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Admin	PURITY? Posted : 3 Feb, 2012 05:19 AM The single men and women, teens in my church are embarking on getting purity rings after some intensive study and prayer on the subject and what the bible (the final authority) says about it. Then we are coming together for a small prayer ceremony. this got me thinking... if you wore a purity ring what would it mean to you? You might be reading this and think "Duh remain pure" but after reading many posts, conversing with many believers and reading blogs about Christian relationships and this matter there seems to be a disconnect. There actually seems to have "varying degrees" of purity. which baffles me exceedingly! In my mind it doesn't compute. Men what are you thoughts? As a man what does purity to you signify and would you make sch a commitment? (Ladies I am posting this over on the "Ask a Girl" side also) God Bless. Post Reply
View Profile History	PURITY? Posted : 3 Feb, 2012 06:04 PM i was invited by a friend to His Daughter's purity ceremony awhile ago,and it seemed rather odd to me,a Father placing a ring on ring finger of the left hand if His daughter,but really none of my business....however my suspicion was,now only fella's that have no respect for marriage or whether a girl/lady is married are going to make a play for this young lady,as,She now appears Married...and my suspicions were soon proven correct :( Post Reply
AsmileForever View Profile History	PURITY? Posted : 6 Feb, 2012 09:57 PM The purity rings seems more like bragging to the nice guys and like a challenge to the evil men. Most men don't believe that the girl wearing one is really pure and that she is probably trying to shake an unpure image. If you do it for Jesus then go ahead but as with most pro-Jesus ideas they don't help you with everyone else. Post Reply
View Profile History	PURITY? Posted : 7 Feb, 2012 11:45 PM When I think of purity rings, I think of the scribes and Pharisees. Those who like to show off their "righteousness". Purity is betwen you and God. Also, it seems some people have a strange definition of purity (after reading this same topic in Ask a Girl). As the old saying goes, you cant unring a bell. You can be chaste, but pure is not something you can be after having sexual relations. Post Reply
View Profile History	PURITY? Posted : 8 Feb, 2012 04:51 AM Oh I know that, thanks for your comments so far guys. To me the purity rings is something that is beautiful and meaningful to the wearer, I believe no matter what you do there will still be lusts in this world and lusts in the flesh. Right now there is a tidal wave of sexual impurity in schools and sadly in the church. The purity rings if people want to take it as a bragging statement then so be it. Men and women brag about their conquests and are not ashamed, I would rather the youth have something that they are not ashamed of either. Could you imagine the incredible witness it could be for other young people who ask about it? It doesn't matter to me which finger it's on. I did some research on this topic and discovered that a lot of Christian couple have stop and go rules. "Yeah we make out but we don't go below the neck" I read of one couple. To me I wouldn't start in the first place because to me you are putting yourself to the test. Anyway those are my small two cents lol. I don't believe purity is elusive, it just means we have to try harder. And of course when you are married, it's something perhaps you can pass down to your son and daughter to tell and show them your stand to wait and be in God's will as He intended. God bless:waving: Post Reply
View Profile History	PURITY? Posted : 8 Feb, 2012 10:05 AM Devotedandtrue, I disagree with your definition of purity. There is a difference between being pure and being a virgin. Being impure is willingly having sex outside of marriage. You can get married and have plenty of sex with your spouse and still be pure, not a virgin, put still pure. And what about those who get raped? Are they no longer pure? They did not willingly have sex, so why would they be impure? Purity does involve an action, but it also involves an intent. Just as Jesus berated the Pharisees for following the LETTER of the law, but not the SPIRIT of the law. About wearing the rings: If they are going to wear the ring on their ring finger, then I would recommend not getting something that looks like and engagement ring. The ladies in the last church like to wear them, and it made it very difficult to know who was single and who wasn�t. Also, yes I have known a few people who have worn the rings only to make their parents happy but they weren�t actually staying pure. That does not mean that we should throw the tradition away just because there are those who are not true to their word. It would be like saying that marriage is hypocritical since so many people are divorced. It�s the principal that counts, not how many people stand behind it. Post Reply
View Profile History	PURITY? Posted : 8 Feb, 2012 11:37 AM I agree thanks Cobbler, it's simple bands saying true love waits and such stuff. You know what this reminds me of the sign of circumcision among the jews as a sign of covenant between them and God, then th circumcision of the heart that all believer are required to have. To me this is another sign of covenant between you and God to not led our bodies to sexual immorality. I hope all who choose to wear them really are committed and not because it has become fashionable to them. Post Reply
View Profile History	PURITY? Posted : 8 Feb, 2012 02:10 PM Filthy rags spring to mind - being 'pure' (and let's face it, it's us who decide whether we're 'pure' enough to wear the ring) in one area doesn't make one pure. I'm a sinner and there's no getting around that; the only thing I want to make public is His love for me, not my obedience (in one area). Post Reply
View Profile History	PURITY? Posted : 9 Feb, 2012 03:56 AM @cobbler. No, what youre speaking of is "purity" of heart. Since the OP was speaking of young people, I assume she meant young teenagers, the rings are symbols of virginity. No ring can sybolize purity of heart, because no one is that pure. Every human has had lustful thoughts and lusting in your heart is as much of a sin as actually having sex, in the eyes of God. As for rape, rape actually has more to do with dominance, power, and violence, than sex. It is a way to humiliate and degrade women. Also using rape as an example is a stawman tactic. You might as well use "what if she was riding a boys bike as a child and had an accident". I did not need a ring as a youth, or now. Instead of calling it a "purity ring" they should call it a "conversation starter ring", since the OP seems to be suggesting that it is a tool that young people can use to start a conversation about "purity". Post Reply
View Profile History	PURITY? Posted : 9 Feb, 2012 05:42 AM This is a fairly common topic on this forum, and it always seems to me that every time this topic is brought up there are plenty of people who try to muddy the water to justify their previous indiscretions. Like I said, the purity that the rings speak of is saving sex for marriage. Yes, there are plenty of ways to be impure, but the ring is speaking of abstaining from willingly having sex outside of marriage. As far as your �bike accident� that is a real straw man argument. There is a world of difference between being a virgin and having a torn hymen. Being a virgin means never having sexual intercourse. In fact, a woman can have sex and not have her hymen torn, so that is not an indicator of not being a virgin. From my experience, most people try to justify having sex outside of marriage by saying that it is impossible to wait until marriage. So, when they see someone actually trying, or people succeeding at it, like me, they try to tear them down, or minimize the accomplishment of those who have abstained to justify their own actions. Post Reply
View Profile History	PURITY? Posted : 9 Feb, 2012 06:30 AM ok, cobbler. I understand that with the condition you have you have trouble understanding when someone is trying to be subtle. So let me be blunt. If a woman is raped or had a bike accident, while she may no longer have a hymen, she is still a virgin because there was no intent on her part to sin. We did not have "purity rings" when I was a teenager and even if we had had them, I would not have worn one. I am 44 years old and still a virgin and I have absolutely no need to wear my faith as a sign saying "Look how righteous I am". That is what the Parisees did. They sat in the uppermost houses so all could see how "holy" they were. My faith is between me and my God. Post Reply

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