As I have stated in my post "farewell adress" I want to leave some final thoughts before I go.
I wanted to share with you fellas some important advise I have learned and that you might find helpful.
*Disclaimer: I think that there will be some of you women that might find this offensive, so I urge caution because I will be speaking to the men unfiltered. :^) *
Perhaps every man here has experienced the anxiety that comes from being in the precence of a really beautiful woman...im talkin those 9s and 10s that make our heart race, but don't be intimidated.
Aim high...more than likley if you strip away the makeup and the flattering clothes, and add sunlight a 9 or 10 will drop a few notches.
I also say aim high because time is not as kind to women as it is to men, all things being equal (self care, circumstance etc). And womens' bodies are put through the crucible of baring a child (a possible advantage to courting a single mom, is you know what she looks like after childbirth)
Aim high, dont take a woman out of desperation, you will just hurt her, anger God, and keep her from a man more on her level that would be excited to have her as his wife.
but in all things take a Godly woman over a pretty one if thats all the options you have...because none of them (or us) are good, and the only lovley thing in them is Jesus...question is...how much is in there?
What I am about to say may �Offend� you but I am Speaking to All Christians�so the �Gloves� are off.
Aim High�sounds like a Clint Eastwood Movie.
When you start Classifying and Rating Women According to Physical Features and Characteristics ( 1 to 10)�you Create a �Supermarket Affect� when it comes to Women.
Women are very Different then Men�God Created them that way. I tend to Think that God did His Best Work when He Created Them. Sure�they are not as Muscular or as Strong or as Combative (all of The Testosterone Traits). How they Handle the Pain of Childbirth is beyond me.
That being said�Women can be just like Men in their Preferences. You may think yourself �not desirable� to Women�but that is your �Assessment�.
My Suggestion is �just be yourself� and never be Afraid to Speak to anyone�no matter what you �rate� them at. And also�don�t �Rate� Women�treat them just like you would anyone else.
"s I have stated in my post "farewell adress" I want to leave some final thoughts before I go.
I wanted to share with you fellas some important advise I have learned and that you might find helpful.
*Disclaimer: I think that there will be some of you women that might find this offensive, so I urge caution because I will be speaking to the men unfiltered. :^) *
Perhaps every man here has experienced the anxiety that comes from being in the precence of a really beautiful woman...im talkin those 9s and 10s that make our heart race, but don't be intimidated.
Aim high...more than likley if you strip away the makeup and the flattering clothes, and add sunlight a 9 or 10 will drop a few notches.
I also say aim high because time is not as kind to women as it is to men, all things being equal (self care, circumstance etc). And womens' bodies are put through the crucible of baring a child (a possible advantage to courting a single mom, is you know what she looks like after childbirth)
Aim high, dont take a woman out of desperation, you will just hurt her, anger God, and keep her from a man more on her level that would be excited to have her as his wife.
but in all things take a Godly woman over a pretty one if thats all the options you have...because none of them (or us) are good, and the only lovley thing in them is Jesus...question is...how much is in there?"
Couple Questions:
1. What advice would you give to us women? The ones who are hit on or told "You know...you're very pretty!" or "You're so attractive" (puh-leeze. I honestly don't want to hear how pretty I am. I want to know what your relationship is with the Lord, who you are with your friends, and who you are in our friendship.)
2. What do you mean by "Aim high"? Looks? Character? Finances? Children?
3. "But in all things take a Godly woman over a pretty one if thats all the options you have"....yes, Jesus makes us a new creature and it is Him in us that the Spirit should recognize. But seriously, that comes across as very negative. Just saying. What did you mean by that comment?
& finally, thanks for pointing out that the post-baby belly may stick around forever. So does that mean that I *shouldn't* take care of myself and try to tone the little extra? Are we not supposed to care for our bodies because we have the Holy Spirit residing within us? Are we not supposed to be holy and dress as pleasing to the Lord? (Yes, guys, the LORD, not you!)
I did appreciate you pointing out the reality and not encouraging the fantasy.
& No, I'm not really offended. I'm just discouraged.
Guys, LOOKS are *NOT* everything. A relationship has to be based more on whether or not you find me attractive. If you start a conversation, make sure you have something to talk about that's not going to address how pretty I am or how much money I make or when I'm coming to see you (seriously, we appreciate the fact that YOU make the effort to come see us....it shows that you're 1) not a player (or better experienced as one), 2) considerate and that you value my safety and comfort,and 3) respectful of appearances.
Be willing to give a lot and you'll receive a lot.
Im only talking about one facet of a mutifacted...subject. Im not taking my frustrations out on anyone, and it surley wasnt my intent to offend.
ladies probably shouldnt take this thread personally or be discouraged. If a man doesn't think you are just think you are the crown jewel of God creation...if he looks at you and is like eeh, and doesnt even get excited, is that what you want.
It has been MY EPERIENCE I see woman often times only with her "face" on, or with in those "slimming" colors which in my mind I think thats what she really look like, but as time and a relationship goes on I find out to my dismay she might not be what she first appered, and who likes a bait and switch wether intetional or unintetional?
If it happenes to me it can happen to a man who doesn't know better, so I say again aim high :)
I read your Profile. It says you just finished your Degree in Phycology. That tells me that you must be of at least above average Intelligence. So�why am I having a �hard time� believing that.
You say that Women �look� better with makeup�but with time�you �Discover� that without makeup they �look� different. This is what you are WARNING us men to beware of? LOL :ROFL:
(Your Words) ��to my dismay she might not be what she first appered, and who likes a bait and switch wether intetional or unintetional?
If it happenes to me it can happen to a man who doesn't know better, so I say again aim high :)�� (End)
This is from a Doctor? :toomuch:
Rabbit�come on now�tell the Truth. Are you Really Upset with a Woman for trying to look her very best for you and then�getting even MORE Upset when you see her with her Makeup off? :rolleyes:
Was that the �First� Adult Woman you �Dated�? :hearts:
Really? �Bait and Switch�? Stop it! You�re KILLING me! :laugh:
This from a Physiologist?
Rabbit�I am going to assume that this is not a joke and that you are Serious. Here�s my Advice to you
�Don�t Aim Anywhere�! �Whether High or Low�. �Find a Real Physiologist and�
�SEEK HELP�! :dancingp::peace::dancingp:
��If it happenes to me it can happen to a man who doesn't know better, so I say again aim high :)�� :rocknroll:
Colosians 3:12 Since God chose you to be the holy people he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.
@Archy what part of your responce was tender, merciful, kind, humble, gentle, or patient. You have clothed yourself in haughtiness, pride, mockery and slander. Thanks for the charachter assisnation.
:laugh: uuum didnt I just say it was based on experience and not some "professional" opinion you wanna ticlke ppls ears go ahead and it was warning to beware of deceit. I stand by what I said regrdless if you or anyone else likes it.
