Author	Thread: Just a general moan
Admin	Just a general moan Posted : 27 Dec, 2011 02:11 AM I've come to the conclusion that many of the women here (on the forums at least) have a "box-ticking" mentality. You've got to be this, have that, do such and such, not done whatever, etc. And they seem to be pretty long lists too, judging from what they say about why they broke off with someone they spoke to or met. I'm fed up with it (here it is, the rant part) - why should I have to meet so many expectations to have a chance with someone when they're no less a sinner than me. Jesus took me as I was, and with His help, I'm changing to reciprocate that love. Seems many people have higher standards than Jesus though... They talk of their standards being godly and true Christians would have all of these traits, but they don't leave room for people to be human and fail in any of them. They talk of specifics in how a good man will treat them, but generalise or keep quiet about what they themselves will give. They talk that they deserve the best because God wants them to have the best, but they don't acknowledge they aren't the best God has to offer to men. Well that's my rant over - and it's probably knobbled the little chance I had of someone on here condescending to take a chance with me, but I've honestly stopped caring because what I see here is little different to that on secular dating sites, just with a few Bible quotes thrown in, and that saddens me. Post Reply
View Profile History	Just a general moan Posted : 27 Dec, 2011 01:52 PM I've thought the same "Well what makes you so high and mighty" thing too. I think it's just how this whole medium of online dating is set that makes it really difficult to have the correct perspective. Just gotta let it go and forgive other people as they knowingly or unknowingly trespass against you. Post Reply
View Profile History	Just a general moan Posted : 27 Dec, 2011 02:12 PM Hey guys, you must always give God the Praise and glory for not allowing these that silly ungodly women you are speaking about into yourlives... God has PROVEN TO YOU, THAT THEY ARE NOT THE ONES HE HAS CHOSEN FOR YOU!... that's the good news!!!... to know that God never fails, and He knows how to reveal darkness to the light... had any one these silly women hooked on to you, just think about what kind of problems you would be into about now in the relationship?Thank God for being a man of His word, and placing His hedge of protection around you from such silly women as these!... becasue they don't have a clue, and can't even meet the expectations God has placed on them to be wise godly women... Just continue to be still and know that God is LOOKING OUT FOR YOU!!! and you DO NOT have need to settle for NOTHING LESS THAN WHO YOU ARE IN CHIRST, AND WHO GOD HAS FOR YOU....Can I get an AMEN!!! annnd the angels sang AMEN! AND AMEN! AND AMEN TO THE MAN!!:yay::angel: Hang in there fellows ... joy comes in the morning... Post Reply
View Profile History	Just a general moan Posted : 27 Dec, 2011 03:31 PM Good reminder and advice ET. I'm not particularly down or anything, but thanks. :glow: Post Reply
View Profile History	Just a general moan Posted : 27 Dec, 2011 04:22 PM I think there are two kinds of christian women. One type grew up in the church, never really strayed from God, I think alot of them come off as holier then thou. Then the other type, women that didn't grow up in the church, who strayed and did God knows what kinda sinning, and then they found God. Type one probably have pretty high standards. Type two, thier standards maybe lower, maybe they even will just be happy with a "christian guy, that goes to church once in awhile". But when you think about it, yes we are all sinners we have our issues. But God wants the best for us, he wants us to be like Christ, as best we can. These women that have these high standards, have them for a reason. They protect them from ungodly men, or losers. It may upset you, or offend you, but that woman will eventually find one man that can meet all those standards. And if she doesn't, oh well that's her loss. But don't let it get you down. You decide what you want out of life, and you go for it. If you want to be a lukewarm christian, that goes to church once in awhile, secretly watches porn, etc. Then do it, and be with that lukewarm christian girl. But the people that are fully, desperately seeking God, and putting him first with every decision. Those are the ones that get the best blessings. Just my thoughts. Post Reply
View Profile History	Just a general moan Posted : 27 Dec, 2011 04:22 PM I think there are two kinds of christian women. One type grew up in the church, never really strayed from God, I think alot of them come off as holier then thou. Then the other type, women that didn't grow up in the church, who strayed and did God knows what kinda sinning, and then they found God. Type one probably have pretty high standards. Type two, thier standards maybe lower, maybe they even will just be happy with a "christian guy, that goes to church once in awhile". But when you think about it, yes we are all sinners we have our issues. But God wants the best for us, he wants us to be like Christ, as best we can. These women that have these high standards, have them for a reason. They protect them from ungodly men, or losers. It may upset you, or offend you, but that woman will eventually find one man that can meet all those standards. And if she doesn't, oh well that's her loss. But don't let it get you down. You decide what you want out of life, and you go for it. If you want to be a lukewarm christian, that goes to church once in awhile, secretly watches porn, etc. Then do it, and be with that lukewarm christian girl. But the people that are fully, desperately seeking God, and putting him first with every decision. Those are the ones that get the best blessings. Just my thoughts. Post Reply
Statie View Profile History	Just a general moan Posted : 27 Dec, 2011 05:20 PM Pffft.....:nahnah: to there being just TWO kinds of christian women!...In my opinion--there are MANY types of women--christian and otherwise. What the OP is referencing here are the women who believe that they are asserting themselves by requiring a certain standard of man seek their interest. While that is well and fine to have expectations of what a healthy love based relationship should be and they type of male you as women want to share your life with, this rigid standard that women set for the most part isn't very realistic as to who most men are. Ladies--like yourselves we are merely a work in progress. Having said that, life's experiences make all of us who we are. It would be a fair assumption based on life's trials and tribulations that no man nor any woman is going to reach old age unscathed we will learn and grow not from our winnings--but from our losses, our failures. While there is no such thing as the PERFECT MALE, there is certainly a male that is perfect for you. Chances are if you are honest with yourself--he won't by any means be a finished product--but certainly a sound foundation on which you can learn from each other to be the best person that you can be, male and female alike. Having such pious, rigid requirements in a male may leave many of you living a life of singledom. Let she who is without sin cast the first stone--lol Post Reply
View Profile History	Just a general moan Posted : 27 Dec, 2011 05:42 PM PFFfft. back. lol :nahnah: I realized after I posted, that only men are sopposed to answer those questions. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Just a general moan Posted : 27 Dec, 2011 05:57 PM Eh, girls answer questions here, guys answer questions over in the "Ask a girl"...doesn't really make any difference, as long as the questions get answered!!! And we ALL put in our 2 cents worth no matter where something is posted! Post Reply
View Profile History	Just a general moan Posted : 28 Dec, 2011 08:27 PM To the OP, Wondering if it might be helpful to widen the criteria of the women you are looking for... perhaps one you wouldn't normally first be attracted to? You might find a pleasant surprise in a package you overlooked because of subconscious criteria of your own. Some women don't need to be treated like princesses... just fellow travellers who sometimes lend a hand and sometimes need one. :excited: Post Reply
View Profile History	Just a general moan Posted : 28 Dec, 2011 10:11 PM God wants the best for us yes, but what makes people think they know what the best is? Not everyone is going to get a spouse that matches their list. Especially since the lists are almost always full of carnal wants. I'm sure the harlot wasn't Hosea's first choice. Post Reply

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