Okay there is a question that no one seems to have an answer for, maybe someone here will.
For years I have pondered which is better:
Being to busy or Not being busy enough
However, recently I have wondered something new that seems to stump everyone.
Why do people make promises when they know they can't keep them. I don't mean when something happens that forces you change your promise. I mean when the decision is YOURS to make, but you still break your promise. I figure why should you make the promise if you know you can't keep it.
I don't know why people make promises and don't keep them. It's wrong, and I won't have a relationship or marriage with a guy who doesn't do what he promises. Personally, I only promise to do something that I KNOW I can do...if I am not sure, I don't promise but instead say that I'll try to do it if/when I can.
Now as for better to be too busy or not busy enough...I don't know! Being too busy can wear a person out, cause them to forsake God and family, and hinder a social life. On the other hand, not being busy enough means that there is a lot of free time that Satan can use for his own good if you let him. I think probably a good balance is best! I tend to lean more to the "too busy" side because I can (and I enjoy my 4 jobs!), but I have to be careful that it doesn't take the place of God and family.
First, about the promise thing. I want to start by saying that I believe in keeping promises, and I use that word advisedly, and rarely. I'm not advocating what I'm about to say, just pointing it out as a possibility for some.
I think in some cases it comes down to 'situational fluidity'. Basically, it's the theory of 'things change'. People make promises based on the situation they're in, when the promise relates to something they will/won't do later, when the situation has changed.
In the morning, I'm always so tired (me and getting out of bed don't go well together), so I convince myself that I'll be in bed earlier the following night. Of course, I haven't factored in that my favourite TV show is on later that night - or it's been too long since I played my guitar, so I'm going to have to 'shred' for a while. My situation changes and I find that perhaps that decision I made in the morning was a little unrealistic. It was an honest decision - just an unrealistic one.
This is a silly little example, of course, but in a more serious context, some people justify breaking a promise (rightly or wrongly) on the basis that changing circumstances fudge the line between "can't" and "won't" in keeping a promise. It's a retrospective 'retraction' of the promise. Not simply "I refuse to do that", but "I shouldn't have made that promise".
Again, I'm not advocating this way of thinking, but I think some do use this justification (even subconsciously) to view their "won't" as a "can't" - perhaps alleviating their conscience along the way.
On the first question, I don't think either too busy or not busy enough are good for you. If I had to make a choice though, I'd frame the question like this:
"Would I rather die on my feet of over-achievement, or in my bed from lethargy?"
No choice at all, really, as Bon Jovi said "I'll live while I'm alive and sleep when I'm dead" :)
I think it's better to ebb and flow with busy. Sometimes I'm too busy, then things slow down and I get a break. Then it gets going again. I'm not sure I could control it always anyway.
As for promises, I think we have a selfish culture, a selfish church, and a selfish gospel. So naturally we think selfishly. When a promise doesn't work out for the level of comfort we want we ditch it. The person is getting rarer who sticks to their promises. The Bible tells us that all vows have to be performed. God will hold you to it, and there will be an accounting one way or the other. So let your yes be yes and your no be no, and don't make promises unless you mean it.
I think it is important to work hard over working too much. Quality is always better than quantity. And if you work hard, you'll always know that you did your best, and earned your pay. I suppose its all about your work ethic.
As far as promises...many times we make lofty claims that we'll do this and that, but I wonder how many times we come up with a plan to make those things come true. When you want to buy a house, don't you have some sort of plan to pay for it? I can say that the reasons that I have failed to meet promises in the past, is because I never really established how to follow through with them, or never had my heart in the right place. I know it is because I am selfish and inconsiderate sometimes. Nowadays, the only promises I make are the ones I know I can keep before I even make them...especially knowing now, that God will honor a person who keeps their word, no matter the cost. Read Psalm 15.
I think promises are broken, maybe because that one person is scared, not necessarily busy, but scared to commit. If you can't keep a promise then don't agree to it. People need to think that if they get themselves into that kind of situation, they should really take it into consideration. My thoughts lol hope I somewhat answered your question.
