Author	Thread: Are we too picky?
Admin	Are we too picky? Posted : 19 Apr, 2012 03:00 PM I am wondering if many of us are too picky when finding a soul-mate. I feel we become too consumed with the outer or we are hyper spiritually. Some things that are important is age, distance, and call. There are more of course. I know I have a hard time on these sights, and I am always seeking what the Lord wants, but my limitations can be intimidating to most women. See profile. God bless, J G. Post Reply
View Profile History	Are we too picky? Posted : 20 Apr, 2012 04:09 AM Yes. I agree with you. Laying out specific requirements as far as minute doctrine (especially at the expense of location) isn't helpful and doesn't recognize the way real relationships are formed (I've never been involved in either a romantic OR platonic relationship with someone because of their detailed religious beliefs, but because we were compatible socially or had something else in common). So you're definitely right. Keep up the good work on your M. Div! Hang in there! Post Reply
View Profile History	Are we too picky? Posted : 22 Apr, 2012 12:31 AM Yes we are. We live in a world surrounded by perfection. People think they have to look a certain way, drive the fanciest car, have the perfect house, have the best of everything. I believe that seeking 'perfection' is a waste of time. For example, most women are looking for guy who is rich, handsome, smart and has a warm and caring personality (sometimes in that order). They won't realize their soul-mate might be the guy flipping burgers at the local McDonald's, or the guy with the terribly disfigured face...etc. Post Reply
View Profile History	Are we too picky? Posted : 23 Apr, 2012 10:38 AM I agree with both of you. I know I am not perfect, and I know I am not a easy guy to look at or what not. I feel we have to look at the heart and the call. I understand the call when searching for a mate, which I feel we neglect as a whole. I just added that as a thought if anyone would tell me if that is important to them. I never like it when a woman tells me we are not compatible online, after getting to know the person I understand, because you become aware of who that person is. Sometimes we become too hung up on looks, as well as ourselves. we never ask the question, "How could I be a helper to this person?" I have to ask myself that question as well. How many of us ask that question? I feel that most don't because we are consumed with our own selfishness. Post Reply
View Profile History	Are we too picky? Posted : 23 Apr, 2012 02:40 PM You're not a bad looking guy, why think you are? In any case, ten years from now you'll look different again... Post Reply
View Profile History	Are we too picky? Posted : 24 Apr, 2012 09:16 AM I don't have a good idea if others are too picky. But I personally feel there's no fault in setting your own limits and standards which of course should be realistic keeping in mind the fact of who you are. Post Reply
Lizgitungo View Profile History	Are we too picky? Posted : 28 Apr, 2012 03:57 AM most of us are picky, but i believe that if we pray for the right partner then God gives us the grace to withstand each others shortcomings. Post Reply
View Profile History	Are we too picky? Posted : 28 Apr, 2012 07:24 AM I don't see this as being an issue with just one clear cut correct answer. Could it be that we see people being picky, but someone else may see differently? Maybe what we perceive as picky is not picky at all. Could it be that the spiritual condition of "Christians" today is not real Christianity. There are many that claim to know and follow Christ, but their deeds, actions, and words do not reflect that. If a true Christian is seeing this behavior, then he or she may be perceived as picky, but he or she knows that other person is not a true Christian (and not growing in the faith) Post Reply
View Profile History	Are we too picky? Posted : 28 Apr, 2012 09:17 PM I couldn't agree with you more! Many people on here see more than they can think... Fine, getting someone cute is an "added advantage" am i right? Looks get you the guy or lady but character is what keeps them .you know what focusing on the outside means? You might miss out on the person who would have blessed your life with his or her incorruptible inner beauty!... This is for you who first posted on this forum page: why do you have so much low self esteem? i have read your posts before and they all point to the same thing( am sorry though if that is not the case). i would like you to know that you are handsome in your own way! and am sure that God has prepared someone somewhere for you. I hope you know that God's promises are sure-God is not man to lie or son of man to change his mind. Stop focusing on the problem but instead focus on God so that he can focus on 'that' problem! 1 John 5:14-15,Mark 9:23, Numbers 23:19, Psalms 37:4... :peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	Are we too picky? Posted : 1 May, 2012 12:05 PM Very well stated Shalomlia! Post Reply
View Profile History	Are we too picky? Posted : 2 May, 2012 10:36 AM I agree with having high standard. I also agree with having high character, rather than just looks. Sometimes we will look at someone and say he or she is not fit for me, cause_______, I wonder how we would respond with no pictures on our profiles, I place myself in that area as well. What do we picture when we read the profile? I believe we should look to character, but we are blinded by what we want based on society (TV, friends, etc), I believe we learn about a person's character by communicating, even if we are not attractive at first GLANCE. I am not going to lie I need a helper, in which we all do, I have not has much time on here, and when I write to say hi I get shunned. God bless. Post Reply