Author	Thread: Modesty-men and women
Admin	Modesty-men and women Posted : 15 Aug, 2010 10:22 PM As a Christian Lady, I work hard at maintaining modesty amidst our media driven culture. Keeping oneself modest, fashionable, and marketable in the single Christian world is difficult. Please understand that I don't always do my best, I'm not perfect by any means, but I try...God clearly sets out standards for modesty for the protection of our hearts and minds, as well as for the protection of marriage. My confusion is that I see profiles of guys on this site without shirts, or in their swimsuits, or from the vantage of knee level looking up. Now don't get me wrong, I also see ladies picture's showing similar angles and exposure of skin. Guys and girls, what is your advice to maintain modesty? How do you do it? I'm just curious what other views are of this.....what are your thoughts? Please share! Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Modesty-men and women Posted : 16 Aug, 2010 10:25 AM Humility. If you fight pride, you fight immodesty. You just have to ask yourself why you're doing the things you do and whether or not it's going over the top. Are you doing it to make yourself feel more beautiful/handsome? Why? Usually the answer is insecurity/vanity. There's a point where doing things to look nice crosses over into feeding your ego. We just have to find that happy medium where we look nice, but we're not doing a bunch of unnecessary things to puff ourselves up or cover/distract from our imperfections. Personally, I find imperfections kind of attractive...makes us look natural/human. :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	Modesty-men and women Posted : 21 Aug, 2010 09:49 PM this may sound weird coming from a guy... but i think modesty is important, and we may have a double standard, i don't see a problem with a guy without a shirt, but when i see a girl with a low cut top and cleavage showing there are two responses first is usually the flesh wanting to look, but second and almost immediately is the realization that this could be someones wife / girl friend, and i am actually repulsed by seeing so much flesh. one part of me likes what i see, another part hates. i am generally more attracted to women who dress conservatively, thankfully most of the girls at my college group dress modestly, but when someone is waring revealing clothes, i actually feel sorry for them because i see it as low self esteem or that they don't value themselves . this is my view , i hope i don't offend anyone with this. B.I.C Post Reply
View Profile History	Modesty-men and women Posted : 22 Aug, 2010 11:22 PM It has always been though, that a man's chest isn't nearly as erotic as a woman's so being shirtless isn't necessarily a bad thing. It just depends on the context. I live in Clearwater, FL and we pretty much have beach weather all year-round. The majority of my pictures (on my computer) are of me in a pair of board shorts and doing something on the beach-even if it's enjoying dinner. I don't flex any muscles or anything in any of my shots, I'm not doing the cholo-pose or anything. I'm just being me on the beach. But most of my pictures are me fully clothed, often-times covering most of my body, despite the insufferable heat and sweltering humidity. I believe that men should dress like men: put the pants on at the waist, put on a belt, if it's a t-shirt do whatever, if it has buttons tuck it in. For women, V-necks and such are okay, so long as I don't see the valley and it's not so sheer I see through it. I'm also more attracted to women that dress conservatively, and I'd go as far as to say something capri-lengthish for pants and pretty much most of young women clothing for tops is alright. I don't mind seeing shoulders or collarbones, but midriff looks improper and cover the undergarments aye? Post Reply
View Profile History	Modesty-men and women Posted : 28 Aug, 2010 05:38 PM Thank you for your responses! I hope more people will brave-it and pitch in their opinions. As far as guys' chests not being erotic, I think its a matter of opinion. We girls may not view things in those terms but none the less, a chest is appealing to us. Take for instance movies. All the chick flicks out there show no more than a man taking off his shirt and yet it causes every woman in the theater to fan her self. The leading man rarely shows more than himself in shorts or shirtless. Scripture is resplendent with references to running to our Father's arms, being held, His arms of protection, and countless others. Why do you think that is? A woman may consider looks in her future mate, but not as highly as men do. We seek the shelter and protection that a man brings with his strength (not physical.) We seek arms to hold us after a hard day, shoulders to rest our cares on and to take the responsibility, a chest to lay our heads at the end of the day.... I don't know....I'm just saying that as it is my responsibility to protect my brothers by dressing modestly, it is also yours to protect your sisters. Just a thought! Post Reply
View Profile History	Modesty-men and women Posted : 10 Sep, 2010 07:24 PM @rain song so if a guy has a stomach is that still ok to show? personally i like to keep clothes covering my self, and we should all strive for modesty, if we dress in a revealing manner we could be causing a brother or sister to stumble, ...not edifying... Post Reply
View Profile History	Modesty-men and women Posted : 15 Oct, 2010 08:00 PM Thank you for taking a stand against modern Christianity and its stand against modest apparel. Post Reply
View Profile History	Modesty-men and women Posted : 30 Dec, 2010 09:14 PM There seems to be lot of these types of questions on the forum at CDFF. I will try to answer somewhat. I wear long sleeves(this is just our way of honoring God more and being seperate from the world, I'm fine with short sleeves, but would not be comfortable wearing short sleaves in public) and jeans/slacks etc, no shorts. Ihave seen peoples comments that they do not dress like that because it is hot out. I live in Kansas and it gets very hot and humid, but I still dress this way. I feel men should always wear shirts/t-shirts and that it is wrong not to in public. I feel women should also dress modestly. When you dress modestly you are honoring God, yourself, and people of the opposite sex! You can still look attractive without dressing like the world does! I hope this helps someone Post Reply