Author	Thread: Practically speaking...
Admin	Practically speaking... Posted : 28 May, 2011 03:31 PM Most of you are likely/hopefully aware that a married man is to be the head of his household. How do you think that looks, practically speaking? What does a head of household do that differentiates his role from that of his wife or children? Post Reply
View Profile History	Practically speaking... Posted : 28 May, 2011 03:57 PM Wow, this is such a good question, I would've asked this myself. Pixy, you're so cool! Post Reply
stegoodie View Profile History	Practically speaking... Posted : 28 May, 2011 05:20 PM I've thought about this some and I think the particulars of the answer differs considerably depending on the people and circumstances involved. In my mind, being head of the household means being captain of the ship or commander of the army. You do whatever you can in order to ensure peace and success among those you lead. How does that make the man's role different than that of his wife/children? Well I'd say it makes no difference and all the difference at the same time. As far as children go, it is your job to ensure they are "brought up in the way they should go." In other words, you emulate Christ to the best of your ability so that your children can see and learn from a decent physical example of how they should live even if it isn't a perfect. However, I think one must also be open to learning and growing in his own right. As far as leading your wife goes, if I run with the captain of the ship analogy, she's gotta be the first mate right? Ultimately, you work very closely to one another. However, someone has to have the final say on matters of disagreement so maybe ultimately determining when to override your spouses opinion or change yours is key. Wise leadership is important. Post Reply
IaoKim View Profile History	Practically speaking... Posted : 28 May, 2011 07:03 PM I've always believed that a man, as head of the household, must be prepared to provide for himself and his family without his wife having to work outside the home. I believe the wife's role is critically important and difficult enough without the added burden of another full time job. This is something that would definitely be discussed before marriage so the both of us are on the same page! Of course if my wife had or desired a career outside the home that is probably something we would both have to discuss and resolve in a way that is honoring to God because I would love my wife as my own flesh and would want the best for her and for my future family. The most important role parent's have is raising and instructing their children to honor God and live as He would have them to live so that they may have a saving knowledge of Jesus and come to know him. With the husband as the one who brings home the bacon, the wife primarily raises the children. In no one does this mean that all the husband has to do is work, come home and watch the game while his wife does all the house work and child raising. I believe with the learning softwares and proper educational materials home schooling kids is the best way to educate children and instructing them in righteousness (provided that you find other avenues for them to socialize with other kids through church, neighbors, leagues, etc.). There is no way I would want my kids in public school where they are taught from a secular humanistic worldview where man is the center of all things. I want my kids to be taught that Jesus is Lord and that our first duties are to God. There will be no one I trust more as the primary educator of my future children than my future wife. I would want her to share that same passion that I do for raising our kids to honor God instead of shipping our kids off to public school etc to have strangers fill their heads with lies!. While I would be the head of the household, we would both submit ourselves unto God and love and submit ourselves one to another. We will be two becoming one flesh and one flesh naturally has one head, two would be rather freaky! Still the head is nothing without the body, so is the church without Christ as the head! Hopefully I didn't ramble on too much, pretty tired after a long day! haha :) Post Reply
View Profile History	Practically speaking... Posted : 28 May, 2011 08:09 PM I make the final decision on everything. That means that I take responsibility for everything, blame when things go wrong. Note that I said "final" decision. I believe that it is important to discuss everything with the wife, even the kids if they're old enough to think. It is important to make the decision the tis best for everybody and to treat the family fairly. Obviously, being the head of the household is a waste if the household is full of angry, abused people, or if the household falls apart completely. But as far as the title, "head of the household," is concerned, it doesn't matter. I get the privilege of ultimate veto, if I believe that it is totally and completely necessary, if I believe that there is no hope for compromise, etc. I have the power to pull things together or rend them to shreds. And the wife should submit to my will, unless I am utterly completely bonkers. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Practically speaking... Posted : 28 May, 2011 08:29 PM IaoKim, that was a great answer...can you age about 4 years overnight? :hearts: (JK! lol) Post Reply
View Profile History	Practically speaking... Posted : 28 May, 2011 08:43 PM Hehe... IaoKim's answer was definitely superb! Post Reply
View Profile History	Practically speaking... Posted : 29 May, 2011 10:14 AM Ladies to piiggy back on this question. If the husband takes his proper biblical position as leader of the home, what then is the wifes` proper position in the home? And If the husband does not fillful that role as leader, then is it proper for the wife to step into it? Post Reply
IaoKim View Profile History	Practically speaking... Posted : 29 May, 2011 01:36 PM Haha well unfortunately . . . rapid aging is currently not one of my amazing super powers! :rolleyes: Post Reply
View Profile History	Practically speaking... Posted : 29 May, 2011 05:53 PM Behind... or I mean beside every great man there`s a great women. Post Reply
View Profile History	Practically speaking... Posted : 29 May, 2011 07:44 PM Gotta admit IaoKim had a very good answer. If I would add anything it would be to look at two examples. First, the Trinity itself, you have God the Father and God the Son, they are both equally God and yet one submits to the other. Neither is superior but equal. The son loves the Father and does His will, the Father loves the son and works those things to honor the son. The other is Jesus, He demonstrated true leadership by being a servant. If I could apply those to being a husband it would mean that my wife would be considered equal to me and yet submissive. That I am there to serve her and the family, servant leadership. Practically speaking I have to know my wife, her needs and wants, and similarly those of my children, which requires patience and understanding. A constant growing sensitivity to them. I need her help to do the things as a leader just as Christ calls us to help minister in the church, I need her gifts as a nurturer and mother to learn the needs of my children. I'd need the wisdom and insight God has given her to beware of pitfalls. It would require an active and constant vigil over the family and the decisions being made for both their spiritual, educational, mental, and physical development. But ultimately, everything I do should be motivated by my love for them, just like the Father, and that all should be to their benefit, to their well-being. How that plays out may be a little different from family to family, and from year to year. And most importantly it means I live as the prime example to be followed the responsibility to show what God is truly like to my wife and children would rest on me. Failure to live as and lead by example will have an affect on how they will see God. Post Reply

First

Page : 1 2

Next  3 >>

Last