Author	Thread: Not till their 30's???
stormcountry33 View Profile History	Not till their 30's??? Posted : 1 Nov, 2010 10:57 AM Okay so I have been taken advantage of by the few women I have been attracted too...granted perhaps it just the women I'm attracted too and if so please pray for me because I need help...but these women have taken advantage of my "nice guy" personality. They tend to use me when they feel down or taken advantage of themselves yet when they get back up they move on and never give me a chance at a relationship...not fair? Now I have heard it said that women don't know what they want till they hit their 30's...I've also heard it said that they know what they want its just that they don't see it in men till the men get to be in their 30's so...if a "nice guy" out their fits what you are looking for...why wait til "the guy you want" turns 30 to hope that he changes into the man you want when you know there is a man out there who fits want you want but you've just always have used him to feel better about yourself...don't you conside the fact that maybe he actually cares for you and thats why he's been there for you? So...back to the question...why wait til you get in your 30's to get with a "nice guy" when there are nice guys out there now??? I'm sure you all know a nice guy...why not give him a chance? And don't think he won't stand up for you!!! Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Not till their 30's??? Posted : 1 Nov, 2010 10:41 PM When I was a sophomore in high school, one of my coworkers introduced me to his sister. Her name was Kim, and she had a boyfriend. When she broke up with her boyfriend, she instant messaged me (back when AIM was cool). I was a nice guy, and I was there for her. I started to develop feelings for her, and I could only assume that she was developing feelings for me. She wasn't. She just wanted to be friends, and she broke my heart. In the past 20+ years, I've known lots of "Kims." They had different names, but it all went the same. You're not the only one who has been in situations like this. I guarantee most of the guys on here have too. You can't keep letting women walk all over you like a doormat, man! You might feel bad about it at first, but if they come to you with problems, tell them you're not their boyfriend and if they need more than a little bit of cheering up, to take it to their girl friends. From what you said, it sounds like you're letting them open up to you because you hope that if you do, one of them will develop feelings for you and start to date you. We both know from experience that it doesn't work like that though. You attract women with who you are, not what you do to get them to like you. My suspicion isn't that women suddenly have an epiphany at 33 and stop being attracted to the guys they liked all their life. I think they just hear their biological clocks ticking and settle before it's too late to have kids. Remember that there is a difference between a nice guy, a good guy, and a jerk. Post Reply
View Profile History	Not till their 30's??? Posted : 3 Nov, 2010 07:38 PM I've kinda heard that myself. People know better about what they want in a marriage or a spouse after they've experienced (or even seen friends or family experience) how they work with different type people and personalities. And if they want someone who they can share activities with versus wanting someone who just comes home every night at a particular time, or whatever. We know more about ourselves and what's important to us as we grow older. Post Reply
View Profile History	Not till their 30's??? Posted : 10 Nov, 2010 03:15 PM Hi aly! So this is where you are hiding. I can't stalk you over here; I am not supposed to be in this section ....to old :-( Oops here 'they' come! Gotta go....bye Post Reply
View Profile History	Not till their 30's??? Posted : 10 Nov, 2010 05:03 PM Tulip, how can you be 21 and know so much about this stuff? I'm not being facetious. I'm impressed. Soooooo true. So true. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Not till their 30's??? Posted : 10 Nov, 2010 09:03 PM Aside from being incredibly intelligent and naturally gifted? Hahaha. I had some non-Christian guys who were quite a bit more successful with the ladies than I was who taught me a lot of what they knew. Some of it had to be adapted for Christian use, but at their core, women are women whether they're Christian or not. The vast majority of what they taught me, surprisingly, turned out to be applications of principles that were also a part of Biblical masculinity. Also, I have a very close female friend who likes me enough to be honest when I ask her questions instead of telling me what she thinks I want to hear. Post Reply