Author	Thread: Busy Singles
bcpianogal View Profile History	Busy Singles Posted : 16 Nov, 2009 08:46 AM Have you ever stepped back and taken a good look at your day-to-day life and thought "Wow, I'm busy"? I did that recently, and I wondered if other young singles find themselves to be really busy or if it's just me. If you do find yourself to be really busy, why do you stay busy? Do you like to keep busy? What would you change about your schedule if you had to maintain a relationship? Do you think that you might be single because you are too busy to meet people? I'm just curious to get input on this...there's no right or wrong answer! Discuss away! Post Reply
View Profile History	Busy Singles Posted : 17 Nov, 2009 10:10 PM I think that a lot actually. I am aware that my day-to-day life is very busy. I think part of the reason for that is that I do like to keep busy. There are so many things that I want to do that sometimes I try to schedule more than what is realistically possible for a given time frame. I also have a hard time saying no when someone asks me to do something because most of the time I genuinely want to help them out. Sometimes I have to look at my schedule and re-prioritize. For example, I decided that I want to have more time to hang out with friends during my last semester of college because those relationships are important to me. So I am taking a minimum course load next semester and cutting back on some of my academic related activities. I am sure that I will continue to be very busy for at least the next several years because of my career goal. I don't see myself changing career paths, but I suspect that if I were in a relationship I would find ways to make adjustments to the way I manage my time because that relationship would be important to me. It's quite possible that my busy schedule keeps me from meeting people, but I think probably the primary reason that I am still single is because I am looking for a very particular type of person and I don't think there are many that fall into that category. Perhaps I'm just too picky. ;-p A lot of the time I feel like staying busy is a good way to meet people because I'm usually getting involved in things with other people. Plus I'm using the gifts God gave me. I do feel convicted sometimes though when I get so busy that my prayer and devotion time suffers. Post Reply
Phoebe2 View Profile History	Busy Singles Posted : 19 Nov, 2009 09:46 AM Nice post....! :applause: I'm too busy, and it has become an addiction , that I can't stand being a little free. I volunteer and keep myself involved in different things to occupy my mind. But I don't think its the only reason that's keeping me from meeting people. I think the right one hasn't shown up yet. Waiting on the Lord, then we could get busy together, or free my schedule some. Post Reply
View Profile History	Busy Singles Posted : 19 Nov, 2009 04:26 PM I could say I'm busy to a point, like today, I had college classes from 7:30-4:30, than I came home, ate dinner and had to leave to get my hair trimmed. Its like I didnt have any time at all today. Other days ist not as busy but I usually get home around 4:30 for most of my week, its nuts. Post Reply
Thomw_99 View Profile History	Busy Singles Posted : 19 Nov, 2009 05:35 PM A lot of the singles I know stay busy so they keep their minds off the fact that they are single and feel lonely. Unfortunately one side affect of staying busy is that it sometimes prevents you from meeting someone. For some others they stay busy to avoid meeting someone, even though they may say different. How ironic~lol Peace to You Sisters, Thom Post Reply
aceets View Profile History	Busy Singles Posted : 22 Nov, 2009 02:16 AM Beth, Thanks for the post. It is a very good one indeed and it made me think. Yes, I believe that I am way too busy and that has prevented me from meeting people. Being a young seminary lecturer demands enormous amounts of time to be invested in the preparation of lectures of your own, rather then relying on the notes of your teachers. Last year it truly overwhelmed me so that I ended up staying in the office from 6AM to 11PM just in order to be ready for the next class. Only a good summer holiday with my family saved me from a burn-out. Well, you can imagine how much time I had to hang out with people my age. Oh, and by the way, it is culturally inappropriate to date one of your students in my part of the world! So, how do I turn this around. First, I made sure I did some of the class preparation during the summer. Next, I commanded :) myself to stay in the office only from 9AM to 5PM and no more. Thirdly, I will not agree to do any teaching that has not been scheduled ahead of time. So far things have looked better, although CDFF has remained one of the few means by which I meet people. Hopefully that may change some day. To sum up, I honestly believe that one of the reasons why I am single is because I am to busy. Blessings Aceets Post Reply
View Profile History	Busy Singles Posted : 24 Nov, 2009 07:53 PM Yes I am very busy. As a full time student going into the medical field I don't even have time to clean my house :( Also working to earn money to cover the expenses of med-school keeps me busy. I think I have plenty of chances to meet other singles at college, work, and church. Just not finding anyone who shares my same intrist Post Reply
View Profile History	Busy Singles Posted : 25 Nov, 2009 05:13 PM Maybe another word for it would be 'active', ja? Me I really don't apologize for it. Nothing wrong with being a good steward by maintaining, improving, and organizing, what God has blessed you with (e.g. car, job, living area, finances, relationships, talents, etc.) and working towards the things you want in life. It's definitly a balance, and the more love you have the more effective you'll be at finding a way to make it work and have a healthy, progressive, positive mindset (hint: source of love comes from Him). If nothing else, just don't be a workaholic and skimp out on maintaining relationships. There is a time to be busy and there is a time to rest and renew. I make sure I take a 30 minute power nap when I'm done being busy/active for the day (usually around 6 or 7). And on the weekend i usually reward myself by going out and exploring a new place i've never been such as a place in the city, or a nearby national monument or park. That's my system and I'm sticking to it. :bouncy: Post Reply
atlfan27 View Profile History	Busy Singles Posted : 9 Dec, 2009 11:13 AM I enjoy the kind of work that I do but having fun and sociable is extremely important. Post Reply
View Profile History	Busy Singles Posted : 14 Jan, 2010 07:20 PM I keep myself busy because when I have free time I tend to think too much! If I was to find a guy to be in a relationship with, I would def. be able to fit him in but I wouldn't give up any of things I am doing now. Post Reply