Author	Thread: 'Drama'
Admin	'Drama' Posted : 21 Sep, 2012 10:24 AM One thing I keep seeing consistently, when I read through these profiles, is that men are looking for women with 'NO DRAMA'. So, I'm curious... how do men define 'drama'? Post Reply
View Profile History	'Drama' Posted : 21 Sep, 2012 02:29 PM Tough question Nathalie. It seems unnecessary relationship drama is when too many issues become larger than life. Some use it to gain power...others to cope with life (baggage, differences, daily life) rather than dealing with issues effectively. Perhaps people are seeking those who act smartly as mates without overreacting. Post Reply
View Profile History	'Drama' Posted : 21 Sep, 2012 03:21 PM For some "Drama" may mean the following: - A woman with Kids. Some, if not most, men are wary of getting involved with a woman with kids from a previous relationship/s. This is "drama" especially if the father/s are constantly in the picture. -An emotionally unstable woman. Everyone has a story. A story that can affect the way we look at the world. If something has occurred in the past, such as being cheated on, could have a devastating effect on the lady. How the lady is able to handle these events/emotions is important. Club Scene/Smoker/Drinker...etc - Again, its all subjective. To some its drama to some its perfectly ok. Post Reply
View Profile History	'Drama' Posted : 21 Sep, 2012 07:55 PM The ability to handle "drama" separates the men from the boys. I would think most strong men or men of character could handle children, the occasional ex, so on and so forth. If a man isn't able to handle small problems like these, it's questionable as to whether or not you'd want them as a husband or protector in life. Post Reply
View Profile History	'Drama' Posted : 21 Sep, 2012 08:23 PM [quote]The ability to handle "drama" separates the men from the boys. I would think most strong men or men of character could handle children, the occasional ex, so on and so forth. If a man isn't able to handle small problems like these, it's questionable as to whether or not you'd want them as a husband or protector in life[/quote] I would like to give an example that shows how "drama" affected my rship. I was involved with a lady, who had a beautiful young boy around 4 years old. I would like to think i am a strong character. I was more than willing to raise the child as my own and support him of course, until one day whilst i was trying to discipline him-- he said, "I don't have to listen to you, you are not my father". Fair enough, I am not his father. The real father would drop in unannounced or call at random hours. At first, it was tolerable. After a while, it became unbearable. I realised that if i were to continue this rship, there would always be disrespectful ex in the picture -- and it would never work. The fact that I was unable to deal with that "drama" of the rship doesn't necessarily mean I am of a weak character or I would be a lousy husband or protector in life. Post Reply
View Profile History	'Drama' Posted : 21 Sep, 2012 10:11 PM Hi there, Your particular situation may have been different, I don't know you, or what you went through. I apologize if I offended you. I was making a generalization, I meant mostly... that people run from trouble or even the slightest unpleasantness because they feel they're above it, and nothing bad or unexpected can happen to them. Again, I didn't mean to offend you or take up any issue with you. Obviously I don't know anything about you, I was just generalizing on something I've seen often in some people. I do ardently apologize. Post Reply
View Profile History	'Drama' Posted : 21 Sep, 2012 11:04 PM I think you have a fair point MsMarvel, but men can avoid women with kids not just because of the drama attached, but because perhaps of their moral standpoint. For instance, the man my not prefer to start a relationship with the person because the other gave their chastity away to someone else (unless they were an adopted child) and this will definitely affect the relationship knowing that the other person gave themselves to other person before him. And the child isn't his; awkward breakfasts and all. However, I am not excluding circumstance: it could be that she is widowed or her ex was maritally unfaithful. One should not instantly assume that drama should be linked with avoidance of responsibility. Post Reply
View Profile History	'Drama' Posted : 22 Sep, 2012 12:48 AM I understand what you're saying, however this is sort of where grace, faith and love should be applied. Most people say they believe that Christ's blood covers all sins and that people are forgiven and their slate is clean, but they don't practice it in their lives, it isn't on their heart. I'm not saying that you should change your preference, if your preference is a virgin, someone without children or ex's or any problems, then that's your preference. Pride is very often confused with righteousness. The idea of "Not me." and "That's not God's plan for my life, God wouldn't want me to have this." is very prevalent in modern churches and among modern Christians. Post Reply
View Profile History	'Drama' Posted : 22 Sep, 2012 03:27 AM A godly answer from a godly person, proof that He is actually bearing fruit in your life. You're right. You're not getting legalistic like this ugly, masked person. Post Reply
View Profile History	'Drama' Posted : 22 Sep, 2012 04:00 AM @MsMarvel - No I was not offended at all by your post! :-) I used my example to just clarify my earlier statement. God Bless. Post Reply
View Profile History	'Drama' Posted : 22 Sep, 2012 04:12 AM SPQR, I'm sure you're not ugly but that's not really for me to decide, I'm always more mindful of those who have their ugliness all on the inside. Thank you for your kindness in turn, though I can only say the Lord has revealed to me through his mercy a great many things I could have no other way of knowing, or seeing. Your posts are very uplifting, and kind-spirited. I hope you'll stay long in this forum. Post Reply

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