Author	Thread: dating, agian, never married
Admin	dating, agian, never married Posted : 20 Nov, 2010 04:42 PM is it just me or are there more older people that are looking again? i never got married and i know several people that are close to 30, but they think its weird that i haven't at least been married once. i was in a serious relationship when i was 19, but she went out of state to live with her dad, and dating seems rougher when u are in your 20's... Post Reply
BravoSaved View Profile History	dating, agian, never married Posted : 28 Nov, 2010 02:31 PM I got a buddy who didn't have his first girlfriend (and now wife) until 32 or 33. For me, I can relate with you to an extent, I think. I didn't start dating until I was 21. For the next few years, dating was just that, dating. But after being cheated on a few times, I found myself in quite a problem. Not only was my heart harden (I didn't want to be cheated on again), but before my heart got hard, I was following God's calling. Moving through two States and 3 cities over the course of a year and 11 months, I found myself lonely over time and, living where I was, there weren't very many good women to date. Finally making it back to the Denver area (and hence back home), I had left my career and gone back to college (once again on God's calling). And I thought at 24, then later 25, I wound finally find "that one" woman. Well I dated once at 25 for a short while, but it wasn't God's will, and she ended up moving back home to go back to college. Now I find myself at 26, working 6 days a week, going to college part-time, and wondering if I'll ever find that one woman. Although I go to college, I'm about the furthest thing from a flirt there can be. So although I know when women are flirting with me, I'm way too shy to flirt back (or in most cases, just don't know how to flirt back). And being so busy, I don't have the time (or the money) to go out with the buddies to socialize with women. And being older (I think this is where I can relate with you the most), I do find dating much harder. I'm no longer looking for a "girlfriend". I'm past the cheap dating time in my life. I don't want a girlfriend, I want a wife. So when I do date, I'm not going to date someone I can't see a future with. So, it does make it harder, because as each month goes by, I'm getting closer to 27, then 28, and then so on and so on. Although I know I shouldn't be complaining at 26, I realize the fact that I want to be married around 30 and start having children around 32 (and on average, I date once a year---its been over a year since my last girlfriend). And assuming I meet someone within the next few months or when I'm 27 or 28, with at least 2 years of dating, I'm looking at 30 to 31. And who knows? Maybe the to-be-wife wants children right away (although I want to be married for at least two years before children). So it's just all the stress of trying to plan out the whole marriage thing with age and what the to-be-wife wants, etc. Once again, yes, I do find dating harder when your older, mostly because I think as we get older, we're more picky and just don't want a girlfriend, but a wife. And we want that wife to be the right person, not the wrong person. Post Reply
View Profile History	dating, agian, never married Posted : 12 Dec, 2010 05:20 PM I find guys to date but they usually are not church going christian. Or just end stranglly before they even began...oh and I never really had a boyfriend. Post Reply
View Profile History	dating, agian, never married Posted : 22 Dec, 2010 11:53 AM Sounds like you all need to spend some time researching yourselves, rather than analysing others you come into contact with. Eliminate conditioned reactions and be true to yourself, this will draw people to you. If you always do the same things you will always get the same results. Post Reply