I finally caved and gave him my number, only to never hear from him again lol!! I mean, it's certainly no loss to me! I am not on here because I "need" a guy to complete me or whatever...only God can complete you. I guess I am just baffled at the "indecisiveness", if that's what it is, of some of the guys on here. Why make all the effort to message a girl and make her think you're interested in her if you have no intention of following through?! lol! Are these just mind games? Are these guys just not taking this seriously? or are they just thinking they are interested and then freak?! Or maybe the guys just don't really know what they want...ANY IDEAS???! Post Reply
Gourd00 View Profile History	You guys confuse me...lol Posted : 21 Nov, 2012 01:44 PM Honestly, being a guy, I don't know what to tell you. Maybe just some guys trying to get attention? Maybe a bot program? I totally wouldn't give out your number until you know for sure that the guy is seriously interested though, as who knows what the guys might use it for. Are a large portion of these guys from outside the country? Looking at dating sites, it's really disappointing to see our country so incapable of handling what should be one of the most basic functions in society- knowing how to start and raise a family. Post Reply
View Profile History	You guys confuse me...lol Posted : 21 Nov, 2012 03:16 PM Once they see you can handle a rifle they.............>>>>> I just think most men are not mature enough to handle a genuine emotional relationship. Post Reply
heatherqberry View Profile History	You guys confuse me...lol Posted : 21 Nov, 2012 07:36 PM No, not outside the country. The one who asked for my number is a U.S. citizen lol. But I know what you're saying! I normally do not give out my number until I have gotten to know someone better, but he seemed genuinely interested after the few messages we had exchanged. Oh well, lol! Post Reply
View Profile History	You guys confuse me...lol Posted : 22 Nov, 2012 07:18 AM telephone,isnt that the scary place where emotions hide out? Post Reply
wikkie View Profile History	You guys confuse me...lol Posted : 22 Nov, 2012 12:44 PM My advice is to go to GOD and ask Him> He is faithful we all know it, but to be honest be happy if a guy does something weird or crazy like that in the beginning. Jesus wants the best for you and your family and frankly He knows who/where when and thats what we want. Just keep Jesus Christ number 1 (or make Him) and the rest will follow in time. You want that real man that He chose for you. Also remember it's the end of the year and it's holidays. People are tired and lonely . People get desperate so be careful don't rush into things. Proverbs 3:6 in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight. Blessings Post Reply
heatherqberry View Profile History	You guys confuse me...lol Posted : 22 Nov, 2012 06:35 PM Thanks for the wisdom...yes, I definitely agree with you there. Probably God's way of protecting me from the wrong ones and I would much rather "dodge a bullet" now than to get too far into a relationship with the wrong person. No rushing here! Post Reply
View Profile History	You guys confuse me...lol Posted : 29 Nov, 2012 03:53 AM Well my sister, dont be confused, rather be thankful! God has applied a filter that is weeding out the riff raff. That filter God has put in place for you will one day let through the pure product that matches everything you desire! Just as God guided Ruth to Boaz, he will surely guide you to your Boaz - who will be so interested in you that he will be calling 24-7! :excited: God bless you and your lovely family! Post Reply
Philipian View Profile History	You guys confuse me...lol Posted : 1 Dec, 2012 05:01 AM As Jah2303 said, you might be thankful first that he never called. Maybe a filter of grace was quantifiably applied.However, to my little and apt knowing, a man may not call back again or even call at all the given number probably something of interest in another zone propped up or got smoothen-ed up! I know you know what I be talking! So there was no need again checking you out! Simple. Plain..Just a counterpart to A B C! Also, along the line of conversation on "hi". A guy may find it displeasing, if with a genuine mind, he took time to write you an introductory mail, the first time, second time and third time and even fourth, and for all of that he kept getting "hi", "hey" or something...He may read all that as " he not being a ranking one on your mind"...and that may make him back down. There are still guys around, that despite being single and wanting to meet someone here online, dont make them see themselves desperate enough to wait in that "endless forever" queue! I don't know if my response make any meaning to your question. I wish you the best around here. Post Reply
heatherqberry View Profile History	You guys confuse me...lol Posted : 3 Dec, 2012 09:58 PM Yes, your responses do make sense. Although, I feel like in the past I have always been very quick to respond/reply to message. Maybe that is my problem...too available?! It's so sad that you have to play these "games" on here of "waiting to respond" etc, but sadly, you do! I've found when I respond right away to a guy's message or missed "IM", they never message me back?! I honestly think that's immature, silly and wrong...be a man and own up to your responsibilities! You are either ready for a relationship or you aren't...if you aren't get off of here!! Heather Post Reply
Philipian View Profile History	You guys confuse me...lol Posted : 5 Dec, 2012 12:06 AM But do you understand, your quickness and agility to respond is not a bad idea, especially if guided forthrightly to meet the right target! Remember the palsied man at the pool, for many years! Due to his inertia and inability to jump in when the angel rumble the waters....Those who had the zest got in quick and went home quick all healed up! .If you are prompt on target for the right one, you wont need to be long here before your membership is done, cos you will hit your mark and get what you need. Hopefully, you have been too available for the wrong matches maybe! For what its worth, calm down and honestly figure out what you want. Also find out where they could be located are. Negotiating them out will be the easiest job ever done since elementary grades! Trust me. Remember different people are here for different reasons Heather. Some for less of the more you came here for. It dont fit. Sometimes dont wait to be found. Also dont sell out yourself...But honestly lashing out is not the solution. Guys will not stop the "hi" parlance.....It will continue. I wish you luck Heather. Post Reply

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