I kissed dating goodbye - Part GOODBYE AND GOOD RIDDENCE
Posted : 21 Feb, 2010 11:24 AM
I'm not sure if true holy matrimony exist especially in the United States of America. While we proclaim to be a nation under God, yet we rank number one on the highest divorce rate in the entire world.
The reasons of Divorce are for many reasons but after reading this book; this is one of the factors.
The purpose of this post is not to disrespect God, Christianity, nor the USA, or anyone but to view how much too much religion is doing more harm than good in a relationship.
I signed up in a denominational and a non SDA dating website and i'm deeply disturbed on how much 22, 23, 24, 25 year old have "divorced" on their status. My guard is up by getting myself into a really really churchy person. Sorry but i'm a very dynamic guy (That's what i've been told by many of my friends) and my intentions are to double that dynamic energy as i get older.
I cannot stand reading this book any longer, seriously; I only reached to page 96 with so much frustration towards this author about this matter of maintaining pure. Staying pure is not the issue because that's how God wants us to be that way until I say I do.
He is going overboard by throwing a ton of scripture at my face and refers to non Christians as Pagans or Heathens. Josh Harris should have realized that Christ himself goes after these kind of people instead of the "righteous" His comments are not cool, PERIOD!
A person can easily fall into temptation if an individual is being on constant torment in a ultra conservative or religious environment. In my case if I was at a SDA or Christian University.
God has giving me the privilege of putting me in a public university after 12 years in the SDA Schools. Y? So I can start applying myself in the real world. At age 28, I'm still a virgin. AT KSU, I can easily go to a women dorm room without being stopped by no one. However I refuse. Also, my campus ministers talk about sexual purity at KSU; I'm trying to say my selection of peers has an impact on me. According to the book, Josh has thrown a bunch of examples where young people grew up in the so called "Christian homes, heavily involved at their churches but they have made the mistake by having sex before marriage. Now the issue is, what went wrong? My questions to everyone is how, why and etc? I think God will tell me, it's not a right that I go to KSU but a privilege.
Now, Josh Harris is still young plus he just recently got married so apparently his hormones are still raging with a side of "religion" Most guys around the age of 40 and above start having that phase where they like to start going after younger girls. It's all about loyalty towards your spouse till the day you die so hopefully he will keep doing what he has been preaching.
I would like to be honest with everyone about me. YES! IT would be nice to have a beautiful warm body laying next to me every single night, it would be nice to experience the physical intimacy, I think about the beautiful women that I see at KSU or on TV. But I should ask myself, whats the next step for me? What would happen if she got pregnant (BTW, I'M AGAINST BIRTH CONTROL/ABORTION BY ALL MEANS) what would her family say (My parents would be somewhat shock, eh they just turned 60's so they do want a grandkid plus they are cool) how am i going to afford to keep you both (LOL!!, Trust me I'm not a high school student plus my post secondary education will get me far life) I am having so much fun with my business, friends, so what's the rush. I'm thinking about my expensive dream computer from dell plus a few extras. I would like to have many females "friends" and go out on the town ( I know Atlanta very well ) Groups of people (WELCOME)
Anyways those are my final words of this review. Jesus is awesome but coming from a spiritual instead of a religious person; keep in mind
"Not everyone who says to me, 'Lord, Lord,' will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only he who does the will of my Father who is in heaven.
Matthew 7:21
Action does speak louder than words.
To Josh Harris, your book isn't really for me but I'll pray that everything works out for you.
I kissed dating goodbye - Part GOODBYE AND GOOD RIDDENCE
Posted : 21 Feb, 2010 07:44 PM
I read I kissed dating goodbye and I agree.. I did not like the book at all!!! I disagreed with most of the things he had to say, but the guy was what, 21 or 22 at the time he wrote it. Most people that age(myself included) think they know a lot more than they do and I think he had good intentions writing it. It has it's purpose and for some people it works great for them and it's what they need to hear but for someone like you and I we can just use it as a fire starter... no offense to him. I like his other book, sex isnt the problem lust is. That is his one and only book I have semi enjoyed. All the other ones collect dust on my shelf... hope this helps you see we all dont think like he does ;)
I kissed dating goodbye - Part GOODBYE AND GOOD RIDDENCE
Posted : 22 Feb, 2010 06:38 PM
Hello Sara,
Thanks for the post. Yeah he has good intentions but he doesn't need to go overboard though because it can turn off many people and maybe worse; falling into it. He is still young plus he has been only married for a few years so he has not have that much experience in life. So his intentions are good but he still does need to grow up more and experience life.
