Author	Thread: Eating out
Admin	Eating out Posted : 31 Mar, 2012 11:44 AM I need to get something out in the open and thought this would be a good way to do it. My apologies in advance if any of what I am about to share offends you, but understand this is my experience and may be different from yours. So a while back someone asked if we as single people get anxious about eating out alone. My response was unconcerned because let's face it, single people get hungry too. Sometimes they like silence and want to eat out. Nobody is disputing the notion that life is better in community. I don't have a problem with eating alone. Today I had something at church this morning, and went out to get something to eat close to home. I got in line, as usual and ordered my food from one of my favorite cashiers. Then I sat down. This guy and his family were sitting across from me. I actually heard him say that it was weird for someone to eat alone, while he looked in my direction. That made me so mad. He must have been born with a wife and kids in tow, because he would never had the dilemma of being hungry and single. How arrogant are we (in general) to say outloud every thought that pops into out heads. This is small, but hear me out people, we are passing judgment of others before we even know them! How would he know whether I was single or a widow? How is he to know my age to guess whether any kids are old enough not to live at home? How does he know that I was not meeting someone there? My worth and value come from God, not a person or spouse. I just wish that married people would remember that before they say stupid stuff like this, even if they thought nobody else heard them. Post Reply
View Profile History	Eating out Posted : 31 Mar, 2012 02:15 PM I personally don't like eating out by myself. That's why I usually invite my best friend or at least one of my nieces to come along with me Post Reply
View Profile History	Eating out Posted : 31 Mar, 2012 06:31 PM I think my point is this: what if nobody is available, then what should one do? Sit and home waiting, wishing and hoping for someone to be available? I think I would rather go and enjoy myself out. It should not matter to those around me whether or not I am by myself. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Eating out Posted : 31 Mar, 2012 08:57 PM It's sad that the man made that comment; single people have just as much right to eat out (and eat out by themselves) as anyone else. The guy I'm seeing right now told me that he eats out a lot by himself, and it doesn't bother him at all...he takes a book to read, or just watches the people come and go. Sure, he'd rather have someone to talk to, but being alone does not stop him from enjoying his favorite restaurants. Personally, I don't particularly enjoy eating out by myself, so if I can't find someone to go with me, I generally get take-out. I'd rather eat at home or in my office if the alternative is eating alone in a restaurant. Tonight, I needed to get supper on the way to a big performance I'm in. I had time to go in and eat, but rather than eat by myself, I got it to-go and ate in the theater while I waited for everyone else to get there...and I wasn't the only one who showed up with food! Several of us all sat around and ate our supper together. Post Reply
View Profile History	Eating out Posted : 1 Apr, 2012 11:04 AM Wow, I'm sorry that happened. I don't know why, but it happens and you gotta try not to let it get to you. The other day I over heard somebody in a store making fun of the way I walked and it really threw me for a loop long after it was over, but all you can do is try to not let it get to you. Post Reply
View Profile History	Eating out Posted : 1 Apr, 2012 05:29 PM Thanks. This doesn't usually get to me, but for some reason, it did that time. Post Reply
View Profile History	Eating out Posted : 2 Apr, 2012 03:13 AM I don't mind eating alone in a restaurant... if the table is not too big! lol Post Reply
View Profile History	Eating out Posted : 2 Apr, 2012 01:08 PM @op: Full marks for not confronting him! What business of his is it who you eat with!? Grrrr, makes me mad... Don't let the devil steal your peace - no matter who he uses to attempt it - you *know* your worth to God and it's not affected by a jerk in a diner! Post Reply
View Profile History	Eating out Posted : 4 Apr, 2012 05:53 AM Obviously it's too late now, but after the fact and not in the situation I wonder what would have happened if you had smiled and said something politely like, "I enjoy eating alone." Because I think this is something that people like/don't like regardless of relationship status. I enjoy going out to eat alone and with people. I don't mind going out to eat alone and I like to read while I eat. I did it when I was dating someone and I do it now that I'm single. It isn't about my relationship status necessarily as much as my personality. I know people who couldn't stand to eat alone and other people who enjoy it. For people who don't enjoy it, it might be hard to understand how a person eating alone could be comfortable and enjoying themselves and not be lonely. Post Reply
bookwatcher View Profile History	Eating out Posted : 9 Apr, 2012 02:54 AM i think eating out at restruants are fine. half the time i have to do it because my sisters husband doesnt like watching the kids and gets jealous when i take my sister places so now and then i do a quiet lunch and do some people watching. tho the best plus is no one sits right behind me. Whenever me and my sis go out to eat someone always sits right next to us even if the entire restruant is empty... lol tho it can be funny to talk about totally disgusting medical things when that happens and listen to how silent they get... chuckle.... ah. my evil side is showing. Post Reply
View Profile History	Eating out Posted : 9 Apr, 2012 05:06 AM Thanks for the support guys and gals. Post Reply

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