Author	Thread: Secretive Guy
senny_wong View Profile History	Secretive Guy Posted : 5 Jan, 2011 04:44 AM Hi Guys, I am considering to develop serious relationship with someone on dating site who stay miles away from my country... We have been connecting via 10emails & 2-minutes phone call.It's been 1 month up today.That's so called long distance relationship. So far he expresses his seriousnes to me and he sent me a bunch of shakespeare poems to me(I'd rather to read his personal life and activities than reading love poems from him) I have developed feeling for him too.However there is one thing that I am still curious about him.Except the first 3 emails he sent me..he never mentioned about his personal matter.When I was asking about his daughter,his marital status,and the cause of his separation/divorce..in his reply he didnt answer my question at all and resume writing his love poem again.. Why do you think he is doing this? A.It's just his character who is secretive/proud? B.It may take time for him to be open to me,considering we just started a month ago? C.He has something to hide? I dunno what to do and dare not to take him very seriously seeing his attitude.I just surrender this to God ,keep praying and still writing e-mail to him,giving a chance for our relationship... GBU Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Secretive Guy Posted : 5 Jan, 2011 06:27 AM I would say that C) He has something to hide. Most of the guys I've talked to (even for very short periods of time) are quite open about themselves. Some take a bit longer to share things (including something as simple as a first name), others spill their whole life story in the first couple emails. But no one has ever completely ignored straightforward questions. I also have a sort of guideline for my online conversations: I'll only give him as much info as he'll give me. Post Reply
View Profile History	Secretive Guy Posted : 5 Jan, 2011 06:39 AM I might say B & C.You know, most people are not always ready for a relationship & in his case,he may have also a past that he's not willing to share with you at this time, because it hurts him or he's afraid of hurting you at this time with his past.Remember,you know that he already has a child & he's divorced,so it may not be that he's still moved on from that,even though he's already interested in you. Post Reply
View Profile History	Secretive Guy Posted : 5 Jan, 2011 02:42 PM D. As in Deffinitly Something To Hide. Don't walk, run. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Secretive Guy Posted : 5 Jan, 2011 07:43 PM Yeah, run...sounds way to suspicious. There are a lot of guys out there. Nice honest ones too. :peace::peace: Post Reply
senny_wong View Profile History	Secretive Guy Posted : 6 Jan, 2011 03:44 AM Thanks for all of you guys ..I really appreciate your comments it helps me alot to be alert for this type of man.. So far he does not know that his secretive behaviour has spoilt my trust on him...we still get connected as per today though ..I will wait and see how open he will share about his life to me...who knows my patience will bear fruit since I've started to like him. Now the other episode which I have not told you is that there is a guy from faraway also,have been approaching me.It seems that he loves God.He is more open than the first guy.He looked serious too,though so far I know him only via photos and e-mail.However I don't have any feeling with this guy like the first one though the quality I wish for my soul mate is on him. Sometimes I feel bad by running 2 relationships at the same time.But I have not much time left...I just try not to utter love wordings or promise too much...My consideration is that before I tie the knot ,all of candidates have same chances and possibility... I really don't know whether I should choose the second guy with no feeling just becos he is very nice guy... To be honest with you for the first time it happens in my life kinda a long distance relationship like this with someone that I never meet before.It's quite risky and still have a weird feeling to experience this . However sometimes we can't tell what kind of relationship that we shall be going through untill it happens...What I do now is doing my part and the rest surrender it to God...be sincere like dove and smart like serpent... Any other opinions guys? I wish a belated happy new year to all of you.May Our Lord Jesus Christ find us the best one and forever this year.. Regards....Senny Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Secretive Guy Posted : 6 Jan, 2011 06:47 AM So you haven't met either of these guys? If not, I wouldn't worry too much about talking to two different guys...unless you have agreed to be in an exclusive relationship with each of them, or unless you feel very much like one particular guy could be "the one" for you while the other has no chance. As for the nice guy that you don't have feelings for...I don't know. Feelings can come as you get to know him, and from what you said it seems like you might already have more respect for him than you do for the other guy. That's something important to consider, I think. Post Reply
susana21 View Profile History	Secretive Guy Posted : 6 Jan, 2011 07:48 AM :) Most likely he have something he wants to hide. Just be careful, guard your heart. You don't wanna fall for the wrong person and end up getting hurt. God bless you. ( Oh, you can google his name or email address, you might find a little info about him, LOL ) Post Reply
View Profile History	Secretive Guy Posted : 6 Jan, 2011 10:11 PM Hmmm, 1 month? You said you don't have much time? What's going to happen if you don't get married right away? I daresay, a month isn't enough time with just a few emails and short calls. You can date someone several months and still find out new things about them you didn't know! I encourage you not too jump into a marriage too fast. Better too wait long time and find the right one, that to hurry and get the wrong one. It is a very serious step. So be careful, watch and pray, and definitely seek God and His guidance! Take care! Post Reply
senny_wong View Profile History	Secretive Guy Posted : 7 Jan, 2011 05:00 AM @pianogal:So far I never meet both of them..the status are still giving atry with 2 of them in relationship.It is only one guy does not know I get close to the other guy. But I think it's tough to trust the secretive man while our situation in long distance. And about the feeling I think you are right.A feeling can be developed as the time goes by.Marriage is all about commitment and not only the matter of feeling ,isn't it?Thanks sweety.God bless!! Post Reply
senny_wong View Profile History	Secretive Guy Posted : 7 Jan, 2011 05:08 AM @susana21:Unfortunately the secretive guy is not famous man.so difficult to google.Even if I could find him ,need his approval to see his profile/blog ,right? ;) I should believe option C .I checked his profile in yahoo..was told that he has also hidden his profile...Alamak... thanks by the way GBU! @flat lander:yeah I agree with you .Even more we are christian believe in 1 soulmate and forever ,no second marriage.Though I have to wait 1 or 2 years..It's still worth it ..isn't it ? Post Reply

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