Author	Thread: What do you do when you love someone that doesn't love you back?
Admin	What do you do when you love someone that doesn't love you back? Posted : 4 Mar, 2011 07:47 AM We're often told to never give up trying to get what we want. But there's a thin line between obsession / stalking and having found "the one" true love for you. Don't make the police have to tell you the difference! Know your value, and simply never give up on yourself! Whenever we feel an attraction towards someone, it's never good to have to push them to return our feelings. We've probably all done stupid things in so-called relationships. It was probably because we were insecure with ourselves, didn't know our wants or limits, or how to feel about love. We settled for less, giving twice as much, thinking it would eventually work out alright. It never does! Best we can hope for is the strength to move on, before we've become a complete fool or arrested! This is a relationship that will never produce prosperous fruit(love)at least as long as it is a one way lay. This is like shopping and returning it without a receipt and leaving with out a refund. This relationship will be an obstacle course that will get harder and you will become physically exhausted. This is not a good way to develop strength, too much of a risk it can go either way strengthen you or weaken you. In a real partnership, one might give more than the other sometimes. In the end though, it all works out balanced, healthy, and right for each of them. However, when one partner doesn't care, they rule the relationship, because the one who cares will do anything and everything to make it work out. They become a fool for what they believe is love. What should we really do about this? Post Reply
View Profile History	What do you do when you love someone that doesn't love you back? Posted : 6 Mar, 2011 11:39 AM 1st, pray 2nd, examine our hearts.Do we love the real person or an image we created? Good thoughts Post Reply
View Profile History	What do you do when you love someone that doesn't love you back? Posted : 10 Mar, 2011 09:30 PM First I pray about it. Then I move on as 100% of the time (so far) nothing changed. It hurts but somehow shockingly I'm still alive. Best to not dwell on the negatives too long but refocus on my relationship with God and on my time in the word. Post Reply
View Profile History	What do you do when you love someone that doesn't love you back? Posted : 11 Mar, 2011 09:05 PM Just move on and try to smile about it. Or know that you will smile about it later. Post Reply
sifah View Profile History	What do you do when you love someone that doesn't love you back? Posted : 13 Mar, 2011 08:30 AM love should be reciprocal.sometimes we are blindfolded by love in that we become obessesed.we should always pray and seek God's guidance before starting a relationship,since He is the greatest source of love. Post Reply
View Profile History	What do you do when you love someone that doesn't love you back? Posted : 22 Mar, 2011 05:36 PM Many years ago I was told by a much older Christian woman that in a relationship, one person usually 'loves' more than the other. I'm not saying this is a 100% occurance, but I've seen it enough to know there's a truth to it. Maybe you're the one putting your all into a relationship and feeling like it's not being reciprocated fully - if so then God knows exactly how you feel! Post Reply
View Profile History	What do you do when you love someone that doesn't love you back? Posted : 24 Mar, 2011 04:43 AM I truly believe what Charles Vincent Gerkin said in "Widening The Horizons"..." Time itself implies change and transformation, because time itself is movement." Let go, but in order to do that give God a chance to let time heal your heart. Post Reply
View Profile History	What do you do when you love someone that doesn't love you back? Posted : 15 Apr, 2011 06:36 AM hahahh this has happened to me a few times,so i cry aloot for first times hahah then i see if all this hurt is worth it en search the word for an answer ,i pray alot en i avoid that person,en within no time ,i have moved on,not easy but doable.:dancingp: Post Reply
Jewels133 View Profile History	What do you do when you love someone that doesn't love you back? Posted : 23 Apr, 2011 08:44 AM I think it's important to understand that there are several different forms of love...and sometimes identifying which you really feel can be tricky. Friendship Love (The family you choose for yourself ;) Family Love (Father, Mother, Children, Aunts, Uncles, Grandparents. The people you grew up caring about.) Compassionate Love (Caring about your fellow man, the stranger on the street corner, the ex who hurt you, that you no long want a relationship with, but you have no ill will toward. You still want the best for them and for them to be happy.) Obsessive Love ( The one sided, stalking, mentally unstable kind of love. You will do anything, even illegal and flat out stupid things for a person who doesn't care for you at all.) Lust/Infatuation (It's not deep, or profound, meaningful or lasting. This "love" will wear off as soon as the happy hormones fade and you come off the glory cloud of "new love". Often the attraction is purely physical, nothing deeper.) Human Love (When infatuation hormones fade, human love still lasts. There is genuine caring, but the "warm fuzzies" have faded, you still find yourself smiling and you still actually LIKE the person for who they really are, not who you saw them to be while in the "new love" stage of the relationship. You are serious about them and you still want to be with this person for the rest of your life, and you may think they are "the one", but many times, people settle for less than God's perfect will.These marriages may or may not last.) Agape Love (Unconditional love, when God puts you with your true destined soul mate, and knits your hearts together--Adam and Eve type love. There is no doubt in your mind or heart that this person is THE ONE. This person IS God's perfect will match for you, and your marriage will be BLESSED. It is very rare to have this kind of love, many times because people have free will. One person might know they are destined to be together, but if the other person doesn't realize it, or has settled for someone else...many times Agape Love passes us by because people aren't willing to wait on God's best for their lives.) In all cases...YOU PRAY for the other person. True love prays for another, even when they hurt you, reject you or pull away from you. Post Reply
essenxal View Profile History	What do you do when you love someone that doesn't love you back? Posted : 23 May, 2011 06:58 AM as the saying goes... "if you love a person, let them go. If they come back then you're meant to be. If not then, it's his loss"... or something like that. :) we don't get everything we want in life... for me, i'll just let him go... because if you'll push on with having a relationship, nothing good will come of it. he'll be unhappy and so will you so there's no point in pushing it... yes, even if you love him sooooo much! that's life.. God has someone or something better for you, just wait and see! :) Post Reply