Author	Thread: Kids these days...
Admin	Kids these days... Posted : 20 Oct, 2010 10:37 PM Kids today have more than just television. Computers are in homes, even bedrooms, and cell phones are given to children. Teenagers spend their social time text messaging instead of talking face to face, more and more of their lives are based in virtual reality. Social skills are being learned on a much smaller scale, if at all. Monday, while driving home from class, I passed a pair of school kids on their way home from their classes. I was driving very legally, quite slow and giving the children a wide berth, when one of them (I assume for the enjoyment of his peer), saw me, smiled, and turned to yell at me. The only word I could make out was a rather rude one conjecturing my status of a female dog. Earlier this evening, I got in line at a store while a group of teenaged girls stood about ten feet away from the line, with they backs to it, looking at merchandise. Said group later got in line behind me, one shouted, �You cut me!� And the entire group proceeded to harass me and my friend by getting within an inch of the back of my head and staring at me, swearing at me, and even attempting to grab the hood of my friend�s jacket, all the time at us and making fun. The elder in the group, obviously a mother of one of them, merely stood by silently. My question for you is, �What is happening with kids these days?� Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Kids these days... Posted : 20 Oct, 2010 10:42 PM Probably just that. Parents stand by silently/passively. Kids are more in control of their parents than the parents are of the children. :peace::peace: Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Kids these days... Posted : 20 Oct, 2010 11:14 PM Not as many are getting spanked. The solution? Give 'em all a spanking. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Kids these days... Posted : 21 Oct, 2010 05:37 AM I agree...passive parents and no spankings. You better believe that my parents were NOT passive, and they firmly believed in spankings! And you know what? I learned to behave. I have no intentions of raising my own future kids to be so rude and obnoxious. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Kids these days... Posted : 21 Oct, 2010 07:04 AM Well...I can't remember my dad ever spanking me, but we respected/obeyed him, even more than my mom, who was the one who did the spanking. Spanking is necessary, especially when kids are to young to understand reason, but I think there is definitely more to it than that. We need to be the kind of parents that earn the love/respect of our children, and not just illicit obedience through punishment. That will only get you so far. I know plenty of people that feared their parents, but they sure didn't want to obey them, lol. :peace::peace: Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Kids these days... Posted : 21 Oct, 2010 07:53 AM I liked (well, NOW I like...not so much at the time) how my parents handled spankings. Spankings were reserved for incidences of deliberate disobedience or especially bad behavior, and we were always warned that if we didn't stop whatever we were doing, we would get a spanking. If it actually came to a spanking, my parents explained to us WHY we were getting spanked, and then prayed with us after the spanking. And spankings were NEVER EVER done when my parents were still mad at us. (Us, We, etc. refers to me and my two sisters.) Post Reply
View Profile History	Kids these days... Posted : 21 Oct, 2010 08:18 AM Something I notice is, some parents today do not find it enjoyable raising their kids. Parents keep complaining about their children, some parents even feel sorry that they ever had children. I think based on that reason, children kinda feel unwanted since they heard it by themselves when their parents are complaining about them being around. They feel rejected even by two people that "created" them in this world. When people feel rejected, it would usually followed by bitterness, and it would cause them want to hurt others the way they being hurt. I agree with others, spanking is biblical. Post Reply
View Profile History	Kids these days... Posted : 21 Oct, 2010 08:18 AM Something I notice is, some parents today do not find it enjoyable raising their kids. Parents keep complaining about their children, some parents even feel sorry that they ever had children. I think based on that reason, children kinda feel unwanted since they heard it by themselves when their parents are complaining about them being around. They feel rejected even by two people that "created" them in this world. When people feel rejected, it would usually followed by bitterness, and it would cause them want to hurt others the way they being hurt. I agree with others as well since spanking is biblical. Post Reply
Crista03 View Profile History	Kids these days... Posted : 21 Oct, 2010 10:22 AM "18 Discipline your son, for in that there is hope; do not be a willing party to his death." (Proverbs 19:18) "15 The rod of correction imparts wisdom, but a child left to himself disgraces his mother." (Proverbs 29:15) "17 Discipline your son, and he will give you peace; he will bring delight to your soul." (Proverbs 29:17) Post Reply
View Profile History	Kids these days... Posted : 21 Oct, 2010 10:31 AM In my old church, I noticed passivity among parents as well. Their kids (some were young teens, even!) wouldn't pay any attention in church and would be doing things that were distracting to those of us around them that were trying to listen to the preaching. Of course, the parents just let them poke at each other and what-not. Its sad that Christian parents can't be different in regards to teaching their children discipline. My guess is that parents who don't discipline their children, whether they are christian or non-christian, were probably raised in homes where they weren't disciplined by their parents. This is only a guess, because I don't know the answer for certain. Post Reply
NicoleMarieG View Profile History	Kids these days... Posted : 21 Oct, 2010 11:27 AM It comes down to everyone and everything else raising a child. As opposed to parents. Parents being there to answer questions. Help with homework. Share a family meal. And its not just having a woman at home while a man works. Its about both parents sharing the responsibilities of raising the children. My sister and her husband both work. But they alternate on who drops the girls off in the morning and who picks them up. They both talked with their superiors and made out a schedule. The kids are never left home without a family member. We don't hire babysitters. If for some reason the parents can't be home, grandparents and aunts and uncles and the like are called. This is the second marriage for my brother and law and first marriage (though she had children before) for my sister. They come from previous relationships. So there is a lot of family to go around. I don't even think spankings are necessarily the issue. My nieces aren't spanked but they are extremely well behaved. I took care of them over the summer and it was great. There was a discipline chart set up and daily schedules and lessons. And whenever one of them was in trouble, it was a progressive kind of discipline. And it never led to spankings or anything physical. This is largely due to the fact that one of my nieces was physically abused by her stepmother. And emotionally abused by her father. =[ We have a saying in the house... HANDS ARE NOT FOR HITTING, WORDS ARE NOT FOR HURTING! We explain to them each time they are in trouble. Alot of the times, with younger kids, its that they don't understand their feelings. Especially if they are emotional children. So we take them upstairs to their room so they can let it out. They can finish their "freak out" and calm down. After a few minutes, an adult comes upstairs and sits with them and we discuss what upset them, why they are in trouble, and better ways of handling their feelings. Its hard. But it takes being their for your kids and wanting to raise them and loving them like its no ones business! I love kids. I absolutely adore my nieces. Its not just about discipline its also about fostering good behavior in our kids. Its about building their self esteem. Its about encouraging them to excel. Telling them things like, "good job!" or "nice try!" or "that is very nice of you!". Teaching them how to cooperate and communicate and build friendships. To know to tell the truth. To know right from wrong. To respect themselves and their peers and adults. Kids....are amazing! They are a gift! And we as adults and young adults are in good positions to work with them! If it seems like its not happening at home, think of ways you can inspire youth in your neighborhood or church or school. We have a responsibility to them and the future. I'm a firm believer in teaching begins at home. But it would be insane to think that it always happens. Home lives can be bad or parents absent or its an issue of poor communication. So do what you can. Volunteer at after school programs. Become a youth group advisor. Donate some time to the boys and girls clubs of america. Do what you can to make a difference. And then maybe you won't always be asking these kinds of questions. =] Post Reply

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