Author	Thread: Is physical attraction so important...
stormcountry33 View Profile History	Is physical attraction so important... Posted : 27 May, 2010 07:27 AM Is physical attraction so important that despite all the wonderful qualities someone may have, you just can't bring yourself to form a deeper relationship becasue you aren't "attracted" to them in "that way"? I was going to pose this question for the ladies but then realized that it could be for guys as well. I'm just thinking of all the good people out there that aren't given a chance because they aren't "attractive". Thoughts?? Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Is physical attraction so important... Posted : 27 May, 2010 08:52 AM Depends on what you mean by attraction. I think it is very important to be attracted to your spouse, but what is attraction anyway? Some people are just drawn to each other. That's what I think is attraction. If everything about a person just draws you in...then you're truly attracted to them. Like magnets. I dunno...the "world" just seems to have the grand sweeping view that says "if you're not a super model then you aren't attractive". I just think it's a little deeper/multi-faceted/personal. :peace::peace: Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Is physical attraction so important... Posted : 27 May, 2010 10:12 AM I agree with Mark. Physical attraction is about so much more than just appearance. However, I do think that I need to find a guy to be at least somewhat pleasing to look at...it doesn't matter if no one else thinks that he is good-looking. I don't want to feel the urge to vomit every time I look at him!!! Post Reply
stormcountry33 View Profile History	Is physical attraction so important... Posted : 28 May, 2010 10:32 AM I guess what I'm thinking is...If you see someone at a party or on the street. In other words you don't know who they are...if they aren't physically attractive in your eyes. Do you give them a chance to show you the other side of them with the possibility that you will become attracted to them for their other qualities? I'm not saving that you wouldn't look at them as a potential friend but that thought of them becoming more isn't going to there. However when you see someone who you think is physically attractive you WANT to find out their other qualities and hope that maybe it will become something more than just a friendship. Therefore, how important and how big a role does the physical play a part in building a loving relationship with someone? Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Is physical attraction so important... Posted : 28 May, 2010 02:02 PM I think that with a complete stranger that I would likely never see again, physical attraction plays a big role in whether or not I would make an effort to get to know him while I had the opportunity. It's sad, and I didn't say it's right, but it's true. If I met someone and was around him because of work or friends, and got to know him that way, his appearance would be far less of a factor because my perception of his attractiveness would already be biased one way or another. Did that make sense? Physical attraction is not all that important, but it can play a big role initially when there are no other factors to consider at the moment. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Is physical attraction so important... Posted : 29 May, 2010 04:40 PM Makes sense to me... :peace::peace: Post Reply
stormcountry33 View Profile History	Is physical attraction so important... Posted : 31 May, 2010 06:53 AM Thanks bc, that's exactly what I'm getting at or trying to figure out. I think withouth having an initial physical attraction, a connection on a higher level is not quite likely to be reached. I think without that physical attraction a friendship might be developed but taking it to the next level is not likely to happen. It might but I think most relationships have come to be because an initial physical attraction lead an individual to want to achieve a higher connection than just being friends. Thats why I think a physical attraction is important or at least it has been in my case. Not from me so to speak...I think I've been on the recieving end. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is physical attraction so important... Posted : 2 Jun, 2010 10:20 PM Let me assert my firm belief.... ...that women are more shallow than men. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is physical attraction so important... Posted : 4 Jun, 2010 12:22 AM While nobody should be out there looking for a "perfect" person (physically speaking) I also agree that it is very important to be attracted to your spouse physically. After all, if your hubby/wife was not attracted to you and you knew it would you not always be worried that they're looking for something better. I would be woried that they weren't happy and felt they settled for me. Nobody wants that. I'm not the best looking guy in the world but I want a woman to make me feel like I am and I want to do the same for her. That's my 2 cents. lol. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is physical attraction so important... Posted : 7 Jun, 2010 07:43 AM @Rod: Respectfully, I think your perspective is irrational on that one. Some women are shallow just as some men are shallow. When it comes to being rejected it rarely has anything to do with you personally. Don't just focus on the negetive. Don't let it drag you down (if that's what the source of the volitility was that i got from your post. if not, then oops). The only person that really knows whether you're awesome or not is you. Unfortunatly for them it's their loss too. So don't let it drag you down, brother. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is physical attraction so important... Posted : 7 Jun, 2010 10:05 PM Thanks for the reply! But no, it's not due to rejection...it's just something that I've picked up on over the years. I've noticed many girls talking about guys WAY worse than I've heard some guys talking about girls. The fact that so many modern young ladies are fixated on this idea of prince charming (or, I guess now, Edward Cullen) is also sickening. - Kyle Post Reply

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