Author	Thread: Number one thing (or two) that we young people need to work on.....
Admin	Number one thing (or two) that we young people need to work on..... Posted : 18 Jun, 2012 04:07 PM So I thought of an interesting question that applies to this day and age. As young people, what do you all see that we or you/I need to work on in this day and age when looking for a woman/man? I know personally I struggle with letting God work in my life and being patient that he will lead that special someone into my life. I think alot of times we get wrapped up in culture and how culture says we should date, instead of dwelling in prayer and the bible and following the bible's teachings of relationships.... Thoughts? Post Reply
shineme27 View Profile History	Number one thing (or two) that we young people need to work on..... Posted : 18 Jun, 2012 09:25 PM about culture : in my age now, all my friends and family said : 1. 'why have you not have a bf ?' 2.when will u get marry? 3. Be careful, you are 27 now (will be 28)! :) yeah, I live in Asian country that still influence by east culture. For them, the age to get marry for a woman should be 20-25. If you have age more than the range, it means you are 'special' lol for me, to work or to have carrier should be start soon is better and it will best if you have know what you want to be since you still a kiddo :) to start looking for the right spouse, it depends to everyone. For me, I am looking in my age now lol But I agree, if we have to ask God and have personal relationship with Him so we could know what is best for us. Post Reply
View Profile History	Number one thing (or two) that we young people need to work on..... Posted : 19 Jun, 2012 02:44 PM I agree with you. I know here in the U.S. everyones the same way with marriage, it seems like people want to rush into it. Alot of my friends are getting married, and, I admit, it kind of puts pressure on me. I know it shouldn't, and I've been working on getting over that. You see so many people getting married though and having great relationships and you think, "I want that", "why cant I find anyone like that". So yeah Post Reply
View Profile History	Number one thing (or two) that we young people need to work on..... Posted : 20 Jun, 2012 08:05 PM Good for you guys! That pressure is hard to deal with, and I don't feel the half of it. When I was at uni, I started to see much demand among Christians for a spouse (it's what you expect in a culture as sexualised as the west's). Looking for (and finding!) someone seems plain enough; my issue has been in being ready for having a wife. You know; will I be able to meet her needs in encouraging her in her faith? What about her needs for intimacy? Financial support (especially if kids come into the picture)? Or living with her sinfulness indefinitely, just as I must now with mine? Or any of a host of other things! My big problem, I think, has been that whether I would have let go enough for God bugged me - as if I wouldn't have been sure he'll always be "working for the good of those who love him". Thanks for your posts - I've only just realised this. Now to pray and work on it :D. Post Reply
Athena28 View Profile History	Number one thing (or two) that we young people need to work on..... Posted : 8 Jul, 2012 03:31 PM What have I needed to work on? In the past, even as a Christian, I have viewed men and relationships unto self instead of unto the Lord. Because of this I have suffered the natural consequences of allowing my sinful nature to define what I found attractive. Instead of being attracted to Christ's likeness in men, my sinful nature was attracted to the sinful natures of men. "Flesh gives birth to flesh, but the Spirit gives birth to spirit" (John 3:6). Our flesh will be attracted to the flesh of others, while God's Spirit within us will be attracted to HIS Spirit in others. The difference in these two is the difference between life and death and we must learn to know the difference by the grace of God. It is VERY easy to view someone's appearance, profession or social standing while failing completely to consider whether God has prepared them or not to "serve" in the office of marriage, motherhood or fatherhood. Post Reply
fluorescent View Profile History	Number one thing (or two) that we young people need to work on..... Posted : 13 Jul, 2012 08:55 PM Young people need to remember that life is short - even though its the longest thing you'll ever do. It is in the enemy's interest to trick people in to a false sense of security. People tells themselves they'll get their affairs in order later. Have your affairs in order tonight not tomorrow - because death doesn't discriminate. Even if ur still here in the morning, maybe the person you offended won't be. My aunt had cancer and the doctor said she had around three months. She died the next day. I thought I'd have time to call her before she died, but I didn't. Granted she was too weak to speak before she died - but the call was a symbol or affection and concern. She lived in switzerland so it made calling during the right time harder. Post Reply
Gourd00 View Profile History	Number one thing (or two) that we young people need to work on..... Posted : 15 Jul, 2012 04:41 PM Try to find yourself before finding a mate? I mean, if you don't know what direction you are going in life, how can you expect to know if a spouse will be able to go in that direction as well? If you don't know who you are and what you want to be, how can you find a spouse to fit that mold? Not to mention if you find yourself later after marrying a bland spouse who also has basically no specific interests or direction in life, when one of you does find direction, it might put a large strain on the relationship. Any two people can choose to love each other if they really put their minds to it, but having a spouse that is going the same direction as you and fits you makes loving a lot easier and more fun. Post Reply
View Profile History	Number one thing (or two) that we young people need to work on..... Posted : 25 Jul, 2012 10:48 PM Very well said sista!! Post Reply
View Profile History	Number one thing (or two) that we young people need to work on..... Posted : 25 Jul, 2012 10:50 PM Amen Athena28 Very well said!! Post Reply
Kirandio View Profile History	Number one thing (or two) that we young people need to work on..... Posted : 26 Jul, 2012 08:59 PM Well, these are some things I learned in the last 3 years...hopefully other people will find them useful. When I first signed up to this web site, I did not really have a firm position on things like free-will vs predestination. After finding myself moving away from a free-will position to a predestination position, I found myself realizing how important a decision like that is when desiring to seek a spouse. Even more important than a position on a debatable subject, I really believe that being fully aware of the importance that respect and kindness play out in communicating with someone. So, what I have come to realize more is how important it is to put God first. God needs to be the center of my life. Everything that I am wanting to do should be centered around expanding His kingdom, and what that means is that we would see more people bow the knee to Christ. It also helps to be able to identify weaknesses and what a person wants to do to overcome them. One thing that I see in myself as a glaring weakness is how I currently do not have an official Associates Degree, much less a Bachelor's Degree. I was 5 classes away from my Associate's Degree, but due to financial constraints I had to move back to Houston. It helps to know what a person enjoys in their career. I want to get into Information Technology doing a variety of things like fixing computers and setting up networks. I have enjoyed using computers since I was 4 years old. I would like to find a way to serve my local church with my computer skills. For me my main goal for the last 3 years is consistency. Post Reply
View Profile History	Number one thing (or two) that we young people need to work on..... Posted : 29 Jul, 2012 09:09 PM ^ that, Kirandio. The difficulty doesn't get bigger or more incessant than in recognising & accepting God at the centre of reality. Thanks for your reminder. Post Reply