Thread: Why can't the young and the old find the right person?
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Why can't the young and the old find the right person?
Posted : 11 Mar, 2011 12:17 PM
Why can't the young and the old find the right person for Marriage?
I am posting this in each section, because of the importance in getting responses.
I look back when I met my ex-wife 35 years ago. We bumped into each other in a parking lot. We smiled at each other, and then we talked to each other. Then I called her for a date and we both knew soon after, we were in love. We were not equally yoked, but the pastor from my church didn't put emphasis on the matter, after 27 years of marriage, then came our divorce. Can we really find Love on the Internet? Many say they can.
I have a son 30 and a daughter 24 and neither are in a relationship. I see more young people on here than the older ones. I believe people are not the same as they were 40 years ago. People today would rather surf the web for a date than look for a date. People in general don�t smile to strangers, let alone speak to strangers. If they do, they would rather text on the phone or email than call them again.
The core to the problem, people are interested in their gadgets and their busy lives more than the fellowship in talking with them in person. We need to get back to the Golden Rule that we have lost over the years. We should be kind and love everyone, that is what the Bible tells us to do!
Is it because we are living in the last days?
In the Book of Daniel he tells us people will go to and fro and knowledge will increase. We see this today in so many ways.
Another word for the Internet is going to and fro, along with how fast we can get anywhere on this earth today.
Would love to hear what others think about this issue.
Why can't the young and the old find the right person?
Posted : 11 Mar, 2011 05:56 PM
Not meaning to be smart at all-you said people aren't the same as they were forty years ago, and you're absolutely right. Do you think the generation before yours looks at yours the same way? I agree that people are very wrapped up in their electronics, absolutely. That being said, it opens up doors for some folks, while allowing others to become hermits.
A dear friend of mine has a son. Developmentally challenged, and is in a wheelchair he'll never get out of. He can't move his arms past manipulating his wrists.
This may seem a bit off topic, but follow me here. I've taken to playing online video games with this kid. I'll never meet the boy, he's probably not going to live long enough. So we play a game called black ops (an army game where you run around and shoot your friends with guns) with him. I find this game morally repugnant, as the point is to: well, pretend to shoot my friend and anyone else playing with us. I cannot recommend this game, even though it's wildly popular, due to the "level of violence" it portrays.
Now to talk out the other side of my mouth, so please bear with me again. I will continue to play this game with this child, because it's really all he can do. He's even "met" other friends online who share his physical handicap. He was able to recognize that one of the other players was also in a wheelchair, due to noise that the mechanical parts of his wheelchair made. (we wear headsets that allow us to talk garbage as we shoot each other, that's how he ended up hearing these noises.) So now I pretend to shoot two of my "friends" simply for the "togetherness" that it allows us to have.
I realize that this is probably not at all the answer you're looking for, and sorry if that's the case, but for some people, there's not really a choice. It's a life of solitude, or reach out and "touch" someone electronically. As far as for this kid, it's enriched his life, and he's been able to make friends and meet people he'd never be able to meet, due to his handicap. Most of the other players in the game don't know he's handicapped, which lets him "be himself" instead of "the kid in the wheelchar." He's even commented that this is a first for him, he feels like he's respected for himself, not placated because of his "challanges" and blatantly obvious disability.
I was never much into video games before, and for someone my age (30) I'm horribly inept when it comes to technology. This child I play with is 9 (mentally) and won't progress. I realize this is not the same type of relationship you're thinking of when you think of your own son and daughter, but it's a relationship and developing friendship anyway. You sure gave me some food for thought, and thank you, but for me personally, I'll have to stick with the technology because it's the only way I can "keep in touch" with this boy. Whether this game is good or bad for the child is debatable. However, I know he's not just sitting in a room by himself somewhere when we're playing. You do what you can with what you have where you are. Technology lets me interact and speak from Philly, Pa to Austin Tx in real-time, and his mother is thrilled that it's happening. Now if you'll excuse me, I have to go shoot this boy a few more times before his mother puts him to bed:glow:
