Author	Thread: What's the FIRST thing you usually notice about a gal or guy?
Admin	What's the FIRST thing you usually notice about a gal or guy? Posted : 21 Jul, 2011 05:52 AM For me, it's how a gal treats me and others ... with a love that is sweet and kind and caring, inspired by God's love filling and living in her heart ... or with indifference and impatience, born out of an inner selfishness patterned after the ways of the world rather than the heart of God she's come to know and imitates ... in other words, the attitude of her heart and spirit, in general. How 'bout you? Love, Steve Post Reply
stormcountry33 View Profile History	What's the FIRST thing you usually notice about a gal or guy? Posted : 21 Jul, 2011 08:37 AM The first thing I notice.....I hate to be sound shallow but it would have to be her looks...more so her face...but please don't be mistaken...if the heart and soul and personality isn't there...I don't care how "pretty" the face is....looks may catch the eye..but its the personality that captures the heart! Post Reply
View Profile History	What's the FIRST thing you usually notice about a gal or guy? Posted : 21 Jul, 2011 01:40 PM I don't think that's shallow in the least. We should not kid ourselves visual appeal is alwaya gonna draw our attention first. Only God can look at a person and see their heart. For me it's his eyes they. Hold the most beautiful truths. Nothing gets me all aflutter than a man with truth in his eyes. Post Reply
View Profile History	What's the FIRST thing you usually notice about a gal or guy? Posted : 21 Jul, 2011 02:46 PM The very first thing I notice about a girl is usually her eyes, or maybe her smile (if she smiles when I first meet her). The eyes can tell a lot about someone: how they look at others, where they choose to look (do they look you in the eyes too?). Similarly, the voice is something I notice a lot. What she talks about, how she sounds (mood wise), how much she talks, etc. I don't think it's shallow to notice the obvious things first; it is just shallow to stay there on that level instead of (once you get to talking with someone) getting to know them for who they are a person. I've found that girls all have some kind of beauty, but they're all different. The outside isn't so important, like Proverbs says about charm and beauty being deceptive and fleeting. The more I've gotten to know and appreciate a girl for who she is, the more attractive she looks to me each day I grow closer to her real person. I've heard it said by elderly, happily married men that their wives look more beautiful to them in their old age than when they first met in their youth because of how their love has grown deeper over the years. Knowing someone's real person is so much more rewarding than what they look like on the outside, and plus you keep seeing them as better and better looking externally too! It's almost like "Seek first the kingdom of God and everything else is yours too" kind of thing. Seek God for who he is FIRST, and then also by the way your needs and even some of your wants will be met too. If you're chasing the wants and needs, you miss out on God for who he is and also the other things don't go as far, somehow. If you want to talk about shallow, it's noticing God only for what he does and not who he is, much like noticing a girl for her appearance and not for who she is. Both scenarios miss out on SO much, and they are shallow. Anyone can do nice things, buy nice things, act nicely, etc. But when it all boils down, you don't want someone who DOES great things, you want someone who IS a great person. Anyone can act, but to truly be... that takes true identity. As in, not shallow. Back to the real topic here: The eyes, smile, and voice are my answers for FIRST thing, but as soon as I get a chance I try to meet the personality and notice aspects of it. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	What's the FIRST thing you usually notice about a gal or guy? Posted : 21 Jul, 2011 02:50 PM There are three things that I notice right off about a guy. They sort of happen in a specific order, but not always...and sometimes they happen simultaneously. I usually notice a guy's eyes first. And not just the way his eyes look, but the way he uses them. I like a guy who will meet my gaze, but not stare me down. I like a guy who shows emotion with his eyes, and whose eyes twinkle when he smiles or laughs. Supposedly the eyes are the "window to the soul", and I think there is a lot of truth in that! Of course, it is always a plus if a guy has really amazing eyes too...brown or blue being two of my favorite colors! After the eyes, I usually notice a guy's hands. I don't know why. But if a guy has super feminine, well-manicured hands, it is something of a turn-off to me. Not that I think he should keep his hands filthy and rough, of course! But strong, masculine hands are a major heart-melter for me. Right up there with the hands is a guy's voice. There isn't one particular kind of voice that makes me melt or makes me run the other way, but it is something that I notice. Usually, a mild and gentle voice with some masculine strength will grab my attention more than a rough, loud, harsh voice. And mid-range is best...not too low, not too high. A hint of teasing doesn't hurt anything, either. You know, maybe I should take MORE notice of these three things, and use them when evaluating a guy for dating/marriage potential. The last guy I dated had an annoying voice, weak eyes that were shifty, and wimpy hands. That relationship didn't last...go figure! :rolleyes: Post Reply
View Profile History	What's the FIRST thing you usually notice about a gal or guy? Posted : 21 Jul, 2011 08:46 PM A big stack of credit cards? The existence of an all leather interior? wow, that is a good one. i think I tend to get like a view of the "whole package"...physical appearance, posture, style of dress, like the degree to which they come off as having a peaceful, coherent look to them or like a confusing fragmented look.....like women who wear jeans with lettering on the back..I guess I am supposed to stare at, well, their bottom...those tops that have sequins on the, you know, I guess I am supposed to stare at the wares...pay homage to their power over me... michael Post Reply
View Profile History	What's the FIRST thing you usually notice about a gal or guy? Posted : 22 Jul, 2011 11:35 AM If the man is a gentleman or not. A man, who is too pushy and trying to move in on me real quick. :excited: Post Reply
View Profile History	What's the FIRST thing you usually notice about a gal or guy? Posted : 22 Jul, 2011 02:32 PM HUH? Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	What's the FIRST thing you usually notice about a gal or guy? Posted : 22 Jul, 2011 03:54 PM I notice the face first (of course) then I pay attention to character. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	What's the FIRST thing you usually notice about a gal or guy? Posted : 22 Jul, 2011 05:28 PM I'm seeing that there are two different "trends" on here for what we notice first: physical and behavioral/spiritual. I guess I took the question very literally...the FIRST thing I notice is usually physical because I am just meeting the person. If I know nothing about him, all I have to go on is his appearance. Within moments of meeting the guy, however, I would notice things like his passion for God, his interpersonal skills, his quirks, etc. Post Reply
paschen81 View Profile History	What's the FIRST thing you usually notice about a gal or guy? Posted : 22 Jul, 2011 06:57 PM we all have to agree that when we meet someone for the first time we notice physical traits first simply because we do not KNOW character traits. And doing so isn't shallow... That out of the way the first thing I notice is how they are dressed. Are they clean-cut in a tailored suit? Are they laid back in jeans and a t-shirt? Are they Goth all dressed in black and chains? That type of thing. Next I notice their eyes. Post Reply

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