Author	Thread: Men, what do you think?
Admin	Men, what do you think? Posted : 8 Nov, 2012 01:11 PM Have you ever read something like this in a profile? "I am a single mom...my kids will always come first... if you don't like it, keep moving" This sentiment comes in many forms but the message is clear. 1. KIDS 2. ME 3. YOU Is this the Biblical order? Would you entertain a relationship on that basis men? Post Reply
View Profile History	Men, what do you think? Posted : 8 Nov, 2012 02:29 PM To be fair a lot of single fathers post this very disclaimer on their profile as well. There's a reason why people with children do it though, let me explain. People marry for the spouse and tolerate the children, and treat that spouse's children badly or decide to throw them out of house. I'm sure this would be different in a godly marriage, however I believe we see this in profiles for that very reason. A lot of people marry for the wrong reasons, if you're going to marry doneone with children it should already be acknowledged that they love their children and want that fatherly love and compassion from their husband, want that live and compassion from their new wife for their children. If you had children you'd want your wife to cook and clean for them as if they were her own children, would you not? That's what crossed my kind, god bless you. Post Reply
View Profile History	Men, what do you think? Posted : 8 Nov, 2012 02:41 PM Someone* love* Oh deary me, so many typos. Post Reply
View Profile History	Men, what do you think? Posted : 8 Nov, 2012 03:00 PM Thank you for your thoughts Ms.Marvelous. Sadly, often times divorce creates situations that can be difficult to navigate. Anyone considering entering into a relationship with another who already has children should seriously count the costs. They should only enter in if they have purposed and determined to love the "whole package". I have no doubt that you are right that single dads offer a similar proposition. That would look like this: 1.MY KID 2.ME (HUSBAND) 3.YOU ( WIFE) or like this: 1. ME (HUSBAND) 2. MY KID 3. YOU ( WIFE) My advice would be to avoid any situation that isn't presented like this: 1. ME (HUSBAND) 2. YOU ( WIFE) 3. MY KID One should not agree to the terms of the relationship up front while courting with the hope that it will change after marriage. Post Reply
View Profile History	Men, what do you think? Posted : 8 Nov, 2012 03:48 PM There should be no preference. Equal time should be devoted to all parties. Post Reply
View Profile History	Men, what do you think? Posted : 8 Nov, 2012 04:25 PM Mind* Goodness, this must be what Winnie The Pooh feels like when he's typing a letter. That bear has absolutely no discernible fingers from what I can see. Your wisdom, Mr. Truth as usual never goes unnoticed! Perhaps I'm far too touchy, feely and am again allowing myself to be ruled by my heart but I'd throw the list away. There will be days when one in a marriage can feel.. unimportant, or feel taken for granted. Call it eternal optimism, but I think it's a sweet, simple idea. The christian husband has the respect of the wife, and the christian wife has the love of her husband and she would in turn love the children, and respect his making decisions in their lives based on scripture. However then the "realism" creeps in and reminds me that people have different priorities and not everyone will carry the same yoke. I suppose it's worth trying to do right the first time and marry a godly spouse and seek never to get divorced lest you have to face the difficulties of being divorced in this day and age among many other consequences. Well, that was so muddled! I suppose I'll need to think on Matthew 6:33 and pray a lot now that you have me thinking. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Men, what do you think? Posted : 9 Nov, 2012 06:27 AM If everybody had a list where they place everyone else above themselves on their list, it would be a great world! I think that's the one God is trying to get us back to. :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	Men, what do you think? Posted : 9 Nov, 2012 09:10 AM There is no "TRY" with God - He DOES or he DOES NOT. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Men, what do you think? Posted : 9 Nov, 2012 10:50 AM You are correct sir, excuse the "try". :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	Men, what do you think? Posted : 9 Nov, 2012 11:07 AM When we speak of the Almighty, we must do so with fear and reverence. Words matter. When we speak incorrectly, we steal from HIS glory. This is why I am a stickler for such things. I know that you understand this point Mark but I am writing the following admonition for others who might read this thread. Post Reply
View Profile History	Men, what do you think? Posted : 9 Nov, 2012 11:26 AM It's God's will that we should honour others above ourselves - and those that seek to please Him will try to do so. The rest couldn't care less about what God wants and will do things their own way (ironically, they get very upset when He doesn't seem to care about what they want...) Post Reply

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