Author	Thread: It's Wrong To Not Argue.
Admin	It's Wrong To Not Argue. Posted : 20 Dec, 2010 07:36 AM I think a lot of people see arguing as bad, and as a result avoid saying things because they're afraid it'll just lead to an argument. I think arguing is good because it leads to people understanding each other and their feelings better and growing closer as a result. It's bad when they stop arguing, without coming to any agreement or understanding and just crawl into shells and burn bridges and don't forgive each other, hold grudges and harbor resentment towards others, waiting or hoping for retribution. Instead we should forgive, ask for others forgiveness, be selfless, love, trust and grow closer to each other. Post Reply
View Profile History	It's Wrong To Not Argue. Posted : 20 Dec, 2010 07:51 AM Basically what I'm trying to say is don't stop arguing or avoid it all together because you're afraid to be honest and grow closer to people that are different than you. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	It's Wrong To Not Argue. Posted : 20 Dec, 2010 09:22 AM You have a very good point there, and I agree with what you said. However, some people argue just for the sake of arguing. That's how they make themselves feel more powerful, or "better", etc. My grandfather is like that. He'll argue some small, insignificant issue until he thinks he's convinced the other person to agree with him, then he'll switch sides and argue the other way! Perhaps the better thing to do is to use wisdom to know when TO argue and when NOT to argue. Some things aren't worth arguing about, and some people just get a power trip from arguing. If the issue IS worth arguing about, though, we shouldn't shy away from it...in a marriage especially, or even a dating relationship, that can be very dangerous. Post Reply
View Profile History	It's Wrong To Not Argue. Posted : 20 Dec, 2010 09:44 AM That's true. I know I've been known to do that on here. I've had some bad ones with my family too to the point were I used to be glad none of us lived in the same part of the country. I'm now finding that this is the way out of it. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	It's Wrong To Not Argue. Posted : 20 Dec, 2010 10:19 AM Yeah, there has to be love/respect in the argument or it's pretty pointless. :peace::peace: Post Reply
paschen81 View Profile History	It's Wrong To Not Argue. Posted : 23 Dec, 2010 05:20 PM I am one of the argument avoiders. To me once a discussion becomes an argument communication breaks down and feelings get bruised as voices become raised. It's one thing to have disagreements and voice those while also giving the other person their opportunity to voice their position and debate the issue and attempt to achieve a compromise between each persons views and if a compromise isn't achievable to respect the others view. If in a marriage and the husband and wife can not meet in compromise it is the wife's duty to yield her position if the husbands position is not outright sinful. Does that mean arguments won't ever happen? Of course not... But for me... Once the discussion moves from level headed discussion into emotion fueled arguing. I will table the discussion until tempers have cooled That's just me though. Post Reply
rainbowian View Profile History	It's Wrong To Not Argue. Posted : 24 Dec, 2010 03:01 PM The thing is that most people are very close-minded toward differing views. You end up going in circles and never getting anywhere. Post Reply
Joy2theW0rld View Profile History	It's Wrong To Not Argue. Posted : 27 Dec, 2010 05:02 PM Everyone has their way of dealing with problems, but my way is to refrain from arguments unless absolutely necessary. Perhaps an argument will lead two people into healthy communication but many times it just causes a breakdown in the relationship because of poor word choices and actions. Chances are if something needs to be said, it can be communicated by taking some time to cool down and then approach the person in healthy discussion. Post Reply