Author	Thread: How far is to far?
EssenceofOcean View Profile History	How far is to far? Posted : 6 Sep, 2010 07:39 PM Hello all! To those of us who are trying to live a Christian life and are dating, or want to date someone..how far is to far in your relationship? I do mean in a physical sence; where do you cross the line and say, "Ok, this is far enough.." We all know as men and women our sexuality.. and our desire for the flesh is very very tempting.. and believe me I can respect that and understand it. However, I personally have made a promise to God and myself that I will not have sexual intercourse until I am married. However, I am fine with kissing and holding one another. I do realize that this can lead to other things. however that is where I believe God fits in to this equation. For with God all things are possible. What are everyone's thoughts on this? Regardless of your past..for when you have become saved all things are wiped clean..you have a new slate a new beginning. God bless, and have a great day! Post Reply
View Profile History	How far is to far? Posted : 6 Sep, 2010 08:04 PM I really struggle w/ knowing where the line is. I would like to engage in hugging, holding, snuggling, and kissing, but am afraid that this would arouse the guy and cause trouble. So, I'm not sure if those things are maybe too much. That said, I really like kissing and I'm not sure that I could control myself enough to keep myself from kissing a certain someone. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	How far is to far? Posted : 6 Sep, 2010 08:05 PM The problem with the question, "How far is too far?" is that ultimately it boils down to, "How much can I give into my desires without God getting too mad at me?" The question we need to be asking is, "How do I relate to my significant other in the most God-honoring way possible, and how can I help them relate to me in the most God-honoring way possible?" Personally, I believe that kissing can be a way to show your significant other that you care about them. If it's causing them (or you) to stumble though, it is no longer honoring God. There's plenty of time for kissing after you're married though, so there's no need to rush. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	How far is to far? Posted : 6 Sep, 2010 10:23 PM Yep, just only go as far as you can safely handle. If kissing starts to push one of you over the line, then don't do it. And you might even want to have some buffer room. Certain things/times might not push you across the line all the time...but why gamble? :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	How far is to far? Posted : 6 Sep, 2010 10:54 PM I wonder: If you slip up and have sex w/ someone prior to marriage if that is a sign that you're off on the wrong foot and should just break up?? Post Reply
View Profile History	How far is to far? Posted : 6 Sep, 2010 11:14 PM Or maybe it's a sign that you should just go elope immediately? Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	How far is to far? Posted : 7 Sep, 2010 01:08 AM :ROFL: definatly not the later For me Im against kissing and cuddeling until marriage. It usally seems extreme to women, but if a man is ituned enough to what women like, both can get caught up, and be in sin in a very short period of time. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	How far is to far? Posted : 7 Sep, 2010 07:14 AM I'm not sure about the sex thing. We shouldn't quit being a christian when we sin. We ask forgiveness and step back on the path. Just make sure you recognize the slip as a mistake, and avoid it in the future. It's not safe to have sex before marriage, because you don't know that you're getting married for sure until you are married. And sex before marriage is going to cause a lot of problems. Sometimes really difficult/painful/guilt-ridden ones. :peace::peace: Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	How far is to far? Posted : 7 Sep, 2010 11:29 AM IDK it seems once that line is crossed its hard not to be drawn to that person even if you dont want to. Sex before marriage is a viscious cycle, that only seems to be broken by fleeing, even if it means fleeing from the acomplise Post Reply
EssenceofOcean View Profile History	How far is to far? Posted : 7 Sep, 2010 01:04 PM I can see everyone's points on this topic..It just seems that men and women are so quick to hop in to bed together..and, I don't want a man that is like that. However, here's something that a friend of mine pointed out to me that I thought to share with you all. If the man or woman you are dating is pressuring you to go farther than you would like, or they won't take no for an answer..and they won't respect your choices than they are not the one for you. I have faith that God will raise a stop sign in trying to warn you of this. Post Reply
tillthen View Profile History	How far is to far? Posted : 7 Sep, 2010 02:15 PM Rabbit, I don't think there is many men left that think like you do. I agree with you a 100% on your comments on How far is too far. I am divorced. I know that kissing and cuddling will led to fornication. A goodnight kiss on the forehead would work just fine. Save the lips for marriage. Post Reply

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