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Posted : 28 Jun, 2011 07:04 PM

...or do women seem like they want more than just a man with a heart after Jesus. I wish I could better explain more what I am thinking, but its like I know I fit or exceede what the women have posted on their profiles, yet they seem to pass me up as if they wre holing out for more. I hate to use the number rating system ,but its the only common term that most men can relate to. Seems we 6s passin up 6s and I know women arent AS visually orientated as men...idk

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Posted : 28 Jun, 2011 07:18 PM

Nope, it's just you :ROFL:

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Posted : 29 Jun, 2011 02:39 PM

Ive noticed that women tend to overate them selves physically.they all think they are really cute at work,...Oh my cousin is really cute(then when you meet her shes got a mustache).......Then there is ONE really genuinely HOT female who all the guys drool over,and of course the other women say,oh shes not that hot,lol



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Posted : 29 Jun, 2011 02:49 PM

Is it just me or are you guys just as superficial as we are at times lol! In answer to Rabbit's I'm sorry but I'm going to share a secret with you that you probably figured out yourself. We don't know exactly what we want. We have and idea that has been carved out over time by different things. We have a "type" a "prince" but it changes every day, not the core values but that's how it happens. Each woman is different as each man is, I wonder sometimes why I'm overlooked but if everybody liked us we'd be in problems won't we? Lol! In response to the other post it's like someone tells you they have someone they want to fix you up with. You're excited and then they say "He/she has a great personality" we pull the breaks, I think it's mean, we may be attractive to some but not all and those who are not attracted to us how would we want them to treat us with utter rejection and no regard for our feelings? I sure hope not:dancingp:

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Posted : 29 Jun, 2011 02:53 PM

lol I have figured that out...than I pose this question...if women don't know what they want, how than is it possible they can do not respond to emails (assuming they are clean) why not take ya'lls own advise and give a guy a chance...When the tummblers fall in place I promise the man you do give a chance to will be all the more attractive to you...and while I wish we men could do the same, it apperntly by design that the way to a man's heart is intitially though his eye, i mean why did Jacob cry after seeing Rachel, because he was emotionally moved by her beauty. :)

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Posted : 29 Jun, 2011 03:00 PM

Now I always like reading your posts, you are a wise man. But things aren't perfect in this world. And I think Jacob cried because he was so glad seeing someone after that long journey lol Just kidding. To be honest and speaking only for myself here... I am scared. And it's a fear that I'm asking the Lord to overcome. They guy I fell for was gorgeous a Christian that I thought I didn't deserve because I had a low outlook on my self. I couldn't believe he loved me as he said. I didn't know my own worth I may still not know totally, i was content, then he met someone else and married her instead. It crushed me and I still feel the after effects sometimes, but in my case I need to be careful on two levels, one; that I'm not so easily taken in by what I perceive and two; trying to open up myself to someone again. This world is full of uncertainties but I think that those who don't give us the time of day has missed out on something special and maybe it's because God has something else planned for them. Just a bit of my random thoughts.

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Posted : 29 Jun, 2011 03:35 PM

Men have this same problem, actually, it's the worldly culture, it has conditioned both men and women to seek people based solely on looks or even largely on looks and blame God, saying he made them that way (men aren't really the same as they were back then).

There some exceptional few, mind you, who are different.

The women have become more sinful as well, trying to steal people's husbands, and just doing unspeakable things. It's upsetting seeing things as they are, that's why it's important to look for a Godly spiritual person. Paul said...

1 Corinthians 3:3 - You are still worldly. For since there is jealousy and quarreling among you, are you not worldly? Are you not acting like mere men?

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Posted : 29 Jun, 2011 06:45 PM

@Ms Marvel While I agree with you in part, I think the world has twisted what comes naturally. I CANNOT conect with a woman I FIND unnatractive...



No amount of getting to know her changes that...I've tried. While this is not the most important ingrediant...whats a cake without surgar, is an important singula aspect. Even though a tire isn't the most important thing on the car, if you are missing one you wont go very far.



But I know women naturally aren't like this, because I have been with women way out of my league, and I know I am not shallow, because I had to leave them because who they are takes me away from God.

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Posted : 29 Jun, 2011 07:29 PM

MsMarvel, are you saying that true Christians NEVER care how their spouse looks? If being beautiful is not important, then why do women want to know that they are beautiful. If it doesn�t matter, then why bother telling them.



I agree that society has pushed the importance of beauty too far, but getting rid of it is going too far as well.



This is a rather sensitive subject, and I think that what is really being said is being twisted into something more than what it is. Just because we say we want a wife that is beautiful doesn�t mean that she needs to be able to make the cover of a fashion magazine. And just because we would like a wife that is beautiful to us doesn�t mean that beauty is all we care about.

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Posted : 30 Jun, 2011 12:20 AM

On the contrary Cobbler, you take me for someone trying to make an argument out of this, and in turn trying to make you appear bad.

I'm simply saying, preferences are good, but if you want a wife even largely based on looks you may indeed wait for a very long time.



Put these things into consideration:

1. The woman has to be beautiful enough to attract you.

2. She has to be a godly woman, maybe virtuous even.

3. She has to find you attractive, or at least like your personality. (Because women don't care as much about looks.)

4. You will then have to say the right things and not chase her off.

This is one of the reasons having faith in God to help you find a spouse pays off I think.

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Posted : 30 Jun, 2011 01:24 AM

Why Ms Marvel I think you hit the nail on the head, that's exactly how it works...but my problem, which is the theme of the post is that I don't get much of an oppertunity or chance for a woman to see the Jesus in me, even worse they dont afford me the chance to talk to them. There is nothing more frustrating than being fully capable of doing the things a woman wants, and not be able to talk to her because of some idealistic preference....

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