Author	Thread: Long Distance Relationships
Admin	Long Distance Relationships Posted : 12 Mar, 2011 01:04 PM It's seems really hard to find someone locally leading us only to decide if we are able to handle a long distance relationship. I have no idea how to feel about those. I was wondering if any of you had any experience in that field and maybe have some advice on whether you think it's a good idea or a bad idea and why or why not? I personally am not in a relationship or have anyone specific in mind I was just wondering. Also I am leaving everything in God's hands so of course I believe that if it is His will then everything will work out. but I'm still curious Post Reply
MS1girl View Profile History	Long Distance Relationships Posted : 12 Mar, 2011 04:01 PM Hi Lana! I agree that it is hard to find someone locally on this site. I have had a couple of long distance relationships in the past, though not with anyone I met through this site. The long distance relationships I have had didn't start out long distance. We knew each other in person before we started going out. Neither one of those relationships worked out (obviously since I am on this site), but I do think that long distance relationships can work if both parties trust each other and are willing to work on it. The reasons my long distance relationships ended didn't really have to do with the distance so much as other things. I think the hardest part would probably be starting a relationship because you can't really start a relationship without meeting each other in person. You can't truly get to know someone without being able to see how you interact in real life so there might have to be a fair amount of travel in the initial stages of the relationship which could be costly or difficult if either one of you is busy. Once you know each other well and are both committed to having a long distance relationship, I think it could work out. However, I think it is important that you know the distance is not permanent, i.e. you should be able to be together at some point in the forseeable future. For me, I know that I won't be able to move anywhere for the next three years due to school, but I know that after that I will have the opportunity to relocate. I think that long distance relationships require more patience then non-long distance relationships, but I think they can be worth it if both people love each other. Just think how excited you will be to see each other after time apart! Like you said, if it's God's will there will be a way for things to work out. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Long Distance Relationships Posted : 12 Mar, 2011 07:30 PM I'm generally against long distance relationships. Maybe there are certain people out there who can handle them, but I can't. Oddly enough though, I like short distance relationships. I think 30 minutes to an hour apart is wonderful since you're close enough that you can see each other regularly, but not so close that you feel obligated to hang out every day. Post Reply
deoprime View Profile History	Long Distance Relationships Posted : 12 Mar, 2011 09:00 PM I'm not going to say it can't work, but it's got about as much chance as a drunk guy getting from NYC to Rochester and not getting a ticket or driving off the road. It's difficult, there are plenty of bumps, and it takes a lot of care to make it home safely. Then again.... Jesus came to us when we were long distance... maybe the answer is a deep love. Post Reply
View Profile History	Long Distance Relationships Posted : 13 Mar, 2011 01:51 PM "I'm not going to say it can't work, but it's got about as much chance as a drunk guy getting from NYC to Rochester and not getting a ticket or driving off the road." :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: Thanks you guys for the help, I mean it helps to hear from others and their opinion/experience. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Long Distance Relationships Posted : 13 Mar, 2011 05:07 PM I think long distance relationships can work, depending on the specific circumstances and the people involved. My parents had a long distance (500 miles) relationship while they were dating, but they also had the advantage of having met through my mom's sister and brother-in-law, who knew my dad well. My mom could trust their judgment that he really was a good Christian guy, and he felt like he knew the family well enough that he could make the long drive to see my mom and stay with her and her parents as often as possible. Less than a year after they first met, they got married. And they had one of the best marriages I've ever seen. For me to consider a long distance relationship, I would need to know the guy fairly well on a friendship level, know that he was serious about a potentially long-term relationship with me (I don't think casual dating works well over a long distance), and one or both of us would need to be able to travel to see the other person regularly. It would take a lot of trust and commitment at a very early stage in the relationship. I certainly wouldn't say "absolutely not" to a long distance relationship, but I doubt that a dating site is the best place to start that sort of relationship. Of all the far-off guys I've talked to online (and I've talked to a lot!), there is only one that I would consider having a long distance relationship with. Of course, he's completely opposed to long distance relationships! :rolleyes: Post Reply
View Profile History	Long Distance Relationships Posted : 21 Mar, 2011 10:21 PM I have found that most people on this site don't want long distance relationships. I am on here because that is my only option. However, my situation is a little unique. I live in a bush village on the coast of Alaska. So unless the young lady lives in the village it is going to be long distance. I have found a few ladies on here that don't mind the distance but it never got past the one week mark. In a long distance relationship there are a lot of difficulties. However, there are also some good things about it. I will let you figure them out if you ever get in that kind of relationship. Here is my advice on long distance relationships. Be open and honest and keep your focus on the Lord. He is the only one that can guide you down the right path. Post Reply
KristineMasig View Profile History	Long Distance Relationships Posted : 22 Mar, 2011 11:32 PM In my own opinion, whether its close or long distance love affair, it doesn't matter..What matters most is the PROMISE and LOVE you've committed to one another... Being loyal is not enough but being FAITHFUL at all cost is the most essential part of a relaionship..as long as you are open and honest with each other even if you are million miles apart, LOVE will surely reign... With the advance technology nowadays, you can still communicate and keep in touch with each other anytime you want to until such time you will be in each others' arms personally... Post Reply
View Profile History	Long Distance Relationships Posted : 24 Mar, 2011 12:16 AM They never worked for me!!! I'm not a fan of them either. Post Reply
Dscott View Profile History	Long Distance Relationships Posted : 31 Mar, 2011 11:55 AM WHen I was younger and wilder, less mature, no it didn't work. I would move on our lose interest. As you grow you realize what's important, when you lose you realize what's worth having. I decided no sex till marriage. If the person I'm dating decides the same thing then that eliminates the physical cheating part of it, which is usually the part that hurts the most. Now all we have is what we always had, what made us want to be with each other in the first place, for the days, months, years...personality, morals, character, etc. If you find someone else that makes you smile more than me. That pushes your buttons and at the same time reminds you that love exist...then maybe its best you do move on. If it doesn't work than its best that it doesn't work. You'll grow from it and move forward. If you two are strong enough to get through it than you truly found your blessing Post Reply
View Profile History	Long Distance Relationships Posted : 1 Apr, 2011 10:07 AM Dscott� wisdom! :applause: Post Reply

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