Author	Thread: A discussion on age and why it should not be an important factor in dating
JasonDWV View Profile History	A discussion on age and why it should not be an important factor in dating Posted : 29 Dec, 2010 11:23 PM So I recently was introduced to a girl who before ever even getting the chance to get to know me she decided that based on my age I was not worth her time. My personal belief on this issue is simple. Obviously age is something we cannot change so in my opinion it should not be looked at so much as a physical thing but more as a mental thing. If you look at a person on their current level of maturity then I think you would have more success in the dating world. Simply put the average person my age is nowhere near my level of maturity. Many people have complimented me on my level of maturity, So I ask you this why should I be looked at, at being my physical age when my thought proccess is that of someone much older. Counter that with the fact that people who are much older than I can act like they were in highschool. My point being that I don't believe that people should take age so literal. It's not how old you are but how old you act. Post Reply
View Profile History	A discussion on age and why it should not be an important factor in dating Posted : 30 Dec, 2010 01:16 PM I agree....Age is a mental aspect that some people are set on when thinking about dating. Yet, I feel it is the aspect of maturity that is more important. I know someone 28 years old that acts like a complete child. I have been told growing up as a teenager that I was more mature than people in their 20s, and I was maybe 18-19. Maturity isn't based on experience like most people like to think. It is really based on how a person perceives things. I think that maturity comes with a person can manage their life (money and time), know what they want in life and have their priorities in order. I person at the age of 24 can have these things thought out while a person age 28 can have no idea what they want to do in life or how to manage anything. So age shouldn't be the sole factor in dating. Now anything over 10 years, then it perhaps becomes creepy lol. Post Reply
JasonDWV View Profile History	A discussion on age and why it should not be an important factor in dating Posted : 2 Jan, 2011 09:30 PM true enough lol. I am just glad I am not the only one that thinks a matter of one to two years or even three years is a that big of a deal. Post Reply
View Profile History	A discussion on age and why it should not be an important factor in dating Posted : 4 Jan, 2011 06:36 AM Yep,it's ok,but you know, most girls LOVE MEN who are more OLDER.If you doubt me,check out the Hispanics girls profiles, most of them (not all) have guys in their age range settings between 27-33,even though most of them are only 18 or 20 years old! (no offence senoritas:laugh): I do'nt know,it seems to me they think that the older the guys age,the more "wiser he is.I myself,used to think that way about women & mostly prefer women who're 28-33,but even though i'm only 23,i stil give girls who are 18- my age a chance.:rolleyes::laugh: Post Reply
susana21 View Profile History	A discussion on age and why it should not be an important factor in dating Posted : 4 Jan, 2011 10:30 AM It was probably because younger men tend to be less mature, with an exception of some few. It is probably because older men tend to know exactly what they want and probably not want to play around. Everyone have their preference i guess. Post Reply
Cheris View Profile History	A discussion on age and why it should not be an important factor in dating Posted : 4 Jan, 2011 03:15 PM Everyone does have their own preference and age being a disqualifying factor shows a person's maturity as well. And as a result I normally get stuck with hearing them go on and on about how it didn't work out and why they can't find anybody. :rolleyes: A person's values and moral ethics should be the deciding factor. Not that the other person wants to hear it all the time mind you. I've got a few men upset with me because they don't meet my standards and most of them are in their mid 30s to 40s. Is wanting to date a man who loves God and wants to share the walk of getting to know Him with another making the journey so hard to ask? Post Reply
View Profile History	A discussion on age and why it should not be an important factor in dating Posted : 4 Jan, 2011 03:32 PM I agree � to an extent. There is a common misconception among many women that older equals wiser/more �mature�. This is not always the case, and is in fact rarely the case� I would actually question the maturity of the older men on this site who ONLY want women far younger than them. It is usually an attitude of selfishness and wanting what they want. Honestly though, I think a lot of women that use the �maturity� thing as an excuse for wanting an older man are not being entirely truthful. For example, these �senoritas� that want men in their late 20s/early 30s are probably really thinking that a man that age is more likely to make more money and have a home. They are more concerned with the maturity of the man�s investments than his spiritual/mental maturity, I would venture to guess. Like we all agree so far, age has nothing to do with �maturity�, and I think a lot of those women really know that. I can understand why, on a physical level, why somebody would exclude people of a certain age. Women who want to have children would probably be wiser not to marry a man who is going to be an elderly father, and somebody who takes care of their body and lives an active life should seek somebody who can keep up with them. But to use a person�s physical age as a gauge for maturity is silly, and I wonder about the sincerity of those who use it as a reason to seek out people of a certain age. Post Reply
rainbowian View Profile History	A discussion on age and why it should not be an important factor in dating Posted : 5 Jan, 2011 10:23 AM Age should be in important factor. It's not a good idea to be involved with someone more than 5 years older or younger than you. Post Reply
View Profile History	A discussion on age and why it should not be an important factor in dating Posted : 6 Jan, 2011 12:54 PM Fair enough Rainbowian,but not everyone thinks that way. Post Reply
Cheris View Profile History	A discussion on age and why it should not be an important factor in dating Posted : 7 Jan, 2011 07:12 PM Agreed. But I won't let age affect my decisions because I don't want to miss out on an opportunity God may give me. Post Reply
GODsdaughter1990 View Profile History	A discussion on age and why it should not be an important factor in dating Posted : 17 May, 2011 03:09 PM I think with age, it depends on your maturity level. I know older people who have done stuff and I'm sitting there like " What were you thinking ? " I seen a 60 something man arguing, screaming and cussing with a 17 yearold, but then I've seen a 20 something man who is married and taking care of his business. So I think it's less about age and more about maturity. I think you should also be truthful with yourself, if you know you're immature please don't ignore that. Post Reply